Sharing the News

bows22

Have you announced your pregnancy to anyone yet? Tell us the fun (or boring!) way you shared the news!

krthouse

Mostly we've just told people over video calls, sometimes with DS wearing his "I'm a big brother" shirt, but we did the bun in the oven shtick with my in-laws. When we told them about DS it was close to their wedding anniversary so we gifted them a miniature of an oven and I made a tiny hot crossed bun out of craft clay that I put inside. It took them forever to get it, even when my MIL said "oh there's a little hot crossed bun in there" and they clearly were confused as to why we'd given it to them   

This time we had them over and put an actual hot crossed bun in the oven. When my MIL came into the kitchen to help with lunch DH asked if she could grab the cast iron out of the oven. She goes to get it and goes "Oh, there's a bun in the ov-  I GOT IT THIS TIME!!!!!". It was very cute.

Not sure how we want to do our public announcement yet so can't wait to see everyone's ideas!

bows22

@krthouse aw that’s so perfect with your in laws!!

DD spilled the beans to my mom (she actually lasted longer than I thought) so she and my dad know. We will probably just FaceTime my brother and his family tonight or tomorrow and let her tell them or I’ll send a picture in her big sister shirt. My mom and SIL are going to a show on Sunday and I don’t want to make my mom keep the secret the whole time 

We’re going to try to see my in-laws this weekend and just have DD wear her shirt and see how long it takes them to notice. Then send a picture to DH’s siblings. It’s still so early but since we saw the heartbeat I’m OK with telling immediate family. 

For social media, I saved the medicine bottles/syringe from our IF treatments so I want to incorporate that somehow but not sure exactly what yet. 

shortstack930

@krthouse that is so cute!!!

@bows22 I love the idea of incorporating your IF stuff into the announcement!

The only people I’ve really told have been the people who knew we were doing IVF so there was nothing special to it. My in-laws are coming to visit for Easter so I’m planning on having the girls wear “I’m going to be a big sister” shirts and seeing how long it takes them to notice. For our social media announcement I want to wait until after the anatomy scan just because I’m paranoid but it actually lines up with our trip to Disney in June. I want to get a picture of the 4 of us in front of the castle and wear a Disney maternity shirt that says “snacking for two”. 

hotmessexpress89

No fancy or fun announcements here 😅 I literally just handed my husband the test and then went to kiss my wine goodbye 🤣 

krthouse

@hotmessexpress89 before we started trying again I had a gorgeous sushi feast and we shared a big bottle of prosecco to send those things off right 😂

kateb31

We told our families by having someone video us and me saying “everyone say Kate’s pregnant”. Everyone was so surprised and over the moon. We didn’t tell anyone we were trying and everyone thought we never wanted kids😊

cfranx

Our 4 year old is very in tune to change and listens too well to our conversations- so we knew it wouldn’t be a secret kept very long. She was able to keep it quiet at daycare- I don’t blame her for telling her best friend… but we thought it would be unnecessarily stressful for her to keep quiet around family. So we bought a Big Sister shirt and took a video at my parents after she took her sweater off. My mom started jumping around and told her she’ll be an awesome big sis - my step dad got a little teary and just hugged me in shock.

g_gabs71016

I told my parents this weekend. I swear you hit baby #3 and people lose interest hahaha. But my daughter was very excited. We told her because she was worried about me vomiting all the time. Son still has no idea what is happening.

EmilyE13

On the day of my last ultrasound, my four year old explained to her whole pre-k class and teacher that her mom was at the doctor because she had a baby in her tummy. It had spread through the whole daycare within the day. 

jcw2018

I ordered 2 prints of this pic, and after my appointment Thursday, I will have sonogram pics to pair with this and put in a card or envelope for my in-laws and mom. On Thursday I’m gonna invite the in-laws to dinner and say we got pics made, here are yours. Then watch their reaction. On Friday when we give my mom her b-day gifts she will have the same two pics in her bday card. For the church I’m gonna reveal via txt message and send just a pregnant emoji first lol, let people ask then send the sonogram pic. (Don’t really do the whole social media thing. Got a church group txt☺️)

jcw2018

Btw love all of y’all’s reveal ideas! Too cute!!

krthouse

@jcw2018 This is so cute!!!

tpeci

Cute! We all tested positive for COVID the same day I got my BFP so that was that. We sent a picture to the immediate family with all of our positive tests. My family got it right away, the in-laws took a bit more time haha

