Why is my Pregnant Self Crying? - March

kboydbowman

Your spouse is a jerk, your houseplant died, Encanto is on....

what's got you crying, momma?

mnmomma84

Burst into tears last night explaining to my husband that I now have hemorrhoids to add to my list of GI issues with this pregnancy and that I got suppositories on the way home. The tears came on when I said I feel like my body is falling apart. Haven’t gotten weepy or the sads much but that did it. 

melyrae

Some funny ones…

I cried because it was nice outside but not nice enough to garden.
I cried because I was full.
I cried because I tried to make a coffee but forgot to put the pod in the machine…

whitta1015

Cried because my little girl had to have a dental procedure done this morning and has never had anything like that done before. I was way more nervous than her thinking about her getting shots in her little mouth. But then she did great, so I cried because I was so proud of her. 

jhysmath

I cried watching sweet magnolia's yesterday because there was a kid who just wanted Dino nuggets because he didn't ever get food at home. And the thought of that with my students made me bawl, it didn't help that my 3 year old was demanding snack after snack and being picky about what she got and I just thought about how lucky we are that we can easily feed our children and they don't know what not having is like. 

ashking0922

I am craving THIS specific lunchable with the treatza- haven’t had it since I was in middle school probably. THEY ARE SO HARD TO FIND. I checked everywhere around my area and they are nonexistent, so I had to cry.
Found out they are at Kroger’s, which is no where near me, BUT my sister lives 3 minutes away from one. I told her I would pay her to bring every single one when she comes over for spring break and cried happy tears because I might get them after all

theblondebump

Haha omg I loved pizza lunchables as a kid @ashking0922

jhysmath

@ashking0922 I've never heard of the treatza ones, those look yummy lol

kboydbowman

I don't think lunchables came out until I was in high school lol

lilienne

I cried today at the barn when one of the teenagers came close to falling off her horse. I went from "her mom must be so scared," to "I might be that mom someday!" Everything was completely fine, definitely no need for tears.

ashking0922

@jhysmath they're like, the best in the shittiest way possible if that makes sense 

lilienne

I can't believe I'm this ridiculous, but today I cried because I bought a jelly donut at the grocery store and it wasn't as good as a Krispy Kreme jelly donut. 

kboydbowman

@lilienne
but are any donuts as good as Krisy Kreme, really?  Sadly, there are no Krispy Kremes in my neck of the woods, only Dunkin Donuts.

lilienne

@kboydbowman I don't think anything beats Krispy Kreme, no...but are donuts really worth crying over? 

kboydbowman

@lilienne
if you have to ask that question, clearly you have never lived anywhere without a Krispy Kreme.

kboydbowman

This week's episode of Chicago Med featured a newborn with necrotizing bowel, which was one of the things that was wrong with my severely premature baby.  On the episode, the baby got a bowel transplant and lived (my daughter did not).  Needless to say, tears were involved.

dvmmama

I stepped in a mud puddle wearing new sandals and it splashed all up between my toes and felt gross, and got my new sandals dirty. Started crying like a toddler that needed a nap (which I probably also did).

jhysmath

@dvmmomma I can't wait to wear sandals again. More snow forecasted for this week. 

lilienne

Oh dear, sorry for all the crying mommas right now! Regardless of the reason, it just feels exhausting to be sad on top of everything else.

csardaszz

I’ve been crying every day since I found out last week I’m having twins. Then I think about all the ladies who struggle with fertility issues and I cry more because I feel like a jerk for crying in the first place.

pangolindrome

This week’s GTKY check-in question. I miss my parents and siblings.

babywiik

@pangolindrome I feel you. I was looking at a photo book with my daughter the other day, featuring my family and I had to stop looking at the pictures because I wanted to go home so bad! All my nieces and nephews are growing up and some won't even remember me when I see them again. I feel silly saying this out loud but I even missed my parents picnic table. There's not really anything special about it but it's just there by the pool and serves snacks on warm summer days. I think it's been even harder living far away with covid and who knows when we can make travel plans again. Any way you could swing a quick trip this spring? Sending you hugs and understanding!

babywiik

@csardaszz sending you hugs! Having two babies is a LOT bigger deal than just one. You're entering a whole new territory and I imagine it's scary. I think I would cry too. For 18ish weeks you've been mentally preparing yourself for one baby and how that baby will fit into your life. How will your toddler respond to baby, where will they sleep, have their clothes, what changes in your lifestyle will you have to make, etc. Now you've been blindsided and have to shift all your plans to accommodate the second baby. You have to rethink everything, like will 3 carseats fit in the car, how will it go with feedings, sleeping, diapering, birthing, possibly extra appointments, etc. We're here for you and I don't think you're a jerk for having feelings, not at all!

jhysmath

@csardaszz did you have a dating ultrasound and they only saw one then? 

pangolindrome

babywiik said:

@pangolindrome I feel you. I was looking at a photo book with my daughter the other day, featuring my family and I had to stop looking at the pictures because I wanted to go home so bad! All my nieces and nephews are growing up and some won't even remember me when I see them again. I feel silly saying this out loud but I even missed my parents picnic table. There's not really anything special about it but it's just there by the pool and serves snacks on warm summer days. I think it's been even harder living far away with covid and who knows when we can make travel plans again. Any way you could swing a quick trip this spring? Sending you hugs and understanding!

