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March 2022 Moms
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Weekly Check In 12/13
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EDD / Weeks + Days:
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact:
FTM/STM/TTM+:
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green:
Upcoming Appointments:
How are you feeling?:
Rants/Raves:
Questions:
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022?
Re: Weekly Check In 12/13
EDD / Weeks + Days: March 21 / 26+0 RCS between the 13th and 15th
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: Argh haven't looked it up...but I'll make up my own again...slightly bigger than an elf on the shelf.
FTM/STM/TTM+: TTM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Blue 💙
Upcoming Appointments: Tuesday for OB, 22nd for GP
How are you feeling?: Sick as always, but have found that it helps a bit when I don't mix liquids and solids. So that's something. Emotionally the constant movement is definitely helping! I just hope he stays this active for the next few months...
Rants/Raves: DD2 has been sleeping solidly through the night and only asking to nurse sporadically...which is good since I'm pretty sure my milk dried up...I'm so hopeful that this will be her new normal by March so that she won't be waking constantly at night if baby ends up being a noisy sleeper. Also DD1 finally cleaned out her closet...all her clothes were size 6...she's really thin so she was making it work, but she's really tall and actually a size 10 now so we finally sat down and ordered her a new wardrobe. She's super picky about textures though do I hope she wears what we got her...
Questions: Not today:)
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? Nope. Not really a resolution person. I think my bog goal this year though is going to be to make sure I still get enough individual time with the girls after the baby gets here. I want to make sure they know they are still my world even with a new baby. And also, not really a resolution, but if numbers get better and the littles (like 6 months +) can get vaccinated I'm really hopeful I can start taking the girls places again. I'm very much an experience and adventure type parent. I prefer constantly going places and doing things with them and it has been HARD not going anywhere the past 2 years.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 26w
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: kale
FTM/STM/TTM+: TTM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: December 15 - OB apt
How are you feeling?: OK. Struggling with some anxiety right now, maybe due to being close to Christmas and lots going on with work that I likely cannot complete before year end. Plus my son has a surgery tomorrow (adenoids and tonsils removed) that I can't help be nervous about.
Rants/Raves: Almost in the home stretch of this pregnancy!
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I typically make them but am not great at keeping them. I never go on a diet at new years, but for three years in a row my new years resolution is to start meditating. I still don't know how to meditate even though I would really like to
@realhousewife519 best wishes for your son's surgery tomorrow! I'm sending all my best thoughts.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 3/25, 25+3
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: head of cauliflower
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Girl
Upcoming Appointments: Tomorrow morning for a basic midwife checkup. I think the appointment after that is when I have to do the GD test
How are you feeling?: Ok. My belly really popped the last couple weeks, which helps a lot with my body dysmorphia because now I feel like I look pregnant instead of just feeling like I'd gained 25 pounds for no reason. This weekend I was super achey from my fall down the stairs on Friday, but that has gotten better now. I have a terrifyingly gnarly bruise on my arm from that fall, and I'm feeling really grateful that baby didn't get hurt in that fall, and that I didn't get seriously hurt either.
Rants/Raves:
Questions:
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I'm not big on these. When I do make a resolution it's usually to work out more, just because I feel so much healthier when I do. But it's so hard to squeeze in the time these days.
@Panaceia oh man, your DD1 getting all new clothes is fun! I need to go through DD's closet and box things up that are too small, I can't wait for this bb to be born so i know if i get to get rid of all those clothes or use them again (and then get rid of them lol)
@realhousewife519 thinking of you! I hope the surgery is straighforward and everything goes perfectly. Your anxiety is totally warranted, though- i'm sure i would be a mess.
@jessier19 glad you're feeling better and all is well with you and baby after the scary fall!
EDD / Weeks + Days: 26+1 3/20
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: idk. I can't keep track of these
FTM/STM/TTM+: stm
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: greeeeeeeeen
Upcoming Appointments: dec 28 for US and Ob check
How are you feeling?: ok, I just posted in PGAL that i get so anxious when i don't feel bb for like, 20 mins. Even though i know it's normal and I'm mostly distracted so just really feel the big moves. I had forgotten about this from my last pregnancy, but i was the same way. Just had more time to sit and really count/pay attention then.
Rants/Raves: Both for DD! We had her trampoline park birthday party yesterday and she had a blast. I'm so glad we were able to postpone it from when she was sick. Rant is that she is sooooo cranky in the mornings when she has to go to daycare. It makes the whole morning difficult and idk how to snap her out of it.
