December 2022 Moms

Roe and my pregnancy

mahalove108mahalove108 member
edited June 2022 in December 2022 Moms
I'm feeling such a loss of dignity since Roe was overturned.  The idea that I should be forced to bear a child and give birth against my will feels so dehumanizing.  I'm so excited and hopeful for this baby - I've waited for them for so long.  SO long!  But the idea that this isn't my choice takes some of the beauty away.  I can't imagine anyone not loving their mother to the point that they would want her to carry them against her will.  It's a form of rape.  I love my mom so much.  I would never want to do that to her and wouldn't want to come into the world that way. I know that I will not stay in this space of feeling so personally violated.  And I understand that some people are just uneasy about how powerful women are and so want to control us.  And I trust that we'll come back to a moral place of goodness.  And I even think I will be able to forgive those who see me as an object, because they are so clearly wrong and deluded.  But just now, this feels so demeaning to myself and the beautiful little being swimming through my uterus.

Re: Roe and my pregnancy

  • I’m sorry, but this is absolutely ridiculous 
  • mahalove108mahalove108 member
    edited June 2022
    Why?  What's ridiculous about my feelings?  
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  • I’m curious too. Why do you think her feelings about this are ridiculous? 
  • Could not have said it better myself. Thank you for sharing ❤️
  • I’m sorry, but this is absolutely ridiculous 
    Good thing no one asked your opinion :smile:
  • msd15msd15 member
    One thing to remember is that you actively tried for your baby, so in that way is was your choice. Don’t let the ignorance of people take away from the beauty of this for you. 
  • hspghspg member
    edited June 2022
    Respectfully,  I feel the complete opposite way. Being pregnant during this decision has me wondering how anyone could ever want to terminate the beautiful new life growing within them. I understand that in cases of mother's health, babies health, or rape then abortion may be the best option for mother and baby. But barring those exceptions, the fact that people are fighting so hard for abortion boggles my pregnant brain. I had more written out here, but this is a place where we are sharing our FEELINGS. You shared yours, I shared mine. And as another member already wrote, I do hope that you soon remember the beauty of this pregnancy for you and that for you it was a choice 💕.
  • I fully respect your feelings and your right to them.  I don't even think your feelings, as you expressed them, are opposite mine.  I don't hear you taking away choice.  It's the idea of forcing women to bear children against their will that I find to be so violent.  The only other thing your thoughts brought up for me, is that as an educator for 21 years, I've encountered many parents who felt they were supposed to have children, but didn't really want them, and that always causes so much suffering for all involved.  Which is just another way of saying that not all pregnant people feel the way you do.  Obviously being pregnant is a dance between self and other.  And for me, so far, it's an amazing dance that I'm incredibly grateful for.  I just don't see how we can take the self out of the equation and end up anywhere kind or moral. 
  • Thanks!  That's true.
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