September 2023 Moms
runningyogimama
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This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). Thread will have discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc.
PGAL check in w/o 3/6
runningyogimama
member
Do you all still want weekly PGAL check ins? Want to switch to monthly after we get to the second trimester? I don’t want them to be redundant, but know for me, it’s a bit easier to share updates with those who “get” PGAL vs the normal weekly thread, so understand if anyone else wants to keep doing that. Let me know your thoughts!
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Weeks/EDD?
How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically?
Any appointment updates?
Any big milestones?
Rants/Raves/Questions?
Re: PGAL check in w/o 3/6
@runningyogimama I don't mind either way. But it's true that I find it easier to share my feelings about my pregnancy in the PGAL thread. Some info is the same as the weekly update, but I don't really mind that
For anyone with older kids, how did you announce to your kids after having a previous loss? I’m anxious to tell at least our kids and our parents now, we just need to figure out when/how the conversation with our kids will go. Telling them their sister was dying was one of the worst things ever.
@runningyogimama my 6 year old understands that i'm pregnant with a baby. I literally told her that sometimes babies get sick/ die. I don't remember how I worded it. She seemed really stressed by that fact initially (6 year olds just don't talk about death a lot). She got over it pretty quickly. But it something would happen I would just remind her what we talked about, so I wouldn't have to explain it at a harder time.
My kids all definitely understood losing their sister (they are 9, 8, and now 4 was 3 at the time). We said the same, sometimes babies are too sick for doctors to fix and they die. My 4 year old still says that often and talks about her often (we talk about missing her openly a lot). My worry isn’t them not understanding, but that they would possible be worried about another baby dying, and I don’t want any of them to have that worry. 😕 And maybe they won’t, but I have a feeling at least my 4 year old will.
i am happy with a blanket month long thread or weekly!
Sadly NIPT isn't covered by insurance here and it cost over 600$. So where I live, it's not considered the go to when you don't have any high risk factors. But, if you get a result from medium to high risk with the first screening, the NIPT is free to confirm the result. So at least, that's that.
10w6d Due 9/27
Tomorrow is my 11 week ultrasound. During my last pregnancy, I found out at my 11 week scan that I had miscarried at around 9 weeks.
If the appointment goes well, then tomorrow will be the longest I’ve ever been pregnant.
Physically, I’m okay.
@runningyogimama our three year old was very aware of our last pregnancy and so we had to talk about how baby wasn’t with us anymore and we were going to wait to tell her this time but when I threw up the first time she caught on right away. But it is hard bc I worry about what she’ll go through if we lose this baby too. Also I really appreciate this thread. There aren’t many people in my life who understand and you all have been a blessing.
just feeling like everyone I’m close to is so moved on and not aware of how hard this has been. Trying to have empathy that they don’t want to hear the hard, or my sad… i couldn’t even celebrate my birthday or think about this week bc of all the milestones and felt so lonely in that. Grateful for my husband but wish the people who say they care for me would also want to be part of the hard moments with me, not just the easy ones. Also tired of feeling weepy.
@anniemarie887 I just said to my husband that I’ve already at this point had as many ultrasounds as two of my pregnancies, and more than the other two! That’s great you’ve passed all of your milestones.