We don't do social media so people will find out eventually when I see them once first trimester is done.

kelly_mom_mimi

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krysnicole1022

@g_gabs71016 this is so true. After two everyone assumes the baby was a surprise. With my third everyone kept asking us, but especially my husband, if he was surprised. He always responded with "why would I be surprised? We were trying for another."
Baby number four we aren't telling anyone we don't see. We didn't do any social media announcement with my last baby and then I was just like "surprise! We have a boy now." I did the old sitcom hide the belly trick for the entire pregnancy. I've come up with a more elaborate plan this time. It makes me sound a little over the top but I had so many miscarriages and so much bleeding this time that I just want to stay in this bubble. I don't want insensitive questions or judgement. I just want to maintain my peace with supportive people. 

kricron

How you STM+ sharing the news with your older children? This is baby #4 and this is the first pregnancy for me where my kids (6,5,3) are old enough to really understand what it means that we are “expecting” another baby. Would love to hear how others have shared the news.

g_gabs71016

@kricron With my daughter we just told her that we were going to have another baby in the family and that she’d be a big sister. She was maybe 2.5, almost three, and it didn’t really land until we got a bunch of books that talk about becoming a big sister, bringing a new baby home, etc. I find that with a lot of major life things books that cover the topic really help. One she likes and still asks to read is “What’s in there? All about before you were born.”

Now that she’s five, she really gets it. I just sat with her for a little bit and explained that she was going to be a big sister again and that I was growing a baby in my tummy. I tried to keep it simple. She was excited. Apparently she then told her entire class hahaha. The kids at school talk about it all the time, which is too funny.

Don’t know if that helps, but I do recommend a simple chat and books to reinforce and have the opportunity to talk about what is coming and what changes! It has worked for us.

bows22

@kricron my daughter is 4 we started out with a simple convo “you know how X at school has a baby brother? We’re going to have a baby in our family too” and she asked some questions and then changed the subject. We let her process that for a few days and then after my 6 week ultrasound we showed her the picture and let her be the one to tell our parents. I knew that easing her into it would be better for her, but your kids may be different depending on their personalities. 

vsigety

I just got my 8w ultrasound Friday. Told my mom on Saturday bc we were afraid I eas going to barf at her house while I was visiting. We told her via a wine bottle label. We will probably do the same for almost everyone. We will be waiting till around Easter to tell everyone else. 

mckenzc

We don’t do social media, but I do send out a monthly family newsletter via email to about 40 close friends and family. I’m so torn between announcing or saying absolutely nothing until I have a human to introduce 😆 is that too wild?

obviously my very best friends know & our parents. And then of course any and every stranger between the grocery store cashier and people at church get told “I have a baby in my mommy’s belly” from my 4 year old 😅

but anyway…I’m leaning pretty strongly into not “announcing”. It’s kind of like if you actually see me, you know. But if it’s going to be a while until you see me or would see my family…you’ll know when you know 🙃 

krthouse

It feels very funny that because I'm showing early I'm pretty obviously pregnant to my coworkers and some clients, and yet many of my friends have no idea if they haven't seen me in person. Announcing is going to feel so silly when I've been bumpy for like 3 weeks!

krysnicole1022

@mckenzc We did a big announcement for our first two. With our third we didn't tell people unless we saw them. We felt obligated to tell family but this time around we aren't even telling them. I'm tell like 5 close friends and I'll just wait until the baby is born after that. The only catch is that I have an extensive wardrobe and I often post full body outfits. I'm going to be camouflaging it and piling up posts for an extended release and then hide behind stuff in other pictures. It's a little over the top but after so many miscarriages I just don't feel comfortable. Plus no one cares really after the second kid. There are no grandparents to deal with (two have passed and the other two aren't involved) and neither of us are close with our siblings or family. He will tell his work at some point but that's about it. I really loved keeping it to.myself. I get enough comments about my size in public. Plus I will absolutely snap when people talk about how this baby must have come as a surprise (this happened a lot with our third) that I won't be able to handle it after all the blood, tears, and poking and prodding that came along with getting to this point. That's just my opinion. I'm definitely for it.

amille525

We announced on our socials. Our families and a few close friends knew we were going through ivf so they’ve all known for awhile but it felt nice to share. My daughter is so excited to be a big sister. We also took this picture in the same place as our wedding pictures and where we had one of our first dates.  

bows22

@amille525 absolutely adorable!!