Private group migration

mdfarmchick

Same, ladies. Go home Bump, you’re drunk. 

@twizzleraddict1 I completely get where you are coming from and understand. However, 4 days is just too soon to me to agree to add you in the Private Group. I don’t even understand how we could “verify” you really at this point. But I am willing to check here and keep interacting with you and anyone else over some time and see how things go. I’m sure you aren’t the only person who is joining a little later. ♥️

bridgiebee82

@twizzleraddict1 I can see where you're coming from. I just feel like being here for just a couple of days, compared to those of us who have been here for weeks or months, feels like we haven't had enough time to really get to know you and form a friendship with you. I'm definitely willing to stay and interact here to get to know you (and anyone else who joined/joins later). 

twizzleraddict1

@mdfarmchick @bridgiebee82 I can understand that. My experience before has shown me that once there is a private migration, there’s not a lot of room to build friendship here over on the public board after that. But I’ll still be here if anyone feels like chatting with me ha.

And to your comment about verifying @mdfarmchick i guess it depends on what you’re trying to verify haha. If it’s just that I am, in fact, a real person who is actually pregnant with a baby due in august 22, that is not difficult to verify (ultrasound pic w date and piece of paper with username in a pic or something like that). But if the real issue is just that I haven’t had time to connect with others yet, obviously there is no way to do that other than just chatting with everyone longer, which I hope I have the opportunity to do, I just feel like it won’t be possible after a migration, it will probably be the opposite because it will just be more time where others are connecting on the private board, which I won’t be a part of.

But I digress 😊

amberrmariee20

@wigglyicecream where do I find the private group ?

coco2787

If we were moving to FB right away I’d be hesitant to accept newer members but I personally don’t plan on sharing pics or personal info immediately in the private group so I don’t have a problem letting recently joined people in, especially if they’ve been active since joining. Obviously I don’t speak for everyone but I think if we recognize the name and they want to join we should let them. If people end up not being active in the private group or they seem sketch we can always kick them out. I just don’t like the idea of excluding people who are looking for support without giving them a chance. 

amberrmariee20

I think I found it. 

wigglyicecream

@amberrmariee20 it’s located under the list of bmbs. You have to click on groups and it’s called 822 regulars. 

@twizzleraddict1 as others have said I will definitely continue to participate in the public group for late joiners. I also understand the hesitation for joining late. I was a late joiner in my first bmb. The difference is our move was later so I had more time. If the majority of the regulars are willing to accept you being added now then we can moved forward with it 

dimeadozen

@wigglyicecream I don’t mind @twizzleraddict1 joining, or any newly dedicated members. I’ve found her on multiple boards getting involved with different conversations and I know I struggle with getting in all the boards. 

Unfortunately, even if she’d been here the whole time we wouldn’t necessarily know if she’s crazy. Some people are nuts and good at hiding it until later! (Tinder Swindler) 
Just my thoughts!

bridgiebee82

@dimeadozen Tinder Swindler! Bahahaha I snorted! 

dimeadozen

@bridgiebee82 I guess I don’t love anyone that much because howwwwww do these women fall for that! It’s SO over the top. 

twizzleraddict1

@dimeadozen ok, true story. One of my best friends is currently going through a rough divorce and back on the dating apps to kind of distract her. She went out on two dates with this guy and then he legit asked her if she wanted to meet him in Jamaica. Wtf?! I told her she should respond to him and ask if he’s watched the tinder swindler 😂

mdfarmchick

Haha well the joke is on me because I can’t actually post in the PG. 🤣🤦🏻‍♀️ Is it just me?

dimeadozen

@twizzleraddict1 yep, hard pass. 🚩 Is he at least from Jamaica? Still lots of questions and a big no for me!

twizzleraddict1

@dimeadozen he told her on their most recent date he was going there on a trip. Then he texted a few days later and she asked how Jamaica was and he asked if she wanted to join him there. So weird. Needless to say, she will not be going on any more dates with him haha.

and_peggy

Is anyone having issues using the private group? Looks like @mdfarmchick can’t post and I’m not sure if she’s the only one?

wisewitch222

@and_peggy I just made a test post in one of the threads and it worked.

twizzleraddict1

@coco2787 @dimeadozen thank you both for your inclusive attitude, I feel like that’s what this community is all about I hope to be able to join you on the private board. I would be lying if I said it doesn’t feel crappy to be excluded from a group that I was hoping would be a support system. 

