March 2022 Moms

Randoms week of Dec 27

Sorry, I'm slacking on posting! It's a few days late, but what is going on in your lives this week?
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Re: Randoms week of Dec 27

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  • @friends-fan
    I’m so happy for you! Will continue to think and pray for you!

  • @faithmovesmountains Thank you!  And praying for you and Lilly Rose as well ♡  Hopeful for growth for her. 
  • @faithmovesmountains @friends-fan Woweeee! Double great news! I'm thrilled for both of you! Fingers crossed that everything continues to trend positively in the next appts! 
  • @faithmovesmountains that’s great news!! FX that things keep looking up and Lilly Rose stays healthy!
  • @friends-fan so happy to hear your news!! FX everything continues to look good! Sorry you have to do the GTT test again though. 
  • @faithmovesmountains @friends-fan so happy you both had great MFM visits!!
  • @faithmovesmountains @friends-fan what a great update from both of you! So glad! 
  • So happy for you both @friends-fan and @faithmovesmountains ❤️❤️❤️
  • @Sarah0335 I felt like garbage after my glucose tests last time around. I felt better after a big veggie sandwich and a nap! Glad you passed yours!!
  • @faithmovesmountains and @friends-fan great updates! Happy for you both!

    @Sarah0335 Glad you passed the GTT! I also felt tired from my test yesterday! I ate lunch soon after and then took a long nap.
  • @Sarah0335 i only had the 1 hour yesterday but still didn't feel well for pretty much the whole day. Hope it passes soon! 
  • @faithmovesmountains and @friends-fan So thrilled for such amazing news for both of you ❤ 
  • yay so glad for good news from both of you @faithmovesmountains @friends-fan
    Lilypie Pregnancy tickers
  • @friends-fan @faithmovesmountains glad to hear good news!

    @friends-fan can you tell me more about the kidneys? My baby has a mild case of extra fluid in her kidneys. It hasn’t grown since my last appt thankfully but I’m a bit nervous about it. One kidney is at 7mm and the other one is at 5mm. 
  • @friends-fan @faithmovesmountains so glad to hear great news from both of you!! 
  • Anybody else get crampy after exercise? Every time I ride my bike I end up with low abdominal cramps and like an achy feeling for a while after. I don't want to give up my rides, but it does freak me out a bit, especially with my placenta issues and the risk of bleeding .just wondering if it's normal. I don't think they're bh contractions because it's relatively constant, but I don't think I've ever had bh contractions so what do I know!?!
  • @morgantu something similar happens to me. I get crampy or round ligament pain probably when I push myself exercising. It also has been hanging around for a little bit after workouts. I talked to my OB about it and she didn’t seem worried, but told me not to overly push myself if it hurts too 🤷🏻‍♀️
  • @morgantu
    Not crampy per se, but round ligament pain and sciatica.
    Actually,  I tried some stretches with a yoga/ birthing ball tonight and the sciatica got bad again after. Lilly Rose also feels very low right now, hoping sleep helps to shift her position a little if her head is pressing on those nerves to cause the pain… lol

    Sorry you get so cramped and achy from your bike rides. :/ Maybe check with your OB to be sure if you should stop?
  • All day today my belly feels so distended. It feels like someone has pumped my whole abdomen full of air. I’m not gassy or anything, it’s not my stomach. Feels so weird and slightly uncomfortable. Definitely don’t remember this happening with DS. 
  • @MusicalFamily DD1 had a dilated kidney all the way up until after delivery. They weren't too concerned as all the other testing etc came back normal. They just tracked it with monthly ultrasounds until birth and then she had an ultrasound when she was about a week old. Luckily it resolved itself after birth, but they said that even if it hadn't it wasn't something to be overly concerned with. That we would just watch for signs of UTIs etc. Nothing surgical. It was just a few things to look out for as she grew. FX yours resolves by birth or shortly after ❤
  • And now I’m being stupid and bawling because my best friend of 13 years seems to have officially cut me off. I was trying so hard to meet her halfway and I’m not even worth one last phone call, just ‘it was nice knowing you. I’ll pray for your kid.’
    I regret talking about my worries for the baby at all two weeks ago, because if I had just kept it all in I’d still have a friend.

