Pregnancy after MC

rac2718

Hi! I'll be 39 next month. I have a 4 yr old son. I found out I was pregnant on Nov 5. An ultrasound at 6 weeks was showing only a gestational and yolk sac so I had to go back 2 weeks later but I knew it was a bad sign. I started spotting at 8 weeks prior to the rescan so they moved it up. That scan showed a small fetal pole and slow heartbeat. I had a confirmed MC at 8 +5 when the spotting turned to bleeding. 

I was so excited this past Fri when I got a positive test but I am so emotional and anxious. I'd almost be in my 3rd trimester and now I'm back to this horrible waiting period. My sister in law had a gender reveal Sat night, and while I'm so happy for them I'm also feeling sad again over my loss and trying to remain optimistic with this positive test. 

sunset3127

I’m also pregnant after a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in January! Currently 5 weeks, and have two friends about to give birth any day. I’m very anxious, and don’t think I’ll fully relax until I’m out of first trimester with things looking good. Wishing you all the best in your journey and hope this waiting period moves quickly for us both! 🤍

tdavis1012

I am also pregnant after a miscarriage in January of this year. Definitely a lot of anxiety and just trying to not get myself too excited with the fear of being let down. Thinking of you and hope we both have healthy and safe pregnancies!! 

mrs-kay929

You're not alone! I had a miscarriage this past January. I've noticed that I'm much more disconnected this time probably out of fear. I lost my baby at 6w4d and I'm hoping that once I'm further along and can feel the baby moving that I can bond with them more. Its so tough because I want to be excited, I'm just not there yet and I feel guilty for feeling that way. 

ssmyers

I miscarried August 31st and was super emotional when I found out I was pregnant last Friday (April 1st) as it was around the time that I was due had the miscarriage been a successful pregnancy. As happy as I am to be pregnant, I am so scared to miscarry again.

My miscarriage was traumatic for me. I had an ultrasound with a tech around 8 weeks (was having issues with scheduling a doctor appt) and they told me that the baby measured 6 weeks. Then I went to the hospital the next week because I was lightly bleeding (I was scared) and the baby again measured 6 weeks. I just knew something was wrong and the doctors kept trying to reassure me that it was okay. The following week, I miscarried.

I am doing my best to keep a positive attitude but I’m terrified of another miscarriage. I’m sure my mind will be put to ease at my first appointment but until then, I’m going to be a bundle of nerves.

msd15

I had a miscarriage in august and another in October. The one in October was the weekend my sister had a baby. That was rough. My SIL had a baby last month, so the baby fever is real. I’m also having a hard time getting excited about this pregnancy. I’m so scared something will go wrong. Fingers crossed this is the rainbow baby for all of us 

rac2718

I had a virtual appt yesterday and an early US is scheduled for 4/19. Fingers crossed!

goodyblmp

I have the same feelings. Miscarried in early November at 8w6d after a successful first pregnancy. It took 12 weeks for my HCG levels to get back down to a pre-pregnancy state and I conceived after one “normal” cycle. Currently 6 weeks pregnant and anxiously awaiting my first ultrasound appointment. 

firsttimemommydec22

I had 2 MCs last year. My first due date was Dec 21, I miscarried second one over Thanksgiving, and this time my due date is Dec 11. Plenty of reminders of past losses, but trying to stay positive this time around and hope third time is a charm! My HCG levels are already much higher than before, which is a plus.

bunniecee

I had a miscarriage right after thanksgiving, about a month before my good friend/coworker had her baby and it was rough to get through. I’m trying really hard to just think positively right now. My first ultrasound is in a week, fingers crossed that everything goes well

bbjordan7916

I am finally pregnant again after a missed miscarriage at 12 weeks in June.
I know I’m going to have to keep talking positively to myself and continue to take one day at a time. I think the hardest part for me was that I still had all of the pregnancy symptoms, and I had taken that as a sign that everything was okay. Now I know that you can still have the nausea and your baby already be gone.

To help reassure myself, I’m planning on going in for more frequent ultrasounds and beta hcgs. What are you all doing to keep yourselves less anxious?

sunset3127

@bbjordan7916 I also had a missed miscarriage at 13 weeks, and now I’m 6 weeks getting blood drawn every few days. My HCG isn’t increasing as quickly as the doctor would like to see, was 6400 at 5w+3 and 9800 at 5w+5. Currently in waiting room to get another draw and hoping it’s climbed over the weekend! Everything feels fine and no bleeding but I’m so anxious now just waiting to see what my latest numbers are. How have yours been? 

brookeange

hello! also pregnant after a chemical pregnancy. on dec 25, 2021 i had bleeding only a few days after finding out i was pregnant. currently 4w+2 & got my first blood draw at 217 today & getting another in the morning. no bleeding & everything feels good so far. sticky baby dust ♥️

hricks90

Hi love ❤️ So, I am an author and have a foundation for pregnancy and infant loss. I just wanted to remind you that it’s okay to not be okay. That it’s okay to feel worry and anxiety and joyful and happy all at once. These emotions can all live side by side. It’s important to give ourselves grace and compassion and to know that we’re not alone. I am sending you and everyone that has suffered from a loss so much love and light.

