Roe and my pregnancy

mahalove108

I'm feeling such a loss of dignity since Roe was overturned.  The idea that I should be forced to bear a child and give birth against my will feels so dehumanizing.  I'm so excited and hopeful for this baby - I've waited for them for so long.  SO long!  But the idea that this isn't my choice takes some of the beauty away.  I can't imagine anyone not loving their mother to the point that they would want her to carry them against her will.  It's a form of rape.  I love my mom so much.  I would never want to do that to her and wouldn't want to come into the world that way. I know that I will not stay in this space of feeling so personally violated.  And I understand that some people are just uneasy about how powerful women are and so want to control us.  And I trust that we'll come back to a moral place of goodness.  And I even think I will be able to forgive those who see me as an object, because they are so clearly wrong and deluded.  But just now, this feels so demeaning to myself and the beautiful little being swimming through my uterus.

josiahs_mom

I’m sorry, but this is absolutely ridiculous 

mahalove108

Why?  What's ridiculous about my feelings?  

knottiedca5af6ea8218044

I’m curious too. Why do you think her feelings about this are ridiculous? 

babybriggs2022

Could not have said it better myself. Thank you for sharing ❤️

bustabucket

knottie3b08fc4274658216 said:

I’m sorry, but this is absolutely ridiculous 

Good thing no one asked your opinion

msd15

One thing to remember is that you actively tried for your baby, so in that way is was your choice. Don’t let the ignorance of people take away from the beauty of this for you. 

hspg

Respectfully,  I feel the complete opposite way. Being pregnant during this decision has me wondering how anyone could ever want to terminate the beautiful new life growing within them. I understand that in cases of mother's health, babies health, or rape then abortion may be the best option for mother and baby. But barring those exceptions, the fact that people are fighting so hard for abortion boggles my pregnant brain. I had more written out here, but this is a place where we are sharing our FEELINGS. You shared yours, I shared mine. And as another member already wrote, I do hope that you soon remember the beauty of this pregnancy for you and that for you it was a choice 💕.

mahalove108

I fully respect your feelings and your right to them.  I don't even think your feelings, as you expressed them, are opposite mine.  I don't hear you taking away choice.  It's the idea of forcing women to bear children against their will that I find to be so violent.  The only other thing your thoughts brought up for me, is that as an educator for 21 years, I've encountered many parents who felt they were supposed to have children, but didn't really want them, and that always causes so much suffering for all involved.  Which is just another way of saying that not all pregnant people feel the way you do.  Obviously being pregnant is a dance between self and other.  And for me, so far, it's an amazing dance that I'm incredibly grateful for.  I just don't see how we can take the self out of the equation and end up anywhere kind or moral. 

mahalove108

Thanks!  That's true.

sarahsays25

Honestly this whole ruling is disgusting and being pregnant now makes me feel that even more so. When I found out I was pregnant I was having all of the symptoms for an ectopic pregnancy. I went to the er after I was confirmed pregnant with the expectation my pregnancy was ectopic and that I would have to abort my baby. To think that people believe had it been ectopic I should've died with the embryo that would never develop to a fetus is disgusting. Then there are the matters of rape, children, etc. If this pregnancy has taught me anything it's that not everyone is equipped to handle a pregnancy, physically, mentally, financially, etc. Honestly sometimes I wonder how women do it. Now we even have to worry when giving birth because our lives will not be prioritized. Maybe that makes me sound like a selfish mother-to-be for worrying about that but I am worried. Now more than ever I understand why some choose not to go through with a pregnancy, no matter their reason it's their reason. We don't have to understand or agree. It's their choice, their body and their lives. The fact that this passed without anything to actually help all of these future moms and babies shows that saving babies was never actually the real concern. Like everyone else here, this is my opinion and like I believe every woman should have a choice, every woman has their own opinion on this as well😊

knottie_knottie1

Totally agreed @sarahsays25, whether or not an abortion is the correct option for me, I certainly wouldn't want to take away the option from someone else. I think The Turnaway Study really demonstrated why people should have legal access to abortion.

knottie20b414454b4d3154

Couldn’t agree more, and have been vacillating between devastation and rage for the past few days. I’m having a baby girl and late one night actually spoke out loud to her, apologizing this is the world she was going to have to fight her way through. One that is even less understanding of women’s rights than the one I was born into. I wanted this pregnancy more than anything but forcing someone to be pregnant against their will is physical/mental/emotional torture, full stop. 

 I might have to travel for work to the south while pregnant and have begun to worry: what if my worst nightmare comes true and my pregnancy threatens my life? What if my only option is to terminate my pregnancy and I’m in a state where my options are suddenly very limited? I think people are comforted by the idea that in those cases, the mother’s life is priority. But, we have just made terminating a birth a felony. Do we really believe doctors won’t put their interests first? These won’t be cut and dry situations, and it’s almost guaranteed pregnant women whose pregnancies become dangerous will end up being in much riskier positions (some WILL die) because doctors will not want to take the risk of prosecution.

Whatever anyone’s opinion on abortion, making doctors terrified of committing felonies is only hurting women’s healthcare.