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Weekly check-ins August 29
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EDD / Weeks + Days:
Baby is the size of a(n):
Team blue/pink/green:
Upcoming Appointments:
How are you feeling?:
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Questions:
GTKY: What would your younger self be most surprised to learn about your "grown up" self?
Re: Weekly check-ins August 29
EDD / Weeks + Days: Feb 4/ 17+2
Baby is the size of a(n): pomegranate
Team blue/pink/green: blue
Upcoming Appointments: next Wednesday! It’s our anatomy scan and I’m so excited.
How are you feeling?: mostly good but tired. I think I overdid it this weekend because I had more energy so I just used it all up, and now I’m taking a half day to recuperate. Oops…
Rants/Raves: We got our new car after 7 weeks of waiting! And I love it, but the dealership pulled a bait-and-switch and wanted $10k over MSRP, which we weren’t told when we reserved it 7 weeks ago. We were never given an official quote, so no legal recourse, and we did get them down to $5k over, but it was so unacceptable and we couldn’t wait another 2 or more months for a different car from a different dealership so here we are.
Questions: Has anyone used nitrous for pain relief during labor? It’s not common here but is offered by our hospital, and I’m curious about people’s experiences with it. I’m starting to seriously consider the different pain control options and want to be able to start discussing them with my midwives group at the next appointment.
GTKY: What would your younger self be most surprised to learn about your "grown up" self? How early I “settled down” (in my early 30s 😂) and that I married my college boyfriend. She would not be surprised that I made him wait to get married until I was done with grad school, nor would she be surprised that we moved out of state for my career even though I make far less than he does and always will.
My younger self would be surprised that I am living in the southwest wayyyyyy longer than I had intended to. I came down here for a learning opportunity for a month and was suppose to return to the east coast. I’ve now been here for over 12 years. If it wasn’t for the fact that I met my husband down here and his job is here, I would have been long gone out of the state where I feel like a fish out of water. I have learned to make the best out of it. I still hope we will find a way to move out and settle in a location that would be a better fit in the future.
Being a mom of 6 and a homeschooling one at that would surprise me greatly but even more than that is having a different ethnicity than I grew up with (thought I had) and having a different biological dad. I know this would shock me greatly because I'm still dealing with the shock and trauma that comes from finding out you're donor conceived at 35 and it's been 5 years. If someone would tell the young me that I would be in this situation, I would most definitely be surprised. 😵💫 Life is full of surprises.
@fertile-turtle I have thought about nitrous oxide too. If we were having a hospital birth, I would definitely consider it because it works wonders for me at the dentist. Unfortunately my midwife doesn't offer it at home so I'm planning to go all natural again.
@ladykaty91 we are on the struggle bus with names but we have been trying. We’re team green so need both boy and girl names and this is our 3rd so it’s hard.
Probably that I’m a homeschooling, stay at home momma instead of being an educator in a traditional classroom.
@justkp I would be irritated too if my husband didn't want to think about names. He even named our firstborn first and middle name as soon as we found out the gender and I wanted to be irritated because of lack of control but I loved the name. He also named our 3rd and he's the one who came up with the first name for this one. I think if your man hears the right name, he'll know. I'm big on "right names". You'll both know when you hear/see it. Some of our names weren't even on our list of consideration. One was the name of a small town and my husband saw it on a sign. One was the oddest name from the Bible and now that we know his personality, it makes sense. One we weren't thrilled about but our oldest son insisted that's his name and he was right. One is the name of the grandma I never met and isn't actually related to me after all. 😆
@itsjess627 and @ttc3y thanks for the encouragement. I really do want to try to eliminate this stuff for now. It's been a lot easier for some of it. The whole "no almond" thing really makes me sad because almond is a substitute itself and I drink almond milk, eat almond butter, use almond flour,eat almonds, etc. With such a large family to feed, it's also hard to cater to a special diet. I'll have to check out this minimalist Baker.
fertile-turtle Omg I'm so relieved I'm not the only one (or that he's not the only one, rather!). It really bothered me more than I thought it would, because it kind of highlights the different stages we're at. It's definitely 'my baby' already. For him, it's his 'future baby'. And a baby needs a name, but some 'future baby' might not, you know? I agree entirely with you on the name/personality thing, too. Especially if they are fairly common names, like, you wouldn't be "he does not behave at all like an Oliver" or "he looks nothing like a William". Also the "lack of personality", obviously, but unfortunately we have nobody close by who are giving birth between now and february. So he might have forgotten what a newborn is like since his niece and nephew years ago. We will be legally obliged to name our baby before we have any clue "what they're like".
I wish we had the Baby Names app option! But I haven't been able to find one for Danish names, so it has limited use for us. But I would love if he could get all his joke-names out somewhere and not be sending them to me ;-) I like your stepwise approach! I think our best option is to make a list of our serious choices and compare and contrast. Or maybe get him to program something and go digital, he's not an IT developer for nothing. Ooooh! There's an idea!
With my first two labors I was team epidural, and they were amazing. However with my second, my labor progressed so quickly in the triage room that i didn't get the epidural until I was already 10cm, so I felt up a creek without a paddle in terms of managing the pain until then. This time around I'm still team epidural, but want to better prepare myself in the event of another quick labor, epidural shortage, you name it. I always thought the breathing exercises, positions, hypno birthing strategies were a little too far out there for me; can anyone attest to those strategies and practices actually working? On the one hand I apologize for the question because I'm sure that they do work, I know people can make a career out of these practices. But on the other hand having lived through unmedicated labor pain up through 10 cm - I personally am not sure any kind of breathing or positioning can help that! It was quite awful...
Also, @seeds_of_joy I also endorse the Minimalist Baker- I love her site and I’ve followed her for years. One of my other favorites is Cookie and Kate- check her out, too! Similar site ❤️
I've been feeling flutters for a few weeks on and off. Totally normal after a couple babies. Sometimes it is hard to tell if it's gas but there have been definite real flutters.
I really thought I would have more kids by now. I would be really impressed by my partner too 😍😍
EDD / Weeks + Days: February 8 / 17w + 1d
@ladykaty91, my husband and I have a long list of names that we like. We have a middle name picked out (family name). I have two favorites for the first name, but he hasn't picked his favorites yet. I have a feeling we'll have a few favorites to take to the hospital and will decide on one after the baby is born.
My husband and I are planning a babymoon in October to Vancouver Island, BC and I’m looking forward to a new adventure. Hawaii is such an amazing beautiful paradise. It will be a nice soothing reprieve and rest before third trimester starts for you!
I thought I’d be better off driving the 23 hours, but she said definitely not! Lol. Apparently, I’d have to pull over every 2-3 hours to avoid blood clots. That would be a long trip.