@jennifer_louise happy birthday to your mom! Are you guys doing anything special for her?
We took the kids to the pool yesterday, which was nice. They tired themselves out, but I got a sunburn I am super pale and burn easily, even with sunscreen so I try to not spend too much time in the sun. Guess I missed a couple of spots on my shoulder and weirdly on my forehead!
@sparklingdiamond She lives out of state so we'll be celebrating this weekend when she flies in for DS's 2nd bday 💕. BTW, my SIL told me that pregnant ladies are especially susceptible to sunburn, so you probably had a double whammy. hope it feels better fast!
@willrunforcookies oh wow! I hope you have a great day (sounds like it's off to an awesome start 😆). Any special plans?
@r_kenn99 and @jennifer_louise thank you!! Definitely an interesting start, and then my 3.5 yo only wanted to be referred to as marshmallow penguin 😂. No big plans, but went out for dinner to celebrate last night!
Anyone else done having children after this baby? I’ve come to realize I am really done. My family is complete and two children is more than enough for me. This pregnancy has been so hard and getting pregnant is so hard for me I just really can’t envision myself going through it again or having a third child to raise either. I am at peace with this. I have been absolutely blessed with my son and now to be carrying this little girl but to be honest I don’t ever want to be pregnant again lmao
now for some weird reason those around me are INSISTENT that I will eventually have a third, and that I should absolutely not do anything permanent (aka vasectomy for my husband) until my second child goes to school … and it’s really rubbing me the wrong way. No one other than my husband and I should be deciding and discussing whether or not we will be having more children. Idk I think it’s as rude as people asking “are you going to breastfeed, how long are you planning” like how does this concern you lol
@thankfullyamama people can be really inconsiderate. I don’t know what it is about pregnancy and children that make others feel so entitled to ask personal questions or say they know you better than you do. And vasectomies aren’t necessarily permanent anyway. Whatever you decide is between you and your partner, and others should respect that. They’re not the ones raising a third kid are they?
@thankfullyamama I couldn’t agree more. I told my husband the minute my mental health took a hit that there is NO WAY ON EARTH we will be having another baby. He says he’ll look into a vasectomy but I’m ready to get my tubes tied anyway. One baby is more than enough for our situation, and all the family members who insist I’ll want more can suck it.
@cc_clark, people can be incredibly inconsiderate and have an inflated view of their own opinions. Every mama should do what’s right and honest for herself. Period.
…totally not looking forward to having periods again after all this, but I would kill to have the boob pain and bloating last a week instead of nine months! 😂
@thankfullyamama Ugh I am sorry! People need to keep their opinions to themselves. This is our last baby for sure. I said that with the last one, but then we got a surprise. I never thought that would happen due to my history of infertility and loss. But we know our limits and if you are done you are done and people need to respect that!
@cc_clark exactly! My husband is totally on board with attempting a reversal if we REALLY wanted one like 5 years down the road too lmao but like how is it anyone else’s business!!
@jesofthenorth it’s good that you are so self aware already! And you can not predict how another pregnancy/ baby will be. Even if this one is an absolute angel and sleeps amazing unlike my first I’m just not willing to risk my sanity for another 😛 we were totally happy being one and done if our fertility treatments didn’t work out either and we got SO much flacks about how sad it is to be an only child it’s like well it’s better than having broke mentally I’ll parents from unrelenting fertility treatments lol
@sparklingdiamond there is a little bit of beauty in the finality of it too though no? Like I’m looking forward to closing this chapter … not keeping baby things just in case after this one is done with them!
@thankfullyamama Yes I totally get what you mean! It's always kind of a sad chapter to close just because of the nature of it....even if you feel ready it's kind of sad. But at the same time, it's like ok I'm done with this part, now I just get to watch them grow.
@thankfullyamama we are done after this time, and although we do have embryos we COULD use, I feel like 3 is enough. We really haven’t told anyone so no one has said anything to us (although I’m sure I’ll hear it)
I am excited to be able to enjoy the ‘last’ firsts too because I know they’re the last!
@thankfullyamama I’m so sorry that’s happening to you. If you feel like your family is complete then people need to mind their own business. Kids are really expensive and time consuming and you shouldn’t feel forced into having any more than you want. We are only having this baby as I’m older and this is all we want to have and it’s no one else’s business but the amount of times I’ve heard that only children are spoiled and won’t play well with others etc is awful.
I’ve also started getting peppered with all the questions about all the things like what products are we going to use to wash our baby, diaper our baby etc. to be honest I don’t have the mental capacity to do all the research or worry about the smallest details and it’s just making me more anxious and starting to feel a little depressed as it makes me feel like I’m already a bad mom.
Hoping for some space when I go on vacation for the next two weeks!
@anniez85 I know some people mean well, but you’re right, it’s so much to research and getting bombarded with questions really ramps up the anxiety and self doubt. I try to hold onto a gentle but firm “we have it handled” sort of line whenever I feel it’s needed.
