all my friends left when i got pregnant

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Hi Everyone. I'm not much of a public poster, or do this type of thing, but I'm feeling increasingly alone and abandoned. I feel dumb looking for sympathy online, I just don't know what else to do.
I just got confirmation on my pregnancy and I'm about 10 weeks. I'm happy and excited, and of course scared as this is my first. When I began telling my friends about my news, almost every single person changed how they interacted with me immediately. Like somehow this news means that I'm not the same person or don't have to same interests or topics of conversation. I'm extremely aware of making sure not to only talk about my pregnancy because I know this can be a difficult topic for some people. So I've made a conscious effort to remain "me" in order for them to feel more at ease, because i know I'll need emotional support moving forward. Hoping that remaining positive and "normal" will keep them close and wanting to help. This isn't what has happened at all...
I feel abandoned in my time of need. I feel invalidated in being happy for myself. Like somehow, I'm less worthy of love and attention because i have this baby now. I've always been the friend to ask, "hey how's your mom" and, "did you make sure to drink water today?". It feels like all my effort, love and attention has been forgotten and taken for granted. I've always tried to be the person that they can turn to for a shoulder to cry on or an ear to listen. Now it feels like I don't deserve any of the same. This is the time i need these people the most. I'm scared. I don't know what I'm doing and I feel more alone than i ever have in my whole life. Why would someone walk away from a pregnant woman looking for a friend? How is that ok? I'm not asking for financial help, or a babysitter, or even someone to go to the doctor with me. All i want is to feel like someone, almost anyone, cared that I'm going through the hardest thing I've ever been through. I knew that it might be weird for them, but I NEVER expected to be dropped like a bad habit like this. I'm heartbroken.

dobiemom11

I am sorry to hear that happened to you!  Your friends may not know how to respond to this news and it might take a while to wrap their heads around it.  I know many of my relationships changed after having my son.  I ended up with much stronger relationships with my friends who already had children or were pregnant at the same time I was.  I am not sure if that is an option for you, but something to consider.  

I would also recommend joining your Birth Month Bump.  Those women are also pregnant with a similar due date.  They would be great to talk about all the nitty-gritty details about being pregnant (if you feel comfortable).  The joys of first kicks and the pain of getting up all night long to go pee, etc.  I am still friends with many of the women in my group many years later.  

Congrats on your pregnancy!  

meggyme

Have you brought this up with any of your closer friends? Maybe they feel that the activities you used to do together may not be enjoyable for you. Whatever the reason you’ll never know unless you ask. Some friendships may falter, but hopefully the ones that matter can be adjusted so that you feel supported the way that you want/need.

lovemomo

All friends i was pregnant gone now