We’re having another girl…

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Hi! I’m new here! 

But not new to motherhood. I have a 16 months old girl, whom I love dearly. 

For our second child we were really hoping for a boy. I wanted a husband for my boy for all the traditional reasons - carrying on his family name, couching would-be-boy in sports, etc. 
While I feel like a female can still do all of those things, he is a bit more traditional and I respect that. 

Well, when we found out today that we are expecting another girl, my husband’s reaction was mediocre and unenthusiastic. I wanted a boy more than I realized also, but I’m happy to have a healthy baby either way, so my reaction to seeing the gender (we did a private reveal, just the two of us) was happy still. 

His lack of excitement really hurt my feelings and I’m trying to let him process in his own way, but I’m still disappointed. 

I know him well enough to know that his reaction is a bit fueled by fear of raising girls, that will be less that 2 years apart by the way. 

What can I say to him? I don’t want to give him the cold shoulder. But I can’t find the words to explain how his reaction made me feel. Should I just leave it alone? 

Don’t get me wrong, my husband is an AMAZING father to our daughter and he will be to our next daughter. I’m just looking for some advice, no judgement. Thanks!