-Hailey Ricks

rac2718

I had my 1st US today. Baby is measuring accurately  for 6+4 and heart rate was 124. My 1st OB appt isn't until May 16 when I'll be 10+3 so I was thinking maybe I'd schedule a private reassurance scan around 9 weeks. I just can't go with the flow! How is everyone else doing? I was hoping early testing would ease my anxiety, but it's not!

bunniecee

@rac2718 I had my early scan yesterday at 6+6 (7 by LMP but I ovulated a day late) and thought for sure I would feel better once I saw a heartbeat, but only measured at 6+2. I feel silly being nervous over 4 days difference and Dr said it was fine and not to worry about it but after what I went through last time, that’s obviously easier said than done. Right now my next ultrasound isn’t scheduled until about 14wks, I really don’t know how I’m going to stay calm for the next 2 months, the thought of a private reassurance scan is so tempting though 

ale4al

I had a miscarriage 3 years ago with complications (my cervix was constantly dilating for 2 weeks but I was unable to pass the tissue) and had to get surgery. We have been trying for the last 3 years with no success until now! Definitely nervous but cautiously optimistic.

rac2718

@bunniecee I totally understand stressing about 4 days but if it helps ease your mind at all 1. My mom was a CNM for over 30 years and has reminded me it's a human that's marking the measurements on something where a mm makes a difference so you gotta leave room for a little error and 2. I'm almost positive on my results they actually give your measurements with a + or - 4 days. Will you see your OB before your 14 week scan? I'm really hoping we will hear the heartbeat on doppler

bunniecee

@rac2718 that actually is really reassuring to hear, thank you 😊 They said as long as the difference is 5 days or less it doesn’t affect my due date, but that wasn’t my concern. They have me in with an NP on 5/13, but no actual OB visits scheduled yet. Maybe after the 14wk scan? When I had my son 10 years ago, I was immediately classified high risk due to my autoimmune disorder. This time around, I’m 41 years old, and thankfully I’ve been in remission for 3.5 years but I may be having some flare activity that I mentioned but there was no talk of an MFM or anything else out of the ordinary so far. I’m trying to just go with it right now, hoping for more clarity in a couple of weeks when I have a phone appt to go over medical history with a different nurse

rhodymama22

I’m here and totally understand all worries too. We just lost our baby on Feb 17 @ 8 weeks. I’m an emotional wreck. Just found out I was pregnant last week and due date is Dec 25 based on LMP. My first ultrasound is May 9 @ 7w 1d and I am constantly back and forth - excited or, terrified and crying. I’m tired but, with a 3 year old at home, I usually am. I feel so bloated at 4w 2d my pants already hurt to keep buttoned. I have insomnia but.. ehh. This feels like how my last pregnancy started in January when I thought everything was okay. How do you hold it together and not analyze every cramp, pain, etc.? I keep finding myself wishing I was experiencing morning sickness as a sign my levels were increasing (which I know doesn’t happen to all). Ughhhhh. I cannot. 

helloitsgrace

Lauren, I have a very similar timeline as you! Miscarried my first pregnancy in January & JUST found out I am pregnant again. Due date Christmas day! I am also incredibly anxious & excited & hoping for the best. Right there with you!

jenkm1110

I really didn't anticipate that being pregnant again after a loss would be quite as stressful as it is! I had a missed miscarriage at 11 weeks in January. I didn't have many symptoms during that pregnancy and am having even fewer this time around, so that's messing with me. I was able to get in for an early ultrasound a little over a week ago that looked great, but it's hard not to be scared that something's gone wrong since then. I'm so sorry that you're all going through this too, but it's nice to be able to talk with people who understand.

rac2718

I had the private reassurance scan today at 9+1. Heart rate of 174. We then felt comfortable telling immediate family. I have an office appt next Monday and we leave for vacation on Wednesday. I was worried if they couldn't find the heartbeat on Doppler it'd ruin my vacation with worry. I'm starting to relax now that I know everything still looks good at 9 weeks. We won't tell our son though until into 2nd trimester and NIPT results. How is everyone else holding up? I know it's been heartbreaking to read the posts about losses in our group