    I’ve read and reread her letter that came in the midst of all this. 
    All she really tells me is I have to let go of the trauma, ptsd, and anxiety I have faced because I let them define me and they will only get worse. That I need to give them to God and stop picking them up.

    But I do give them to God every day, just some things trigger those feelings again at times and I guess I’m too weak. I fail to keep them at bay continuously, but I try so hard to stay positive…

    Then her letter goes on to say how I’m mentally and emotionally manipulative. My messages trying to explain myself in between and telling her how I felt at one point I couldn’t take the stress and wanted to talk things out if we could were evidently me being too forceful and wanting to make her feel sorry for me so I’d get my way. She said I used her as a crutch and she felt our friendship was nothing more than my codependent coping mechanism.

    She okayed after the letter I could form a response with time and I said it would be in the form of daily journals I would pray and write what I felt led to. I felt like I had God’s guidance as for about a week I wrote the journals, never knowing where the next day would go.
    It was when finished in essence a gentle explanation of my side, reasoning, asking for communication so I could understand her side better especially if our friendship should go on so things wouldn’t spiral again, and a reminder of love and how much our friendship has meant.
     I sent it when I felt it was done and now she’s decided it’s all over.

     I’m sorry to rant, but I’m just at a loss.
     The past few weeks have been hard without any friends to speak of, but by the grace of God and talking to you all I felt like I was okay.
    But now knowing the friendship is over, I just feel overwhelmed all over again. I wonder if I’m just a really crappy person who doesn’t deserve friends. 
    I thought I deserved at least one good friend to confide in. That telling a good friend my hopes and fears was okay, a sign of trust even, but no. I was just being a burden. A part of me wonders if I’m being a burden to you all even now… if so please forgive me, I just need to get this off my chest.
     I know you all have said before this is an open space, but… I don’t know, I’ll shut up now.

  • @faithmovesmountains and @friends-fan
    Yay!! What great news to hear from both of you!! This makes me so happy!!
  • @faithmovesmountains I'm so sorry your friend turned out to be such a dud. Any person who tells you to "just get over your trauma" is a horrible person and not worthy of your time. You deserve so much better and I'm sorry she is so cruel and hurtful. It sounds like she is really self centered and selfish. No friend should EVER make you feel like a burden for sharing your struggles.
    It's not like you're whining that you can't decide between a blue or black Prada bag. You have very serious and difficult things going on in your life, and a real friend would be there for you. Don't let her blame her short-comings on you! This is HER being a crappy person. Not you being a burden! ❤️
  • I have a FFC:
    I pretty much hate my light duties accomodation position.
    It's safer than being on the streets, and I'm grateful for that. But I always get the dud positions haha. (Everyone else gets easy, laid back positions. I get the high stress, high demand, time consuming ones).

    I have not been able to bring myself to answer the phone today. I'm so stressed over this stupid position. I just keep sending everything to voicemail.😅
  • @faithmovesmountains I'm sorry. I have had some toxic friendships in the past that I had to let go of for my own happiness and mental health. This is not your fault. You were not and are not in the wrong. I found some lovely new mom friends who I had more in common with once DD1 got a bit older since the majority of my friends are childless by choice and just don't get children, babies, loss etc. It may not feel like it now but I know that you will form new and more meaningful friendships in the future. We are very different people now than we were 13 years ago. I always remember the saying that people come into your life for a reason. Some for a moment, some for a life time, and some for a season. And no matter how long they choose to stay, they will all mark your life in a meaningful way. Perhaps this friend was simply a season, and you have so much more of your lifetime left to be marked by new friendships ❤
  • @faithmovesmountains I am so sorry you are going through this with your friend. But I agree with what @goldfishcraker said. It was never right of her to make those comments about your trauma and your responses to it. That alone proves that she isn’t worthy of being in your life at this point (while this for sure doesn’t make it any easier anyways..) I have lost a lot of lifelong friends for various reasons and I only bring that up because while it still makes me sad no matter how many years have past, I have since found “better fitting” friends for this stage of my life. And I know/hope the same will happen for you.
    So many hugs to you my friend ❤️
  • @Panaceia thank you. Mfm said she will need an ultrasound after birth and did say it can resolve itself. Praying for that. She wants to see me every 2 weeks and my regular OB to see me the other week. 
  • @goldfishcraker
    I want to believe I didn’t do anything wrong here, but I’m just so confused by all this.

