PGAL w/o 11/18

inthewoods23

This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es)


Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 

Previous loss(es)? 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 

Any appointment updates? 

Rants/Raves/Questions? 

Any milestones coming up? 

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions?

rubyrose_0919

Hi beautiful mama's! Thanks for kicking off this thread @inthewoods23 ❤

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 6+6, July 8th, this will hopefully be our second living child 

Previous loss(es)? We had a miscarriage prior to conceiving our son who is about to turn four in a couple of weeks. Since then we have had a chemical pregnancy, followed by a miscarriage at 11.5 weeks, followed by a pregnancy lost due to Turner's Syndrome at 22 weeks, followed by a ectopic loss...and here we are. It's been a Rollercoaster of a journey 🎢

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? I actually feel pretty great. In all my pregnancies I have not had very intense pregnancy symptoms including this one. Emotionally, I feel at peace. I have learned from this intense loss history that there is very little you can do to keep a loved and wanted baby in your body that isn't meant to be. That weirdly gives me great peace of mind! All we can do is try, follow all the pregnancy guidance, and take it day by day. We just don't get too invested in age gaps, clothing items, names, sex or anything in the baby arena until we are home with a baby in our arms. 

Any appointment updates? I had an appointment last week but couldn't attend because we had sniffles in our household. Will try again next week. I'm not in any rush. It seems doctors, in my experience, also have no control over a pregnancy that isn't meant to be, and I am not as eager as others to collect all the information possible. Just going with the flow and taking it day by day.

Rants/Raves/Questions? How are you all holding up? Hope you are doing well. I know this PGAL loss life and it can be so hard. My heart is with you and I'm hoping for happy, healthy babies for us all.

Only rant, and really strange thing for me is my skin is so oily! That has never really happened to me before. I'm typically a very dry skin gal, and this symptom is so odd!

Any milestones coming up? three weeks away from NIPT testing which will be good. Also a little over the first trimester half way point 🥳 (which I feel is an under-celebrated milestone)

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? Thanksgiving is long gone for us Canadians 🇨🇦 as we celebrate in October - I honestly don't know how y'all survive doing two big holidays so dang close together!

Take care everyone! ❤

runnergirl2018

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 6+3, 7/11.  I have a son who will be 3 next week

Previous loss(es)? had a MMC in August resulting in D&C at 11wks after 4 weeks of repeatedly finding abnormal growth, low/possibly no heart beat, and it was terrible to feel like no one knew what was going on or was willing to make choices. chromosome testing showed Trisomy 16. I know so many have been through even more losses and i'm thinking happy thoughts for us all!

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Doing okay. My symptoms are usually worse at this point so that has me worried.  sore boobs, very random, mild, and intermittant acid reflux and super mild quickly passing nausea.  Fatigue.  irritability. 

Any appointment updates? Saw OB at 4+3 and got put on progesterone *just in case*.  First official visit and US for this pregnancy is tomorrow

Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave - even though I was not a fan of how my loss was diagnosed in terms of the amount of time, I feel like my OB's are kind and doing whatever they can to help me have a successful pregnancy.  All the nurses are super supportive.  I feel like i'm in good hands.  
Questions - anyone's spouse seem to not be much affected by past loss or seem all that worried about current pregnancy? i know he has slight worry because he said he doesn't want to tell anyone until end of first trimester because his parents spilled the beans to the whole family last time before i even had my first OB appt and he was not a fan of that. He previously didn't even really quite understand how often loss happens and no one else in our immediate family has had pregnancy losses

Any milestones coming up? i'm halfway through first trimester and hope we get to make it through the whole time this time!

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? we usually get together and eat good food, but i haven't been with my family for many hyears on thanksgiving due to living away. We moved back last year but our extended family has been pretty divided due to covid and the last US president so who knows if we'll ever have another big family function again. For the last 5 years i have done a turkey trot on thanksgiving morning (minus the year i was about to give birth and just spectated) so I plan to do that this year as well.  The last couple years I pushed my son in a stroller.  

runnergirl2018

@rubyrose_0919 love what you said in how you are feeling.  I keep telling myself that all I can do is take care of myself and take my vitamins and see what happens, because I know that it's the only thing I have control over. Everything else I just have to wait and see, which is hard sometimes, but also kind of comforting reminding myself that I am doing all that I can

laeberge3

Hi ladies! Joining in here after just introing today. 

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom?  4+2/7.26.22/TTM

Previous loss(es)?  In total, 4 losses. Three came before my first baby in 2016 and then I suffered a blighted ovum just in October of this year. 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically fine. Not a lot of pregnancy symptoms outside of fatigue so far. Emotionally also doing pretty well, too. Like @rubyrose_0919, I'm finding peace this time around that there's nothing I can do right now to control the outcome of this pregnancy, so I'm trying to stay as calm as possible. 

