This board is pretty dead so I hope no one minds if I start a new thread.
This is not a “girl” issue but for some reason, I’m thinking about it more as I’m about to have my first girl (I have two boys currently and I already am seeing the affects in the older one). How do you shut down people’s negative body talk around your kids? I feel like I'm surrounded by women who always make comments like “Im so fat” “ugh I can’t eat that…” etc. my older son (6) asked me if he looked fat the other day. It crushed me. Im reading articles but I’m having trouble finding just clean, easy phrases I can say in the moment that won’t make the situation awkward. Does anyone have a canned thing they say when a friend is over and says “im so fat” or “does this make me look fat?” Etc.
Me: 36 DH: 36 Married: October 2011 DS: January 2016 DS: May 2019 #3: April 2022
Re: Negative Body Talk
I’ve worked with eating disorders before and I find a body neutrality type thinking is better than trying to be overly positive…for example gratitude for what your body can do and focusing on nutrition and being active because it feels good
Really good topic though, my dad and his side of the family are obsessed with diets and weight and I’m really trying to avoid perpetuating that. He’s made a bunch of offhand comments about if I’ve gained weight while pregnant
I also want to try to avoid talking negatively about my own body and to make sure my husband and I compliment each other’s bodies (appropriately 😋) in front of our kids.
Married May 2019
Baby #1 due April 19, 2022