    @Panaceia and @nursejenn5
    I hope you’re both right about finding better friends that fit this stage of life. At the moment just feel like I’d manage to screw that up too.

    Thank all three of you for your kind words.


  • And now the OB called to say I’m still anemic and need to go to L and D for iron infusions. They said just 3 times supposedly? 
    Either way, now my appointment schedule looks like:
    1/3 at MFM, 1/5 L +D for Iron, 1/6 regular OB, 1/7 L+D for Iron, 1/9 L+D for Iron, 1/11 MFM for growth scan…
    Going to be a busy new year lol
  • @faithmovesmountains I am sorry that the situation with your friend has reached this point. But these are HER issues, not yours. You should not have to censor yourself by hiding your trauma or grief to make anyone happy, let alone a “friend”. If you were expressing joy and happiness and all things positive 100% of the time, would she tell you to rein that in? To “let go” of it? Of course not. I understand completely how devastating it can be to lose a friendship, especially one that you’ve had for years. From what I’ve read of your friendship with this particular person, it seems like she wants the surface happy of being your friend without the work of maintaining a true supportive bond. Relationships with anyone are give and take, and there will inevitably be the lows mixed in with the day to day normal, and the highs. If they can’t deal with the lows, they don’t deserve the highs. You deserve better from her. Even if it’s just a quiet ear to listen and an “I can’t comprehend what you’re going through, but I’m sorry you’re going through it and I’m here for you.” That is friendship. Her behavior is not. And that’s HER behavior. Not yours. You didn’t make her say those things, or act the way she has. You are not responsible for her decisions. This isn’t your screw up. It’s hers. 
    Hugs and prayers to you, and please don’t bottle yourself up. If you need to vent, do it. It’s much healthier for you!
  • @faithmovesmountains I'm so sorry things did not turn out better with your friend or she is in a position to support you better. I agree with what's been said above- this is not a you issue, it's an issue with your "friend". There may be things that she is not willing to acknowledge in herself that she is projecting onto you. I know it's really hard to lose a friend like that, so I really do feel for you.

    AFM, did i tell you all DH took DD to his parents' skiing for a couple of days? They went today and she had a great time! and i am having a great time doing nothing at home! I do feel a little guilty that i'm not being more productive, cleaning or organizing or something but...i just can't bring myself to do it! I just want to sit and watch tv and bask in my laziness! 
  • @morgantu enjoy your lazy time!! Goodness knows we don’t get the opportunity often lol 
  • @musical family im sorry for the delayed response.  It was a long work day today. I was only told that DS kidneys were mildly dilated but never a measurement. My OB told me that it is a very common occurrence especially with the sensitivity of the equipment these days. The only reason they wanted to look deeper into our case was because there were 2 soft markers on a second trimester scan. As baby boy progressed onto 28 weeks, the size of the dilation of his kidneys is now considered within normal range and no longer a cause for concern.  The MFM told me of the same thing about the sensitivity of equipment and how they are able to detect such minor things now that sometimes it causes us moms such unnecessary worry. Prayers and well wishes that all goes as well with yours as well!  
  • @Sarah0335 So glad you passed your 3 hour!  Thats a relief I am sure  ♡
  • @faithmovesmountains I am SO very sorry that your "friend" has made you feel so crummy.  That is most definitely not how a friend should ever act towards you.  Trust me, its not you, its her.  You should be able to confide in her, no matter what, and never fear judgment. It doesn't sound like it was that way to me.  I also echo others, when they say there will be new friends for this new season of life.  Friends that you will have more in common with and will build new bonds. Its definitely tough for such a friendship to come to an end after such a lengthy time, but it sounds as if its for the best.  Maybe she is in a different time in her life, so she doesn't understand your struggles and concerns that are absolutely valid, by the way. Possibly in the future you two may reconnect, maybe not. I'm sure it is very difficult in this moment, but maybe it won't be such a source of stress for you to constantly wonder if its okay to share your current struggles and insecurities with her.  

    We never mind to hear what's going on in your life!  Don't ever feel like a burden   You most definitely are not a burden in any way!  Everyone has things they need to vent in their life, some positive, some negative. This is a safe space to do so.  Hugs to you 
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