UO Thursday 9/8

hestia-is-wearie

What are your unpopular opinions this week? 

catem07

I’ll go. Having been around two BMBs, I think too much board organization restricts the community. Not saying it should be the wild Wild West, but I'm not against all one-offs. In my first BMB, people shut down a quad mom (!) who tried to make her own post and she left the board. 

hestia-is-wearie

@catem07 I agree with you to an extent. Coming from TTGP where one-offs are strictly forbidden, BMBs are a different atmosphere (this is my second one). Plus, I'm an Ennegram Type 1 Virgo, so I'm a notorious rule-follower
I'm glad people are posting on the thread that asked about HCG levels. I've never been in that boat myself, so I would have never considered that as a popular discussion topic. I think for open-ended questions where multiple people could relate (moms of multiples, being engaged and pregnant, HCG levels), we can refrain from redirecting those. 
What does everyone else think?

ashleyp625

The one offs don’t really bother me. If it doesn’t apply, I just don’t answer. What DOES bother me is the “unread”, so I just click on it and move on, but that’s my own issue LOL 

catem07

@hestia-is-wearie Agree! I think you're also more likely to get drive-bys who never engage with the community on TTGP. I think the way the OP for the engaged one posed the question is fine--she wanted to know if other people were in the same boat, she wasn't presenting the question as if she was a special snowflake who deserved her own thread, you know? 

radioactivet

@catem07 Yes! I agree with this. I'll be honest... I read all the rules and a couple of threads on a TTC forum right when I started trying. It felt unwelcoming ("Some women have been here for years, so know your place " kind of vibe.) I was turned off from even attempting to engage. 

@hestia-is-wearie I also identify as a rule follower. 😆 I have seen people list their enneagram type.. I need to look into this to find out what type I am. Haha

radioactivet

@cait32 Completely, 100% understandable. I definitely did not stick around TTGP boards long enough to appreciate the structure. I like organization and grouping like things. It it can be so hard to feel like you're building relationships from scratch, or even know where to start when there are 1 million topics and little response, as you described. 

swmama27

@catem07 hey! Can you guys share where the abbreviations page is again? I googled but can’t find what BMB and TTGP means 😕 

abjm0325

@swmama27 Go to the "Read this First" thread! There is a bunch of helpful info including a link to the abbreviations page. But for now, BMB is birth month board and TTGP is trying to get pregnant.

swmama27

@abjm0325 okay thank you! I double checked there but didn’t see it. Appreciate it!