Any appointment updates? Waiting for a call back from my OB to schedule our first appointment. My hcg levels more than doubled, so I'm feeling pretty good about scheduling that first appointment, but admittedly I am hoping they'll bring me in a little earlier to make sure this isn't another blighted ovum. 

Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave: I turned 35 yesterday and after the last week I've had, it was a delightful boring day. 

Any milestones coming up? Not yet. 

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? No specific traditions other than getting together. I'm not sure my side of the family will get together this year because of some ongoing issues with my mother, but we'll go to my MIL's house for Thanksgiving so that should at least be fun. 

@runnergirl2018 My DH was barely affected by my first losses. Now, they did come before we had a successful pregnancy, so I could understand how he didn't really understand what happened or how it affected me so much. With our loss last month, he felt it much harder than I did and grieved much more. So I've seen both ends of the spectrum. 

bearsandbeets7

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 5w1d, 7/20 EDD, two times a mom, this one makes three

Previous loss(es)? I had an early miscarriage back in April of this year. 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Emotionally I am feeling okay, just trying to take it a day at a time. A week or so before I tested positive with this babe I was having an extremely hard time because we are coming up on what would have been our due date. So I am trying very hard to keep my anxiety at bay. 

Physically I feel okay, definitely have some fatigue and my boobs hurt all day every day. I’ve also had some nausea that comes in brief waves.  

Any appointment updates? I have my first appointment scheduled for 12/17, I’ll be 9w2d, it was the first appointment they had available. 

Rants/Raves/Questions? Just more like a statement than a rant or a rave but I am glad that the board organization is kind of coming together, my BMB with DS was very organized so coming on here gives me a little bit of anxiety because it has been a little all over the place. Do we think we are in a place to start a weekly randoms thread to prevent some of the one off posts we’ve been getting?

Any milestones coming up? Coming up on 6weeks which doesn’t feel like a huge milestone but that’ll be halfway through the first trimester so I’ll take it!

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? Nothing too crazy, we always watch the parade on tv and then we do thanksgiving with my side of the family because we don’t live near DHs side. 

quelinda99

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom?: 5w4d edd around July 19 (haven't had a dating scan yet, based on LMP and little longer of a normal cycle), FTM

Previous loss(es)?: MMC in April

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically?: @bearsandbeets7 we have a lot of similarities in our stories!! I had a MMC in April, just passed my original due date yesterday. My first appt isn't until 12/13, I'll be 9+1 then. I just... I cannot wait. I need an US! Emotionally I am evened out. The first couple of weeks was a rollercoaster but I have accepted I have to wait to see a doctor and there's no use wearing myself out when there's nothing I can do. Physically I am ok. Sore boobs. Some nausea and reflux. I'm sure I'm not the only one saying I'd be ok with stronger physical symptoms lol. I work from home and no children yet so it would be manageable. And it would give me peace of mind for sure. My sister just had her first in June and was very sick for most of her pregnancy. So tired of her complaining about how bad her pregnancy was and everyone telling her that being sick is a GOOD sign! Not very charitable of me but dang. Had a MC 2 months before she delivered and it's like everyone forgot. No sensitivity at all.

Any appointment updates?: Waiting until 12/13. Trying to be patient. But I REALLY want my husb to be there and he will be gone 11/29-12/10 so it makes the wait easier. 

Rants/Raves/Questions?: I am loving being a part of this group! I find it so calming. It's nice to pop on here and check in with everyone because we aren't planning on telling anyone until after our first scan. I just don't want anyone talking to me about how excited they are etc etc asking me how I'm feeling until we have some solid news and pass some milestones (10 weeks will be right before Christmas - I'd really love to enjoy the holidays!)

Any milestones coming up?: Last pregnancy I started spotting around 6 weeks and spotted weeks 6-7. I had an appt at 8 weeks and we saw the baby + heartbeat but it was measuring a week behind. At some point in the next couple of weeks the heart stopped and the baby stopped growing, we found out at 10 weeks and it was too late for D&C. I think I would have handled everything so much better if I'd had a D&C. Or a choice, at least. The natural MC was really hard and traumatizing. I was really unprepared, but even with all the knowledge in the world it was so tough.  I'm anxiously waiting for week 6 and hoping there's no spotting. That would be a huge confidence boost. 

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions?: Nothing crazy, just the typical dinner. We're with my husband's family this year but it will be tough because his grandfather just passed and the service is Monday. 

sunshineandlemons

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 

5w2d, due 7/19. This will be my third baby!

Previous loss(es)? 1 MMC in July. 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Emotionally, I’m feeling nervous but hopefully. Physically, tired, sort of sore boobs, and go between starving and no appetite. 

