Weekly Randoms w/o 1/24

inthewoods23

zinnia19

First of all, @inthewoods23, you are really rocking the gifs! Lol

Second, anyone (especially FTMs) occasionally just think to themselves, "oh wow, this is really happening!" I was standing in the mirror this evening staring at the bump and I started crying with joy. It was just one of those moments that it all hit me and I felt really grateful. The TTC journey was very emotionally challenging and it was hard on my mental health. I've been so much calmer and more content since getting pregnant. Anyway, I don't take it for granted and felt especially emotional about it all today. 💛

inthewoods23

@zinnia19 thanks! 😊 I mentioned it somewhere how I'm basically freaking out because I can tell my belly button is in the beginning stages of becoming an outie. It's on the move and omg my bump is GROWING!! This is totally new territory!

zinnia19

@inthewoods23 isn't it so cool to watch the bump grow?! It's wild. I think I'll be pretty weirded out if my belly button changes but I guess I better get prepared! 

LJMoon6

@zinnia19 I agree, @inthewoods23 is on point with the gifs! I suck at them. That’s half the reason I don’t like starting posts lol.

 

My random involves family drama and FB etiquette. So yesterday we got our NIPT results back and found out we’re having a healthy baby girl (yay!!). Our parents and grandparents knew but we had asked them to keep it a secret until now. We explicitly said yes you can share the news with others now but please keep it off of FB since we’re planning on doing an announcement when we’re on vacation in a couple weeks. Well… my grandma either didn’t hear this part (she’s nearly deaf) or it wasn’t relayed to her because she posted it on FB. All of the details too. Due date, girl, our infertility struggles. So I call my mom to tell her to help grandma take the post down (because I know there’s no way she’d be able to figure it out on her own. She’s 91). While I was talking to my mom about how rude it was and how it wasn’t her news to blast all over social media, of course my grandma has the hearing of a bat now and overhears me. She goes all super drama queen and says “I should just be dead so you don’t have to deal with me any more.” Are you f*cking kidding me gma?! Fast forward to last night and SHE POSTS A SECOND MESSAGE! I’m just… done. I’m not even going to acknowledge it. I can’t any more. It wasn’t THAT big of a deal to begin with but then her reaction just sent me over the edge. And then the second post was just a slap in the face. I’m trying so hard not to let this cloud my happy memories of finding out we’re having a girl. But damn, she’s making it hard.

zinnia19

@LJMoon6 Wow, just wow, grandma! That really sucks, I'm so sorry. I would be pissed if anyone I knew posted about our baby on social media. We haven't posted anything yet and will probably wait til 20 weeks. It's so unfair for people to steal the spotlight like that. An announcement should always come from the parents first! (Unless they really don't care, but I'm guessing most people do).

Congrats on your baby girl though! 😄 

runnergirl2018

@LJMoon6 I'm so sorry that happened! I"m so glad that in my grandma's last few y ears of life she had such bad arthritis that she wasn't on facebook anymore really, because i'm sure she would have still done that sort of thing. I'm sorry that you didn't get to tell people how you wanted to


@zinnia19 I definitely am having that feeling sometimes too - especially as my belly is growing and it's feeling more real.  I had a loss last year so part of me fluctuates with worry too, but the like, oh this baby is actually growing and i can SEE it is a pretty cool feeling too. LIke something REAL is happening in there

bearsandbeets7

@LJMoon6 I’m sorry that happened, that sucks! It is even worse that you all specifically asked that no one post anything and then she posted not once but twice. Hopefully you can still post something yourself.

My random is a rant. I had an appointment today and I asked about my NIPT results to see how to expect to get them back. Apparently the type of test they ordered is a newer one they started doing(our hospital sold last year and they are in the process of changing names and all that so I think that may be something with that) but the lab I went to for the blood work didn’t have the right collection tube, so they just didn’t do it. No one even told me so I’ve been anxiously awaiting results that will never come. She asked if I wanted her to reorder them but by the time I do it and get the results back it’ll be time for my anatomy scan anyway so I just opted not to. I am so sad that we have to wait even longer to make sure everything is good and to find out what LO is. Also, she was having trouble getting the heartbeat on the Doppler *cue panic attack* so they pulled in a portable ultrasound and saw everything is good she just couldn’t find it. 

rubyrose_0919

@zinnia19 @runnergirl2018 @inthewoods23 - big feelings about this growing belly too! I'm so happy to feel movement and be able to see and feel a small bump (17.5 weeks)...

