Managing relationships with multiple sets of grandparents

marietdennis

I could use some advice. We are struggling with navigating our relationships with my mom and my dad and stepmom. They want to see our son, who is 2 now, as much as possible, but we both work and are busy, plus have friends and other family we like to spend time with. My sister and I are very close, and I spend a lot of time with her, but she is estranged from my parents, so we never see them all together. My big issue now is hurting feelings. We are taking a trip to DW in February with my sister and her husband (doing some things together, some apart, communication is open and clear with us), but my parents feel left out and are making me feel guilty. Neither of them are in a position to go with us right now for various reasons, and I do not want them to anyway. We want to have a relaxing family vacation and things tend to be stressful when we are with my parents. Any thoughts? Am I being selfish? I feel terrible but I don't want to refrain from taking our son on vacations because it will hurt my parents.