Questions: nah
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? i'm not a resolution gal. I do sometimes make goals or a vision board (i know, wooooo) but they're typically pretty vague, which is unhelpful lol.
@realhousewife519 thinking of your son ❤️
EDD / Weeks + Days: 28w4d 3/3
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: as tall as a pringles can
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: blue #2
Upcoming Appointments: 22nd
How are you feeling?: good the kid is super active
Rants/Raves: so DH has covid so me and DS are bunkering down at my parents. Today is day 4 and I feel like I’ve already lost my mind 😳 you’d think life would throw us a bone, at this point it’s just comical
Questions: natm but following up from last week still no linea nigra
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022?
EDD / Weeks + Days: 25+5
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: No clue!
FTM/STM/TTM+: stm
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: blue
Upcoming Appointments: early Jan….I can’t remember what day.
How are you feeling?: meh. Thankful I have less than 15 more weeks of this
Rants/Raves: getting moved in and settled is taking so much longer than I planned. Our tree is halfway up and at this rate I won’t be done decorating for Christmas til Christmas Eve…and don’t even get me started on all the non Christmas stuff that is still in the garage.
Questions: anybody else just completely exhausted every day? I don’t remember being this exhausted in the second trimester last time.
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I don’t do resolutions. I think we just didn’t do them growing up, so I never think about it when the time comes around.
@jessier19 Glad you are starting to heal up and feel better from the fall. I'm sure that was a scary experience.
@morgantu That's great that she had a blast at her birthday! I love watching the kids at their parties, but am also relieved when they are over because it is a surprising amount of work.
EDD / Weeks + Days: March 7th/ 28 weeks
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: Eggplant
FTM/STM/TTM+: FTM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Blue
Upcoming Appointments: Wednesday. Growth US, OB and GD test
How are you feeling?: Not too bad. Learning I can't eat after 5pm or I get such bad heartburn when I lay down that I get sick.
Rants/Raves: Glad to finally be in the third trimester! I'm grateful for this baby, but can't wait to meet him and not be pregnant anymore.
Questions: When do you usually pack your hospital bag? Any tips from past experiences?
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I usually do just because I like the idea of setting periodic goals for myself. New years is an excuse, but I'll do them randomly too. For 2022 I want to work on finding more balance. Work can be a lot and I need to manage how to control that better and focus on the baby and getting back into a healthy lifestyle routine for our family.
For me:
Change of clothes for going home (I only wear hospital gowns at the hospital so I don't ruin my own clothes)
Socks
Sandals (waterproof so I can wear them in the shower)
Brush / comb / elastics
Shampoo and conditioner
Phone and charger
Toothbrush and toothpaste
Pads
For baby:
A couple of sleepers
Sleepsack
Appropriate outdoor clothes for going home
Pack of diapers
2 packs of wipes
Blanket (to cover baby in car seat)
That's pretty much all I take. I rely on SO for entertainment and if we feel fancy or end up needing to stay for an extended period of time we get a TV subscription while we're there. This time SO will have to pack a bag and cooler too since I don't think he'll be allowed to come and go.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 3/27 25+1
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: prairie dog
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink!
Upcoming Appointments: 12/29 and my GTT
How are you feeling?: pretty good! On modified bedrest, I’m allowed to do be up and moving and can do a lot now. Only restriction I have really is no work, 12 hours as an ICU nurse wouldn’t be the best move for my cervix that’s literally hanging by a thread
Rants/Raves: Small rant….I have had so many appointments with all the issues we have encountered, all within the same healthcare system. Sometimes 2-3 times a week. EVERY SINGLE time I go when the nurse does her whole check in process (never really the same person) they always say “This is your 4th pregnancy and you have 1 living child?” Yes and why do I need to revisit my losses every appointment? It’s in my chart, clearly nothing has changed and it’s rude to constantly bring it up. Raves…Nursery is coming along great and we are almost done. Just have to wash everything and hang a few things up!
Questions:
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I make very generalized loose resolutions that I never follow through with. Not sure if I’ll do one this year since the last month has been so crazy. Just trying to survive.
leggings (maternity ones, you will probably not be ready for regular clothes, especially if you have a csec)
nursing bras/tanks
Open front sweater/robe (be ready for anyone and everyone to see your boobs)
extra long charger for phone
toothbrush/toothpaste
mindless magazine to pass time
Snacks!
For baby:
Hospitals here provide all the "necessities" including diapers, wipes, swaddles, hats, bottles if necessary.
