TTCAL w/o 6/6

mambo5-2

**This is a general trigger warning that CP, miscarriage / spontaneous abortion, selective abortion due to medical complications, and/or stillbirth may be mentioned.**

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.

Status: 

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? 

Any testing coming up/any recent results?

Questions? 

GTKY: What is your summer time self care?

mambo5-2

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.  So many losses, 6 losses between 6 and 14 weeks

Status: IVF

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I am super anxious about doing IVF, I am really nervous to miscarry again but also like emotionally preparing myself for it.  I am also nervous I won't get any embryos, the RE assures me that I will get embryos and that I will go on to have a successful pregnancy. 

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Ultrasound Friday to check on Follicles

Questions? Nope

GTKY: What is your summer time self care?  We have a little outdoor fire pit that is fun to sit around, we also have a porch swing, you can find me there. 

ejoseph16

@mambo5-2 yes for the porch swing! I’m trying to convince MH that we need one for our new house! 

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. 
BO at 9 weeks April 2019
CP May of 2022

Status: WTO/TWW (O day is today)

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? Confident in our decision to go ahead with trying. I’m having a really fertile O, so we are cautiously optimistic… ready for TWW. 

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope

Questions? NATM

GTKY: What is your summer time self care? Reading. I don’t get a whole lot of time during the school year to read, so I got the first 3 books of bridgerton set up to go for the summer! 

abjm0325

@mambo5-2 I hope the ultrasound on Friday goes well and can maybe start to relieve a little of your anxiety. TTCAL is such a mindf#$k. 

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MC @ 8 weeks in Aug. 2021 and CP in Dec. 2021

Status: WTO

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I had an SHG this morning and everything structurally looks good. I kind of figured that was the case, but good to have the confirmation I suppose. Mostly just struggling with the continued "unknown" of why I can't seem to stay PG.

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope, now just trying naturally for a few months.

Questions? Not today

GTKY: What is your summer time self care? I don't do it often enough, but sitting in a hammock with a good book.

mambo5-2

@ejoseph16 yay for O day. I love the Bridgerton books but I cannot finish Gregory's book. Hyacinth is hilarious. 

@abjm0325 Hugs I am also so over the unknowns. Go sit and read that book, whatever book it may be. 

abjm0325

@ejoseph16 I've thought about trying the Bridgerton books. Let me know what you think once you start reading them!

mambo5-2

@abjm0325 JUST READ THEM! Anthony and Kate's book is SO GOOD

acleverusername

I'm lurking for a bit as I'm trying to process / integrate the learnings from my retreat. I will be back with you shortly! Re: Bridgerton books, I went to cancel my Audible subscription and had to use up 12 credits, so I got all 7 of the books. Now I just have to figure out a time to "read" them! 

annanbby

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MMC April 2019, Infant loss at almost 4 months in June 2021

Status: WTO

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? Well. Part of my grief is that being in large groups is really really hard. Monthly at work, we have a staff meeting with literally everyone on staff, but it's typically in a room where I'm able to sit in the back by myself so it's manageable. But today the room was moved and there was no place I could've sat except at a group table, so I panicked and ran back to my office and cried. I found out that it's actually a common thing with grief, I just wish I understood why. 

Also, this past weekend was the anniversary of our daughter's passing, so I've been really struggling with that lately.

Any testing coming up/any recent results? Nope

Questions? None

GTKY: What is your summer time self care? I love being by the pool or out in nature. Hiking is a good one for me.

annanbby

@mambo5-2 your RE sounds so encouraging. I hope your ultrasound goes well on Friday!

@ejoseph16 Ahh reading is one for me too! But it's definitely an all-year thing haha

@abjm0325 the unknowns are so hard. I'm glad your SHG went well.

mambo5-2

@annanbby hugs my friend. Be very kind to yourself this month.

abjm0325

@annanbby Sending you lots of hugs ❤️

ejoseph16

@annanbby so many hugs and prayers 🙏🏻 

ReadyForaB

Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc.  Going through my second missed miscarriage in a row.  My last one was in March of 2021.  I seem to be able to get pregnant super easy (first and second month off birth control) but the baby won't grow past 6 weeks. 

Status: Waiting for a confirmation ultrasound (which I find a little excessive at this point to be honest) then deciding on next steps. 

How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I leave for a cruise in two weeks.  I am so stressed out about all of this being settled before leaving. And like, will I be able to swim?  Ugh!!!!! 

Any testing coming up/any recent results? confirmation US to confirm missed miscarriage Tuesday.

Questions? Okay I took misoprostol last time and it worked wonderfully.  But I am scared I won't be that lucky again and this time, with needing it to all be taken care of before my cruise, I am leaning toward maybe doing a D&C if my doctor can make it happen before I leave.  For those of you who have done D&C, how is the procedure/recovery?

GTKY: What is your summer time self care? Walking around the neighborhood. 

mambo5-2

@ReadyForaB I am so sorry love.  My D&C was easy, it was emotional recovery more than physical, the bleeding stopped quickly. I will join you in the I get pregnant easy but do not stay pregnant club and it is really really sh*tty. 

acleverusername

@ReadyForaB I had about 6-7 days of spotting / light bleeding after my D&C and the cramping got pretty bad 4-5 days after, but the tylenol + codeine helped, so if you got that route, don't be a hero and just take the damn pain pills. 

ReadyForaB

@mambo5-2 Thank you!  It is a super shitty club. 

@acleverusername thanks!  I actually had bleeding for less time than that and no pain after the first day when I took the misoprostol.  Ugh!  Obviously, everyone is different and every pregnancy is different, I know.  I am so torn on what to do here. I just don't want to do the medication route and get on this boat with an incomplete miscarriage, yah know?

abjm0325

@ReadyForaB So sorry to welcome you back here. I don't have any personal experience to share on the D&C possibility, but I hope your doctor can help you figure out what will be the least stressful for you as you leave on vacation!

anniemarie887

Lurking @ReadyForaB I’ve had 2 d&cs this year. This second one I bled a lot longer and heavier. The first one was very light for like 3 days. This most recent one was a week, a few days break, and then bleeding again for a few days. ALSO my OB is no tampons, sex, pools, baths for two weeks after surgery. 

ReadyForaB

@anniemarie887 Ugh.  sounds terrible. 

anniemarie887

@ReadyForaB it ain’t great, sorry you’re having to go through this.