Okay so I'm venting here... why is it when you're pregnant people feel inclined to give you all of their unwanted opinions about how you and your partner should do things?! My husband and I will be first time parents... I've been around children and babies my entire life. Will we be perfect and have all the answers? No. But will we learn and do our best just like every parent before us? Absolutely. It's really sickening. Even before I was pregnant I would've never dreamed of telling someone how to do things. What makes people feel so self absorbed and entitled?! And all this pressure to hurry up and pick a name and share it. Yeah that's not happening. We already agreed we wouldn't reveal our son's name until he's born because everyone has an opinion and will try to talk us out of what we decide beforehand if it's shared and we're not even going there. Plus, I personally cannot pick a name for him without seeing his face and personality. I feel strongly that after he's born we'll know... and that's our right and our choice as parents. GRRRR.... these people 😜
Re: Unwanted opinions
Another in-law has asked me already if I plan on getting back to my pre-pregnancy size -- I'm only 21 weeks pregnant, and still wearing most of my regular clothes. Like... What the heck. I was so taken aback that I just said "I'm not thinking about that, Im not setting any goals where I might disappoint myself." I felt too ashamed to even say that I don't care about returning to that size, I just want to be strong and healthy with baby. I SHOULD have responded "that's a frickin weird thing to ask."
I find it helps to find ways to banter when people make suggestions and laugh it off with my husband when I can. I try to give people the benefit of the doubt, and hope they're sharing out of excitement and enthusiasm, but it can be so hard.
I wish they could respect our decision not to come and be excited to meet him later. Living across the country I didn’t meet my second niece until she was 9 months old.