We just bring a couple outfits in newborn and 0-3mo, some clothes to go home, and possibly a pacifier if you are comfortable/want to use one early.
Make sure you practice with your car seat before you get to the hospital. In the US at least, nursing/hospital staff cannot help you with the car seat because of liability.
Do we have a hospital bag thread? I feel like that was really helpful to me as a ftm.
@jessier19 Hope you heal quickly and glad it wasn’t any worse. Still sounds absolutely terrifying.
@gembud god your life is the epitome of “one thing after another” right now. Geez. I agree though that it sounds like DH is on a vacation while you solo parent 😂
@Sarah0335 I believe with my first I had my bag packed around 37 weeks. There really isnt much you absolutely need to take but a few helpful things I brought were:
-depends (like the diapers, the BEST)
-dermoplast spray (blue bottle) for perineal comfort
-witch hazel pads
-extra long phone cord
-multiple hair ties
-chapstick
-dry shampoo
-deodorant
-my own travel size soap, shampoo/conditioner
-nursing pillow
-an outfit you want baby to come home in
-leggings and a comfy shirt with easy nursing access
-i’ll also bring a manual breast pump with me this time
It may be different elsewhere, but in most US hospitals you definitely do not need diapers, wipes, diaper ointment, pacifier, or blankets for baby unless you only want to use your own specific brand.
We should have a hospital bag thread up soon if not already. Definitely enough to discuss to make it a whole thread. I did find it helpful too to have just a small bag with all laboring things I needed separate from what I needed after delivery. Less to lug into L&D when I first got there. DH just went out and got the other bag once we were moved up to mother/baby.
EDD / Weeks + Days: March 10th, 27+4
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: as tall as a barbie doll I think
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: OB and GTT on Friday
How are you feeling?: Physically, healing from the preterm labor scare that started last Wednesday. Makes sense, but still surprising, how sore my whole abdomen is from contracting. Still being really careful with how long I’m on my feet and just listening to my body. Also feel like I could sleep for hours every afternoon despite sleeping 9+hrs every night. Emotionally still processing the whole admission. So thankful for a good outcome and that I had my L&D nurse best friend in my ear from the beginning about getting in quickly so I didn’t progress any further. Thankful for science and medicine while also lamenting the fact that there has been more pumped and injected into my body in the last week than the entire pregnancy so far.
Rants/Raves: Ranting that healthcare systems/medical leave/disability is such a joke in the US. So much I wish was different, specifically the fact that if I need decreased hours or time off at work it will directly affect the amount of time I have off after delivery and could jeopardize my ability to have health insurance.
Questions:
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I have never made resolutions. But I do love the sentiment that the new year brings about a feeling of a fresh start and new beginning.
I haven't packed mine yet, but mine last time had a lot of stuff for labor itself (I try to go unmedicated so that ends up involving bringing more props for comfort/movement). I haven't packed mine yet but off the top of my head I think last time I had:
a yoga mat
a comfy machine-washable blanket (hospital sheets are the worst)
an essential oils diffuser (if your hospital allows them)
a battery-powered Bluetooth speaker to play my labor playlist
A nursing bra
A coming home outfit for baby
A comfy robe
A water bottle with a straw (nursing makes you soooooo thirsty)
Minimal snacks of the kind a laboring person can handle -- coconut water, gatorade, clif bars (if your hospital allows you to eat during labor)
Insurance card and personal ID
Warm socks
Ponytail elastics or soft stretchy headbands
Birth ball (most hospitals have these, but I left one in the car in case they were all in use)
By the way, best advice I ever received last time around: Make sure your partner knows how to install the infant car seat, and then put it in the trunk on your way to the hospital. That way, the whole back seat was mine to stretch out in on the way to the hospital. It made the ride to the hospital soooo much less awful while I was dealing with contractions.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 27 weeks +5 days, due March 9
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: Baby was 2lbs and 2 oz at MFM scan today.
FTM/STM/TTM+: Complicated
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: 12/21 at MFM, 12/22 regular OB, 12/29 at MFM, 1/3 at MFM, 1/11 at MFM
How are you feeling?: Tired, anxious, overwhelmed. Posted details in PGAL earlier.
Rants/Raves: I feel like every time I dare to hope a little bit, I get backhanded by life right now. Not trying to be dramatic, I know everyone has their problems. I just really feel like I’m spiraling today. I just want baby girl to be happy and healthy and for everything to be okay.
With recent events in mind, I wish more than ever I could call her by name, talk about her by name, but I just can’t take the stress if anyone decides to be a jerk and run their mouth about it.
