Am I a bad mom for not wanting a jr.?

knottie96040d739db2a911

Hey so i’m 21weeks and my boyfriend is telling me how i’m not thinking about his feelings because he wants a jr….. but honestly I would rather him have his own name. Am I a bad mom/ girlfriend for wanting my son to have his own name.

knottied394ce12f86641bb

Not at all! My husband wants the same, and I put my foot down early. We found out we are having a girl so it’s irrelevant, but I think it’s important for kids to have their own name and identity.

jlmckinley11

No way. I’m not open to that either. It’s important you both like the name. 

jennyscham

Definitely not. You can always think about a family name for a middle, but there shouldn’t be this urgent need to reuse the same time and again!

bethybye

My husband is a Jr and he does not love it! I think he thinks it’s almost infantilizing as a grown man. People call his dad “big Nick” and him “little Nick” even though he is the much bigger Nick now! We are having a boy and definitely not carrying on that tradition. You both need to love the name, Mama 

ahertz21

Not at all! My husband also wanted a Jr and I’m not into it… he didn’t seem too upset though. He said if we have a boy he’ll probably call him Jr regardless so it doesn’t make a big difference. I will note that if we do have a boy, the middle name will be my husbands name so there’s a bit of compromise there.