...but I'm also so anxious about it! Due to our loss history we haven't told anyone and it is going to get harder to hide! Especially with spring around the corner! I remember (with my first) having a hard time with strangers starting to comment about it at the grocery store. It felt like a secret one minute and then public knowledge the next minute. You pass some invisible threshold and for some reason that was a big challenge for me. ❤


@LJMoon6 - that's so awful! My sharp tongue would've gotten me in trouble. My first thought when I read your response was "Post something again and I can arrange that for you!' 😂

LJMoon6

Sorry for posting that family drama and then ghosting (DS spiked a fever at daycare so I had to rush out the door to go get him, and then I don’t like bumping from mobile at home). I appreciate the comments. The situation has gotten slightly worse… Some details that I left out are that my grandma lives with my parents and that my mom and her do not get along. My grandma has been living with them for 4 years now and my mom has been walking on eggshells the entire time. My mom does so much for her. Cooks, cleans, does her grocery shopping… etc. And my grandma never once says thank you. In fact she just belittles her and everyone else and is so negative about everything. My mom can also see that my grandma doesn’t really like me, which I’ve known for a while, it’s no surprise to me. But my mom can see how my grandma treats each of the grandkids and I’m treated differently. I’m pretty sure it’s because we have different political views (I hate talking about politics and never bring it up, but my grandma is obsessed. I feel like she’s sort of written me off so to speak. It’s fine. Whatever.) Well, after the whole FB thing, my mom packed a bag and moved out. She couldn’t take it any more. It was the final straw. Well my aunt and uncle just happened to be visiting for my grandma’s birthday, and decided it was time for my grandma to move out and move in with them…. against my grandma’s wishes. She called my brother bawling her eyes out about leaving and never being able to see them (because that’s the only grandchild she cares about). So of course he had to call me to find out what I did and blame me. Of course I feel guilty, but it’s not even about the FB post. This was a long time coming. She really should be going into a home but she can’t afford it. Soooo…. Ugh. What a sh*t show.

zinnia19

@LJMoon6 wow, that's some drama! Honestly sounds like its for the best that she is moving, but unfortunate that you are getting blamed. That really sucks the way your grandma treats you and others. Why do old people get so mean sometimes? And different political views are not a reason to treat a family member poorly. My sister in law and I have completely different political views but we just don't talk about it! We have other things in common. Anyway, ugh, I'm sorry for the situation you are in!

tuxielove93

@LJMoon6 well that’s a mess. It’s always so hard when older people are mean and need to be taken care of. I guess this is your dads mom which is why your mom moved out? Side note: I absolutely detest how divided politics has made everyone. 

LJMoon6

@zinnia19 She really is the mean old grandma stereotype. My other grandma is the sweetest (we’re actually thinking about naming our daughter after her). And I hate that politics even come up. I try so hard to bite my tongue, but my grandma is the type to get in your face about it. She is so obsessed. And the sad thing is, we do have something in comment. We both like the same type of books. So why can’t she just talk to me about what she’s read recently… idk.

@tuxielove93 Ya, it’s my dad’s mom. My mom just moved in with my other grandma, her mom, that lives down the road from them. So it’s not as dramatic as it sounds. I think she’s planning on going back home today. My mom’s mom also needs some help and generally sleeps over at their house (my parents used to joke that they were running a nursing home lol). But she is sooooo different than my other grandma. She’s so appreciative of everything and doesn’t judge someone for their beliefs. It’s crazy how different the 2 are.

stardustskies

Just painted the nursery (blue) and it's so cute! Our 3 year old is at his grandparents house this weekend and I know he's going to be so jealous when he gets home because his favorite color is blue. Hopefully he doesn't make us do his room next lol. Also hoping the sneak peek and nipt was right because I'll feel really silly if the anatomy scan shows girl! 😂