Questions: I don’t even know atm.
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022?
I don’t make New Years resolutions. Though in 2022 I just want to be a good mom to both my kids.
@night_nurse I honestly don't know how you guys do in the states with your mat leave etc the way it is. This time I will have been off work this entire pregnancy on medical leave with full pay, none of that time off is allowed to be counted against maternity leave, then after baby comes I will have 18 months off (2 months with full pay and the rest with an EI subsidy from the province...not much but a couple k a month) with the option of 18 more months...no subsidy if we take the extra 18 months after the original 18 months but we have full job protection so we're still guaranteed to go right back to our exact jobs with no penalty. My job also continues to cover all health insurance not already covered by the province while on leave. Plus we don't pay for any medical stuff so we don't have any costs for pregnancy, childbirth, hospital stays, scans, appointments etc. I hope you guys start getting better coverage, leave and benefits at some point!!!!!
EDD / Weeks + Days: 3/31 24+4
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: something is as big as a bottle cap?
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Blue
Upcoming Appointments: had my regular 24w appt today. Jan 11 is my 28 week plus glucose and labs. I have a history of a clotting disorder so they check my platelets semi regularly during pregnancy.
How are you feeling?: heartburn is killer so I finally got a prescription for some Pepcid today. My SI joint is still really bad at times I may try to dig out my support belt from last time
Rants/Raves: rave: I finished putting together the crib and dresser for the nursery! It’s a budget month for us (we periodically do them throughout the year to keep our spending on track) so I’m trying to hold off on the cute decor I have picked out.. but it’s so hard to not just go crazy and get the nursery close to done! I’m sure in the next week I’ll start washing clothes and such because I like to keep busy even when I shouldn’t 😂
Questions: nothing
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? Not really a resolution person. But this next year I’d like to try and pick something up hobby wise for myself. Even if it’s small (looking into bullet journaling or learning hand lettering)
@faithmovesmountains would it help at all to call her by name with us? We are here for you!❤️
@gembud I'm sorry DH has COVID! I hope you guys managed to avoid it and that he's feeling ok?
@morgantu I feel you so much with the anxiety not feeling movement for a few minutes even! You are not alone!!
EDD / Weeks + Days: 26 wks 😲 March 21
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: bunch of kale apparently
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: found out
Upcoming Appointments: currently waiting at the OB. Literally RACED to get here, because work ran over by 20 min, and now I've been waiting for 30 min.. ,🙄
How are you feeling?: Ok. Anxious. * TW* had some spotting yesterday for the first time in a long while. DH had to talk me down. But my anxiety has been +++ since then. end TW*
Rants/Raves: someone seems to have removed the "please silence cell phones" poster in the waiting room, and someone is being super inconsiderate
Questions: can't remember 😅
GTKY: no resolutions here.
@faithmovesmountains she has a lovely name and you decide when and how you want to use it. If it gives you comfort to use it here with us, we’re here!
@gembud jeeeeeez, the universe needs to cut you some slack! I’m just sorry Covid has been added to the pile.
EDD / Weeks + Days: Mar 14/ 27w
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: fist is size of a blackberry
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: Dec 23 for sugar test, OB visit, and schedule c section
How are you feeling?: ok, haven’t puked again since last week so that’s a plus but I definitely have to keep meals small and frequent. The anxiety is the real issue. I totally relate to @morgantu because I’ve had a couple days with less movement and they have freaked me out. Invariably the next day she’s doing flips but in those quiet periods I kinda lose my mind.
Rants/Raves: Rave is that I have Mondays off all month because I had PTO to burn.
Questions:natm
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? Nope. I make goals about how many books I’ll read. It was 25 this year and I think I’ll try for 40 next year.
@jessier19 glad youre feeling a little better after your fall.
@gembud I hope DH feels better quickly.
@night_nurse Hope your overall soreness subsides, but so glad you’re both doing ok.
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: Her fist is apparently the size of a blackberry
FTM/STM/TTM+: Complicated
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Pink
Upcoming Appointments: Jan 3, Growth scan and ON
How are you feeling?: Physically good! I had my Glucose screen this morning and felt like yuck for a little bit, but better as the day has gone. I still feel like I’m going to fail, but I don’t know why exactly. Emotionally: good and meh. Talked to the doctor today about birth plan and think we are going to go with a scheduled C, and she’s going to take my tubes while she’s in there. I’m having mixed feelings about the whole thing.
