hi all. my 5 month old is not a great napper. she fights sleep and sleeps very lightly. we put so much effort into getting her to nap. (thankfully she sleeps great at night though!) she still will only nap if I'm holding her.if I try setting her down she often wakes right up. occasionally she will stay sleeping but rarely for more than 20 mins. I'm typically so desperate for her to get sleep that I just end up letting her sleep on me. I'm at a point where I need that time and independence of my own. she does consistently sleep great in the car but there's only so much driving around i can do. she will sometimes sleep in the stroller travel system or swing too but these are inconsistent.
sidenote- we had a really traumatic birth and were separated at birth. she was transferred to the regional health center nicu and I was recovering at the local hospital from a cesarean. she underwent a hyperthermic procedure and it wasn't until that wrapped up, about 5 days later, that we were able to be together in the same hospital room. I've worked hard to ensure our bond is strong by breastfeeding, bedsharing and staying home with her. I'm needing to go back to work soon though. I'm happy to say that we are close and she is perfectly healthy, seems well adjusted and is meeting all her milestones on time.
I'm sure our attachment style has perpetuated the issue but was non negotiable so that we could heal from our birth experience, so here we are. has anybody else dealt with this and have any tips or insight as to when it may shift? thank you for reading this!
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