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June 2023 Moms
peyts228
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Weekly Check-in 3/20
peyts228
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Poll: Are you interested in moving to a private group at this stage?
Re: Weekly Check-in 3/20
Let's do it. Is a private Facebook group just the gold standard for these things? With DS1, we did Facebook and had a group of three people who volunteered to be admins and opened the group. However, one of them came up with this very odd (to me) idea that you had to have three people (either admins or other members already admitted to the group) willing to vouche for you for you to get in? Since the group is much more personal, I understand not just allowing anybody who stumbles upon it and clicks join to actually get in, but I don't know if I feel like that was really the right way to go about it. Knowing the person who came up with it especially, it had popularity contest vibes.
June 13 27+6
Stm
Boy
Yesterday it said baby is as tall as a ninja xl air fryer 😂
Tomorrow a vbac consult
Okay. Out of breath. I feel like I just can't breathe very well right now and walking up a flight of stairs makes my heart race. I can't get too comfy at night and getting dressed is a work out
If we do I'll need to make a fake Facebook. But I will say I'm less comfortable posting to this group at this point. I haven't really been interacting anymore since recent events. And it makes me sad.. but I can't post in an uncomfortable environment
@peyts228 thank you for this poll, I remembered a while back most people here had said they had no Facebook so I didn't want to bring it up and seem pushy and it feels so icky to be cyber bullied into leaving this space because we're all being doxxed but oof I'm not comfortable here either anymore. I want to switch asap if others are open to it.
@thescarletmom in my last BMB I think we did all our voting for members on here, we had a thread about who wanted to move and then we all liked each other's comments of the members we all knew and had interacted with for months. If someone joined and then never interacted at all we didn't let them into the private group as well as late joiners who would leave some comments but generally never follow our bump rules and didn't seem to really want to be a part of the community. That said as long as we don't let lurkers in so we're all comfortable in the new space I don't know if there's only one right way to go about it.
Oh and eta our group was invitation only which I do like and seems safest, otherwise we're constantly going to have weirdos request to join.
Yes! Also feeling the discomfort of being 'here' but definitely wanting to continue connecting and staying in touch with everyone who's here to do the same -- I'm someone who doesn't really use Facebook aside from messenger but I do have an account and would be happy for us to have a private group over there that I would use
@kalesix3 I like that so much better because it's open! With the other way it was three people in a "closed room" deciding who got to be let in and that didn't mesh well for me. The most important thing is definitely comfort so whatever everyone thinks feels right sounds good to me! If someone wants to put together a thread for move comments, I'm okay with moving ASAP.
@potato3000 this is definitely not really happening in my head too! Inching closer and closer to baby month with a huge belly and it still isn't real. We are *mostly* ready, took some huge prep steps this past weekend with getting the boys room set up, but still need a few basics like carseat and some more diapers. And need to do some cleaning and purging around the house. But that's it, I think!
Yep! My last BMB transitioned to a private Bump group first, then moved to Facebook late in the third tri. It gave everyone an extra layer of comfort to have a private place to post and solidify trust before going to Facebook with real names. Not sure if folks might like that method, given recent concerns.
We ended the west coast part of our journey. Our property has improved so much int the 7 years we have owned it. Now off to our east coast property to do some spring break/ baby moon time and of course some improvements to the property.
Our anniversary is this week. We share it with my Grandparents and plan to surprise them the day of for a double date. This weekend we will have a sitter for a nice hotel night alone and no worries. I absolutely cannot wait.
Nearly every project is done. We have 1 plumbing project to tackle and then some intense gardening and we are smooth to sail through fall.
I am starting my freezer meal list and the ingredients needed. We will be picking up our pig, cow, and chicken from the butcher on our way back through. I'm so excited to have the freezers restocked for another year. When we get back from the east coast we are incubating some eggs. My coop has been fixed and is ready to roll! It's all meshing and perfectly timed.