Rants/Raves: Can’t think of anything specific at the moment except that I was super excited to eat a chocolate chip cookie after my glucose test this afternoon, and now I’m really excited to do Christmas baking with my son
Questions: natm
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I used to do resolutions, but struggled to stick with them if I actually labeled it a resolution. So I don’t do them anymore.
@achanceintime I'm glad you have a birth plan bit sorry you're not feeling completely comfortable with it. Is it the c-section or the tube removal you're not completely sold on? Or both?
@realhousewife519 wishing for a smooth procedure and quick recovering for your little guy!
@jessier19 so glad you and baby are safe after the fall this week!
@morgantu I like the idea of a vision board!
@appleblossom8317 I am definitely struggling with fatigue!! For me, it is more physical fatigue. I make it a point to lay down to rest in the middle of the day and I find I do much better when I can manage that. The days I cannot lay down in the middle of the day, I get in bed right after I put DD1 to bed because I physically cannot be upright any longer.
EDD / Weeks + Days: 4/6/22 23+4
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: toe the size of… something ridiculous I can’t remember. I’ll take a page from @Panaceia and guess toe the size of a mini chocolate chip
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Girl
Upcoming Appointments: midwife appt today, glucose test in January
How are you feeling?: nausea and heartburn are in check at the moment. My big struggle is abdominal muscle fatigue/Braxton hicks/general physical exhaustion. I need to lay down at some point during the day, otherwise I have too much discomfort to be able to sit through dinner at the table with my family. It feels like an excessive amount of physical fatigue for this gestational age. The midwife ran some labs to check on any underlying things, but i think it is doubtful that it is anything we can ‘treat’ and see improvement with. I’m trying to embrace listening to my body and focus on how thankful I am to have the job flexibility and support at home from DH to be able to rest when I need to.
Rants/Raves: Rave: Jeni’s street treats. My username comes from my love of Jeni’s splendid ice cream and (per my request) my brother got me an ice cream delivery for Christmas. The personal size street treat mini-cartons are SO delicious and the perfect after dinner snack 😆
Questions: has anyone else had blood pressure issues so far or in a previous pregnancy? I had gestational htn in my first pregnancy and bp is starting to creep up a bit already, so how that will be managed is at the top of my mind right now.
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? Like many others, I am not really a resolution person. I tend to think more along the lines of do I have a general word or concept of inspiration for the year that I can keep in mind and revisit when I need inspiration at home or work. I’ve used ‘grounded’ in years past. I haven’t decided what I’m thinking for next year. Maybe ‘celebrate’? It feels like I haven’t done enough of that in last two years. Or maybe ‘gentle’, as a way to remind myself to be very kind to myself and my family around the transition and work it will be to welcome baby girl #2 next year.
Lots to catch up on!
@panaceia I love that resolution, and also want to make sure that I spend quality time with each of my babies. Also hoping that we can get more of the younger ones can get vaccinated!
@realhousewife519 good luck with DS' surgery today!
@jessier19 glad you (and baby) are doing well after the fall!
@gembud hope DH is doing ok, and that the days go by fast! I'd be jealous of DH's "vacation"!
@rachelredhead that's amazing about taking Mondays off! I also set a book reading goal (this year was also 25), but with the babies coming, may set lower expectations haha.
@nik102 and @nursejenn5 So exciting that the nurseries are coming along! Hoping to tackle that next month!
@night_nurse Our maternity leave policies are such a big rant of mine. It makes me so angry that we don't have enough time with our sweet babies. I'm worried about any NICU time because that would cut into my leave.
@jenis_fan_for_life Hoping your BP stays within range! I'm also hitting some fatigue as well. Also, what a great gift idea! We have a few new locations that popped up, but haven't tried Jeni's yet! That is on my list for sure.
@achanceintime Enjoy Christmas baking with your son. I'm also thinking about a tube removal during my scheduled C-section. Also sad that I won't be able to experience having a girl in our family, but slowly getting used to the idea of being a boy Mom. I'll be 41 next year, and not sure if I'd be able to handle another pregnancy!
EDD / Weeks + Days: 26+6, Due 3/16/22
Baby is the size of a(n) / interesting fact: I've seen cauliflower, cabbage, and eggplant. Basically, any large-ish vegetable!
FTM/STM/TTM+: STM
Team Finding Out/Blue/Pink/Green: Team Blue x2
Upcoming Appointments: 12/22 for growth scan, and need to schedule my glucose test next week
How are you feeling?: Back to feeling tired, experiencing bloody boogers and lots of blood while flossing (ugh). My belly button is definitely sensitive/sore. Anyone else?