@thankfullyamama. I totally feel this. This is definitely going to be our last child as well. Two just feels right for us. I have the option to have my tubes removed during my C-section and I’m taking it. I’ve had some people question that decision and argue I should wait before doing anything permanent but it’s really not their decision to make. Some people are just rude and can’t imagine others making decisions that are different from what they would do. Ignore them.
Wow I can't believe the types of comments some people make! (About family planning, and about breastfeeding in another thread). I feel like I would happily field those questions from a very close girlfriend but not neighbors or coworkers.
@beccaneu that's great you have the option! unfortunately my hospital will not let me do the tubal (if I had an RCS) unless I had a documented family history of ovarian cancer.
@thankfullyamama also done after this one! Sometimes one is a lot of children, so two will be plenty. I can't fathom people judging for not having more unless they're completely out of touch with reality, pregnancy and childbirth are hard, kiss take lots of time and effort, and then daycare through school activities then college costs are a few hundred k per kid!
Is anyone doing a maternity photo shoot!? I did one with my son and they turned out beautiful! I was in a red dress in a sunflower field and I booked one in November for this baby but I definitely do NOT feel radiant and pregnant this time lmao however I do want to capture this pregnancy as it’s my last but I’m not sure what an indoor maternity shoot would look like and I’m having a hard time getting inspiration (where I live it’s usually grey and dead outside and very cold in November haha)
@thankfullyamama we weren’t going to do it but a family friend who’s building her portfolio offered to take our photos free of charge! You should do it nonetheless. Get glammed up and bring out the radiant glow that’s hiding in there! Have you looked up” November maternity shoot” on Pinterest?? Lots of inspiration there. The warm colors and moody tones look so dreamy!
@r_kenn99 our fall is beautiful in northern Ontario but sadly all the leaves have fallen by the end of October and we usually have snow but not enough to stay and make things pretty white! November is by far the crappiest month where I live lmao
@thankfullyamama I scheduled one too but was having the same concerns about doing it in the middle of November. I don't live up North, so it won't be like crazy cold, but still colder than all the other times I had maternity pics done!
@thankfullyamama I’ve debated doing a shoot in northern New Hampshire, which is finicky when it comes to fall weather. The leaves may be beautiful but indoor options are always good in case of rain. What about a cool old library, or if you’re near a college campus, maybe an interesting building that has a lot of character? There’s a great art museum about an hour from us that has a beautiful atrium—that sort of thing may end up being a better option than posing outside in freezing temps. No one feels cute when the cold air turns noses into faucets! 🙃
@jesofthenorth I’m like way northern Ontario in a very small city 🤣 so we don’t have such cool buildings and the one venue that people do use for weddings charges like $500 for you to use it for photos!
I decided I may just end up doing early maternity pics and taking them in a sunflower field like I did with my son haha then I don’t have to stress over weather
@thankfullyamama I was fine with one and done but happy My daughter gets a sibling - a brother! This is our last for sure for personal reasons. Not sure what birth control to use if he doesn't get a V.
Re: Randoms W/O 8/29
We took the kids to the pool yesterday, which was nice. They tired themselves out, but I got a sunburn
My cat already walked through my cereal (then got mad about it) and I've been coated in hello kitty stickers, so it's a fun wfh Monday so far.
@willrunforcookies oh wow!
I hope you have a great day (sounds like it's off to an awesome start 😆). Any special plans?
Definitely an interesting start, and then my 3.5 yo only wanted to be referred to as marshmallow penguin 😂. No big plans, but went out for dinner to celebrate last night!
now for some weird reason those around me are INSISTENT that I will eventually have a third, and that I should absolutely not do anything permanent (aka vasectomy for my husband) until my second child goes to school … and it’s really rubbing me the wrong way. No one other than my husband and I should be deciding and discussing whether or not we will be having more children. Idk I think it’s as rude as people asking “are you going to breastfeed, how long are you planning” like how does this concern you lol
@jesofthenorth it’s good that you are so self aware already! And you can not predict how another pregnancy/ baby will be. Even if this one is an absolute angel and sleeps amazing unlike my first I’m just not willing to risk my sanity for another 😛 we were totally happy being one and done if our fertility treatments didn’t work out either and we got SO much flacks about how sad it is to be an only child it’s like well it’s better than having broke mentally I’ll parents from unrelenting fertility treatments lol
@sparklingdiamond there is a little bit of beauty in the finality of it too though no? Like I’m looking forward to closing this chapter … not keeping baby things just in case after this one is done with them!
I am excited to be able to enjoy the ‘last’ firsts too because I know they’re the last!
@beccaneu that's great you have the option! unfortunately my hospital will not let me do the tubal (if I had an RCS) unless I had a documented family history of ovarian cancer.