Poll: I think if you're uncomfortable posting on a public forum then you shouldn't have been at all. Get your group together so you can be comfortable. No poll necessary, I mean if you all really had meshed, wouldn't you have made contact outside of a public forum by now? Please look into doxing. @kalesix3 once again is misusing a term making it weild less weight. Doxing is giving out personal data of a stranger online. Data as in address, phone number, full name, place of work. Etc.
No one is a victim of doxing here and no one has been doxed. Any info said on yourself was posted on your own. Making doxed be far from what has happened here. I'd call it attention seeking or the ability to connect, maybe. The victimhood mentality of the times will not do any well. I'd also look up the definition of cyber bully. Some might say you all are being cyber bullies the way you have interacted with multiple accounts on here. Another intriguing dynamic I've noticed. Once again playing a victim.
All part of what I'm trying to figure out in the disconnect of humanity these days. I bet your OBs and Midwives have many a pregnant woman in their care now, why do we feel the need to hide behind screens to connect? Couldn't we do it with groups in our areas and not on a public forum where we have to take polls and do likes and votes to go private? Even then 1 of you is probably an old man doing vile things listening to these self doxing comments. It's a riot really. When you step back and look at the disconnect that the internet has done to society.
Find a community near you and jump in. It makes much more of a difference doing it that way than with strangers online. I have 5 really good friends I met just through my OB during visits. Our kids love eachother as they're the same ages and we have a connection as we labored so close together multiple times. We just made a ton of freezer meals for 1 mama who is delivering this month. It's the real connections not the parasocial interactions that mean the most. Best of luck to you ladies. Here's to hoping you all go private or better yet, brave and branch out to reality.
I see both sides of the recent kerfuffle as a PhD trained researcher myself who did similar public forum research for my own PhD (on a different topic). The researcher here wasn’t under any obligation to inform people she was here because it’s a public forum AND I can understand how people can forget how public these spaces really are. A Facebook group with vetting is a way to go, but I’ll do whatever.
In my groups on Facebook we have a more liberal definition of doxxing apparently but most of it probably falls under the category of cyber bullying. Reminding people of how much private information you know about them is bullying plain and simple.
I have a community. I'm not familiar with this kind of community. I have researched the last year plus on this kind of community. It perplexes me. I don't have any social media. To me it's as fake as this forum. To some maybe it is real. Instead of being on these spaces, generally I'm doing something productive in a real life sense.
Nothing fishy to question a whole different world than what you have seen to be healthy.
At my family gatherings we don't have an uncle no one likes. We are all connected people with different views ans genuine respect for one another. It's super healthy. I'm sorry you have that in your family.
Misusing words because a group says this is how this word should be used is wrong too. Words have definitions and changing those definitions is not a healthy way to communicate fluently.
I'd also like to point out, the man comment was obviously a remark to the fact that many strange people of all walks are ALWAYS creeping on the internet. Many a person has pretended to be someone they aren't on the internet. Also many a person is lurking and listening to everything you dox about yourself. I'm simply a PSA. Haha
@monkey_mcfee thank you. I appreciate an unbiased opinion. I am genuinely a very curious person when it comes to most everything. I meant no harm in any of this. I feel bad others are so offended, but it's further proving my research to be strong. The internet is WILD!
Sure. I haven’t been on in a few weeks and I clearly missed something. I have an IRL community, none of my friends are pregnant now though, they have older kids. Once the baby is born I’ll go back to my baby hiking group to meet other moms with babies in my area. I have still liked having an online community for people who can relate to things at times where IRL people aren’t around, like the newborn MOTN feedings. Or for connecting with people dealing with the same situations that can be difficult to find IRL.
I will be totally transparent that I wouldn't have the bandwidth right now to take charge of the move. Just wanted to throw the question into the weekly check-in since most of us participate on the thread. I'll be happy to follow the lead of whomever wants to facilitate the actual move!
baby #5
boy
baby’s foot is about an inch wide
I feel good most of the time.
yes, I think I would be more active on Facebook, I have to remind myself to come on here.