Rants/Raves: Finished Christmas shopping, and just need to wrap the gifts! As for my rant,
Questions:
GTKY: Do you typically like to make a New Years resolution? If so, do you have one (or more) in mind for 2022? I usually don't make resolutions, but I like the ones I've read by you guys. I definitely need to work on being more relaxed and try not to stress about too many things! I've been so focused on making sure that we're all fed, the laundry is done, dishes are washed, dr appts are set up, and just managing the household. I need to learn to lean on DH more, or I'll go crazy doing it all myself!
@ra@rachelredhead a reading goal is a great resolution. I have never made resolutions but that sounds like a goal I could stick to.
@ac@achanceintime your feelings around your RCS are completely valid. Absolutely reasonable to need to grieve not only the end of such an important part of your life but also realizing it signifies you will never be able to have an experience you had hoped for. Even if the goal is always “healthy baby, healthy mom,” what that process looks like and the experiences you do or don't get are important too.
@jenis_fan_for_life I too am having such a hard time with how my body has been feeling, not just after the preterm labor scare last week, but before that too. Hoping all your labs come back normal. Encourage you to advocate for yourself and if you feel like the discomfort is out of proportion then don’t be afraid to ask your doctor to really investigate. (You totally seem like someone not afraid to stand up for themselves though, so prob dont need to remind you of that, but still, sometimes it helps to hear it from someone else😂)
@je@jennifer_m21 The fact I have to choose to either rest and keep my baby cooking or have even a minimal amount of time after she is born to be with her makes me feel sick. It isn’t right for so many reasons. Hoping for the best outcome to your pregnancy that gives you all the times at home with them after ❤️
You kind of hit the nail on the head. So far my mother and MIL, meaning well, have tried to encourage me by telling me not to get upset, that everything will be okay.
My mom was keen to point out everyone is going through stuff right now in addition.
**TW**
But neither of them have ever really lost a child.
Now hearing this baby may not be getting enough blood and nutrients, it makes me feel like my body is failing her too. I’m so grateful she’s viable and that her odds of being okay are good, but I’m still distressed.
I’m worried about her because I can’t see how much she’s growing each day, my only proof she’s okay is a heartbeat and lots of kicks and movement. I’m grateful for both, but what they don’t understand is the fact that at the end of the day I don’t know if she’s truly doing as well as she needs to be.
I don’t know if her needs are going to change.
It took a runaround to make my mom understand why in an emergency they would force me to deliver because she’s mostly convinced they should just try to keep the baby inside me no matter what.
It’s hard to have to verbalize ‘not if she’s starving.’ Only to be told I’m being too negative.
I’m not trying to look on the worst side, but I have to be prepared. I don’t want to be blindsided if she lands in the NICU because that would hurt worse than accepting it as a possible outcome. I pray and hope more than anything I can carry her to term and she will grow just as she needs to.
I want to believe next scan I’ll walk in and they’ll be like “ooh somebody had a growth spurt, she looks great.”
But I guess I’m just in the boat of hoping for the best, preparing for the worst.
Also may take you up on that @goldfishcraker and others who have said the same thing.
At least I can call her Lilly Rose somewhere.
@jennifer_m21 I have a super sensitive spot right beside my belly button, but not directly on it if thst makes sense? Also, I will say my pregnancy at 40 was a walk in the park compared to this one at 42 (soon to be 43). Realistically I don't think I could handle another pregnancy after this one, but then part if me goes "well....maybe just one more" 🤣
@rachelredhead In no way do I feel that having a c-section is the easy way out and I'm so sorry you are feeling like that in any way. I was disappointed after my first that even after such a long labour it still had to end in c-section...but then the reality hit that both DD1 and I were literally seconds away from tragedy. Neither of us would be here. When it came time for #2 I thought about the RCS as the strong decision. I was making the decision to give my new baby the best chance at a healthy delivery, my DD1 the best chance at having her mom and her sister come home to her, healthy and safe, and me the best chance of being able to be there for my girls for a long time to come. I feel like the strong, brave decision sometimes is not necessarily the one you want to make, and not always the one that society recognizes. So are we sacrificing the potential to experience a vaginal birth? Something that we might have desperately wanted? Yes. But we are choosing to undergo major abdominal surgery in order to do the very best we can for our kids and our families. To me that is never a choice anyone should ever feel ashamed of or less for making. And after having been through 2, and soon to be 3, not something I would ever describe as taking the easy way out ❤ Hugs mama! If you even need me to set anyone straight just send me their number 😉