bridgiebee82

@twizzleraddict1 I'm sorry you're taking people's desire for privacy personally. I'm a FTM and yes, I've shared a lot here, but also held back even more. I have not even shared a HDBD pic yet. I've been able to build relationships with the women here over the past couple months. I'd be lying if I didn't say it doesn't feel icky to have to share more private things with people I don't really know yet. That's kind of the point of the private group, right? I'm sorry if this hurts yours or anyone else's feelings. 

twizzleraddict1

I’m assuming since there has been no Tuesday or Wednesday thread over here they are probably just happening on the private board now. Is it worth me posting them over here as well, or is that just annoying to respond in two places? 

itsme215

@twizzleraddict1 post them here! There have only been a few threads posted on the other one so far. I just started the March symptoms thread here since nobody else did it yesterday and I needed to complain about myself 😆

dimeadozen

@twizzleraddict1 it’s just quiet this morning 

dimeadozen

@twizzleraddict1 also, @paytonpedro makes the majority of our threads and she’s enjoying her vacation right now. 

twizzleraddict1

@dimeadozen ahh okay that makes sense! I didn’t realize that. I didn’t want to be annoying with posting double threads. Thanks for enlightening! 

meagan822

I also tried to join the private chat and it said I was spamming. Lol, I thought being active was a good thing.🤣 I’ll try again later. 

Personally I’m not going to post anything very private even on the private group, simply because I don’t actually know anybody here. Even on our private social medias, we won’t be posting baby pictures, despite knowing everyone who follows us. It’ll be nice to prevent just anyone from seeing every post, but we’re just fairly private in general. 

With that said, I don’t mind any of the active participants (as long as it’s no one being rude or anything) joining the private group, whenever others are comfortable. I’m blessed to have not gone through anything traumatic or a loss before, but I’m certain I’d be very hesitant to get active until towards the end of the first trimester, if I had. I understand wanting the freedom to post more with those you’ve gone through more of the pregnancy as well, so perhaps there could be a more clear criteria for the newer moms joining, so no one is discouraged about feeling left out.💕 (For Example: Once you have been active ___ weeks and have participated is several threads, you are eligible to request joining..) Everyone is coming into it with a different perspective, so it’ll take patience to get everything up and going and people trickled in!😅

mrsmeg72

Ope! I missed this whole transition to the private group! I’ve been MIA on here the last two weeks dealing with a few curveballs (all social media had been on the back burner). I’ll hunt for the other group! 

paytonpedro

twizzleraddict1 said:

I’m assuming since there has been no Tuesday or Wednesday thread over here they are probably just happening on the private board now. Is it worth me posting them over here as well, or is that just annoying to respond in two places? 

You can scroll through, I don’t think many threads usually get posted on Tuesday’s or wednesdays. They mostly get started on mondays. 

paytonpedro

dimeadozen said:

@twizzleraddict1 also, @paytonpedro makes the majority of our threads and she’s enjoying her vacation right now. 

This too!! Sorry guys!! Yesterday was a travel day day, I’ll try to pop in and out while I’m on vacation though!! 

kbtt2022

@paytonpedro enjoy your vacation!!

rikiteacup

Why are there 2 private groups?  822 regulars and Private August 2022 mama Group

brittanynmorris

@rikiteacup Just quoting what @bridgiebee82 said so I don't have to type it all out. I am being lazy today.

bridgiebee82 said:

@kbtt2022 the August 22 mom's private was started shortly after someone got upset that people were being reminded over and over again to not make one off posts so as to not clutter the board. Ours is 822 Regulars. 

regalmommy1

Hi all, sorry late to the party, only just realized this thread exisits. So accidentally requested the private group before my brain turned on and realized the 822 was the regular. Tried to join the 822 and got told I was spamming also. This was several minutes after requesting the private group.

and_peggy

@regalmommy1 I added you in! Welcome to the party 😆

regalmommy1

@and_peggy Thank you!

ashamarie2

I'm late to the merge. As I said on my most recent public forum post, caught Covid and it took almost everything out of me for almost a month. I sent a request so I'm hoping it's not to late to join.

starkette

I don't think it's ever too late to join.

ashamarie2

💛

creglis

Tried joining and still no response? This board is dead I'd like to be a part of something more active ☺️

Katek819

ive applied to join as well.

corrinney

@creglis I agree. I keep looking for new posts but this board is super dry

coco2787

Anyone can create posts, if you don’t want a dead group then start some interactions! 

Over 140 people introduced themselves on here and there’s only 41 people in the private group. There should be plenty of people left to create community with.