Thank you for the hugs and understanding! I knew what I’d be sacrificing when I moved - seeing my cousins, their kids, important events I can’t attend - but we never counted on the pandemic. Noone would have. 

They’re 5000 miles away and at minimum $2000 for economy plane tickets, probably $3000. A quick trip isn’t feasible by any means. That’s a part of what sucks so much. My parents would gladly help with the costs and I know that, but the stress of the trip, time off work I don’t have the leave for, and so much else that’s going on… I wish I could swing a week with them.
Hopefully we’ll be able to make it over there maybe winter break or I don’t know when, but we’ll figure it out. 

Facetime and Messenger calls helps a lot, but it’s for sure not the same as a hug.

csardaszz

@babywiik Thank you. You get it.
@jhysmath I did not. This was my first US.

pangolindrome

My home is dusty, needs vacuumed, and I really want to Pledge treat the cabinets but I’m too tired to do anything after work unless I divide it up. I took three days to clean the shower (but it got done which was nice)… and at that rate, cleaning our home would take a month… even though it is small. 

Cue I had an absolute breakdown this morning and my poor husband was not very happy that his wife threw a tantrum over the phone.
He works full time and studies simultaneously which takes up anywhere from 30-40 hours of his week depending on how quickly he manages the readings and assignments, so it’s not like he’s not contributing. He does dishes, helps with laundry, plays a lot with our dog. There’s not enough hours.
I think my expectations for second trimester have been really exaggerated and for some reason, most of the energy I have is literally when my husband is in group work and has to talk constantly (it’s Zoom based) and I have to be quiet.

Thank you for coming to my whine session.

mnmomma84

I haven't been too emotional this pregnancy, but I broke down and cried last night when my husband asked the daily "have you pooped yet?" question. The answer was "no" and then I burst into an ugly cry because I feel like my body forgot how to function. That spiraled into anxiety about labor, delivery and postpartum and what if my body forgot how to do the things and doesn't heal, etc. I think he will now avoid that question altogether until things start getting a bit more, ahem, regular. 

babywiik

@pangolindrome I forget what week your at but hold in there. I hit 16 weeks on Saturday and I definitely turned a corner in the energy department. Granted, it's in the late morning/early afternoon and I'm exhausted by evening but everything seems so much easier now. I hope the same happens for you.

pangolindrome

@babywiik Oh, I have definitely turned the corner. I’m at 14w1d. My expectations/hopes were just too high. I have two-three times the energy I did two weeks ago, but there’s still so much to do and past walking doggo 2 miles before and 2 miles after work, doing food prep, and daily laundry (small washer and small closet), I don’t have leftover energy for cleaning.
Two weeks ago, I averaged two miles per day and after the afternoon walk and shower, I literally laid on the couch until dinner, sat up for eating, and went back to laying down. I couldn’t even start the laundry. It was horrible.
Second trimester is so much better, but I guess growing a human is still tiresome 😂 

lilienne

I feel really bad...I totally lost it on my poor husband the other day because he has a trip planned for this weekend and I'm scared I can't hold it together while he's gone. But I also know he desperately needs a break from taking care of me, and I really do want him to go see his friend. Especially if we get bad news in a few weeks, we'll both be better off if he has gotten the occasional break and distraction, but I don't want to be on my own this weekend either. This sucks!

kboydbowman

@lilienne Do I need to plan a short road trip?

jhysmath

@lilienne I can be on the app all weekend too entertain you if needed ❤️

csardaszz

I cried today because my toddler woke up after napping only 40 minutes.

JRae2015

That is tear -worthy for sure !

lilienne

@kboydbowman and @jhysmath you're both wonderful! Yeah, I'll probably be online quite a bit this weekend. And now he has a business trip next Tuesday-Friday, too, ugh. Still, I actually think we're better off with him traveling than with him having to put up with me losing it on a daily basis. It's a good thing you folks are so good at keeping me entertained!

@csardaszz I think I might cry about that even if I wasn't over-emotional and pregnant!

maple1422

We spent some time out in the shop this weekend. I took a little break from the shop just to walk around the yard with the dog and starting crying because I was so simply and genuinely happy. It was warm and sunny out and life is good. Sometimes I can't believe this is really our life.