Egg Reserve

weel

Hi, first time posting on this thread.........

So end of May I suffered a miscarriage, fast forward 5 months and NOTHING I know it takes time after a MC to allow your body to rest but as per my Flo app my ovulation window opened today and I done a test which has came back negative! I am now slightly panicking/obsessing that I've had my chance and it's now gone, I am 39 and been with my fiancé 2yrs we both have children from previous and my last pregnancy was 12yrs ago. 

I am now thinking if I should try get a test/scan to see how my egg reserve is looking? I just feel am going to be so disheartened doing these ovulation tests every day to keep seeing a negative reading, am thinking doing it this way I will know for certain if I have lost my chance of another child or not 

00kim00

Generally the recommendation at your age is to get fertility testing if you've been trying unsuccessfully for 6 months or more. While some people feel better just having the knowledge, be prepared that if you go to a fertility doctor (reproductive endocrinologist) they will recommend treatment even if your tests come back fabulous. You will leave with a diagnosis, whether it be unexplained infertility or something more specific, and both the testing and treatments are expensive and often not covered by insurance ($2000-5000 out of pocket just for testing is not unusual). If you go through your gyn, know he/she isn't an expert, likely won't order all the tests the RE would, and may take a wait and see approach or recommend treatments that are not current best practices or may not have as much information to provide you with comprehensive information about your options so you can make educated decisions. I've known several women who wasted so much time going through their gyns, tried treatments very unlikely to work for them, and weren't fully aware of the risks. That said, an RE may feel like a car salesman trying to get your money. 

Most likely, you will not know for certain one way or another if you would be able to have another child. They may be able to tell you where a problem lies and give specific treatment, or they may offer treatment even if they don't know what's going on. Since you were able to conceive 5 months ago and you do have a living child, I think it's unlikely you'll be told there's no chance of conceiving again, but you will feel some urgency from an RE to pursue treatment sooner rather than later. 

So if you're thinking about testing, ask yourself: am I ready emotionally and financially to go through the testing? Will my partner do his part of the testing (typically a semen sample and blood tests)? What do I hope to gain from the testing and is it worth it? Do I just want to know more about what may be going on (keeping in mind that it may be unexplained) but not interested in treatment? Would I want to pursue treatment (IUI, IVF, medicated cycles with TI)?