Coping with Pregnancy After Miscarriage

ashley11894

I have experienced 2 losses this past year. One miscarriage at around 6-7 weeks on mother’s day of last year and a chemical pregnancy in October. 

My husband and I fell pregnant again in January and I’m now almost 8 weeks.. and it’s been a roller coaster of emotions. I have terrible anxiety and fear that I will lose this one too. 

Every cramp, symptom, lack of symptom etc freaks me out. I’ve had nausea since week 6 but these last 2 days it hasn’t been as bad, which worries me. And of course once the symptoms actually did start I felt like something was wrong. 

I have been in therapy since the fall to help me cope, and it has helped tremendously. But since falling pregnant again I feel like I’m right back to where I was. 
I did go to a 6 week 3 day scan and I wish I could say it made me feel better, but it didn’t. We saw a heartbeat (114bpm) which the doctor said was a little slow and that I was measuring a day behind. 

Granted I think I ovulated a little later than they are calculating, but that’s beside the point.
I go to my next appointment March 11th and I’m so scared and honestly sad. I’m grateful I’m pregnant but this experience has just been sad, scary and unsettling.
I just need some advice on how you have coped with your pregnancies after a loss. It’s one of the hardest things I have ever gone through and I’m trying to take it day by day..
I admire all the women out there that have gotten through such a trial, it shows a lot of strength that I wish I had right now.
Thank you

sudsy623

Hi Ashley, I am struggling with anxiety right now as well. I don’t really have any advice except the stuff I’m sure you already know (practice mindful breathing, talking to your therapist/partner/friends, staying active, taking time to appreciate all the wonderful things/people in your life, etc). I had an ectopic pregnancy last year (found out it was nonviable the Friday before Mother’s Day) followed by a miscarriage in November. I am pregnant again now and my first scan is next week, but I started lightly spotting today. I am a wreck! Everything feels so heavy but I am trying to stay positive. I hope your second scan went well!

paphy

Hi ladies! I know this discussion was a while ago, but I have to try to ask how it all went for you? I hope everything was great!
I'm in a similar situation. I was only pregnant once before, a year ago. I didn't feel pregnant and I miscarried at late 6/early 7 weeks. It took us a long time to get pregnant again. Again, I don't feel very pregnant and I'm almost full 8 weeks. What worries me now is that a few days ago I was starting to get nauseous and then it stopped. I was also very hungry very often, but that subsided, too, in the past couple of days. I'm still bloated, my nipples are a bit sore, but that's it. I had light brown discharge twice in the span of two weeks, but no pain or anything. But I'm starting to be convinced I had a missed miscarriage. My appointment is in a week 😞 admiring all people that go through this or worse.

lotsaknots

I hope your appointment went ok 🤞

knottie77b79babc99b32d1

Did you find out what was going on at your appointment, if I may ask? Also when I had a missed miscarriage my symptoms didn’t subside. I still had tender boobs and morning sickness and everything and my baby had been gone for a week and I still felt pregnant. :( I told my dr & asked him why didn’t it fade & he said sometimes if it fades don’t assume it’s a miscarriage cause it doesn’t always fade right when it Happens.