Any appointment updates? My first ultrasound is 12/1. Ironically, my second daughter’s due date, but she came early. They would have gotten me in next week, but warned they may not be able to get a good read on the HB and I didn’t want to go through the long weekend wondering if everything was ok if we couldn’t see anything. 

Rants/Raves/Questions? 

Any milestones coming up? Next Wednesday when I’m 6w1d. That was what my previous baby quit growing at so as long as I make it past that, I think I’ll feel better. And of course a good scan.

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? We watch the parade Thanksgiving morning sand have homemade cinnamon rolls and breakfast casserole. I think it may be my favorite morning of the year!

inthewoods23

@rubyrose_0919 wow you sure have gone through a lot! Is Canadian Thanksgiving celebrated similarly to the US with the big family meal or not really?

@runnergirl2018 I'm surprised that went on for so long! 4 weeks?? I think it's harder for our H's to be affected by losses because they don't have the physical changes like we do. Their "status" as a person doesn't change, you know? Or, they probably think about it and just don't tell us how worried they are!

@bearsandbeets7 girl feel free to help me get this BMB organized! I've been the only one creating the new weekly threads this week. I don't think a Randoms thread got created yesterday. I'm totally with you about the board needing to be organized. My previous BMB before I miscarried was on top of it from the start which was fantastic (I guess that's the benefit of having a due date early in the month too)

@quelinda99 I'm sorry you didn't have the option for a D&C. My MC came on so fast. I had brown spotting for a couple days then one morning it was bright red and starting to be more like a period and a couple hours later I passed it. Covid sucks, but man it's honestly had it's benefits like me being at home at the time that happened. I know some have things drag out and I can't imagine how terrible that feels to be in that position.

@sunshineandlemons mmmm cinnamon rolls!

Weeks/EDD/How many times a mom? 6w exactly today / July 14 / still working on becoming a FTM

Previous loss(es)? Back in Oct 2020, loss was just past 8w

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Seeing the "your baby is the size of a...." is keeping me a little anxious. Primarily because I got to see an RE at the time of my last pregnancy so they scanned me at 6w5d or something and right then and there I was measuring behind by a week already so of course I'm sitting here believing my baby isn't actually the size the apps tell me it is!

Any appointment updates? I am finally scheduled for next week Tuesday for an ultrasound at my RI's request now that I will be out of my covid quarantine then. I'm having some lab work done on Monday - some genetic labs to finish up the tests I was supposed to do for the RI before becoming pregnant, plus an HCG, progesterone, and estrogen check.

Rants/Raves/Questions? I had a terrible day at work today. I was in the middle of trying to schedule my ultrasound appointment when people are trying to pull me into a Teams meeting and when I finally call in to it, and they're immediately asking for a status update of something as if I had time to work on it yesterday. The documents they sent me I didn't even receive until after work hours! So there literally couldn't have been any progress plus one document was missing and still had to wait on that anyway. I've been so emotion this week with the covid quarantine, not being seen by my OB this week and having to wait for next week and then this. I guess I can at least say I'm definitely pregnant because the emotional meltdowns have started!

Any milestones coming up? I'm hoping I'm at a better milestone at my ultrasound next week!

GTKY: Does your family have any Thanksgiving traditions? I'll tell you one tradition I hated - my mom's side of the family is pretty large. My grandparents had 7 kids so I have 15 some cousins on that side alone. So a lot of people! Almost every single year when we'd get together one of my uncles would lead in prayer and then want to go around and have everyone say what they're thankful for. Now remember this means there's 20+ and the food is set up like a buffet GETTING COLD. We're all just dying to eat anyway! Ugh I was so glad the times we got the majority to agree not to do it so we could eat sooner. I doubt I'm the only person who pretty much doesn't eat anything on Thanksgiving in preparation for the yummy turkey dinner.

rubyrose_0919

Hey folks - just wanted to pop into this thread and wish you all a happy and peaceful American Thanksgiving weekend!

I'm sure some of you are doing that whole 'should we tell or not tell' mental gymnastics, or maybe figuring out ways to try to hide. I resonate with that stress of that decision so much, and I think it is extra hard for us folks who know all too well what can happen, those of us who have had to tell friends and family about our tragic losses, and those of us who really don't want to do that again. Just know, I'm thinking of you all and hope it goes smoothly for you!

With that said, I thought I'd share a pro "hiding" tip we came up a few pregnancies ago and have been successfully using for years! When we get to a gathering my husband will publicly offer me a beer and I accept. He then opens two cans of beer from what we have brought (the cans are key!), and I pretend to take a sip in front of a bunch of people. I hold this can and my husband will drink some of his, excuse himself to go to the bathroom and either drink or dump the remaining beer, wash the can out and fill it with cold water in the bathroom (you can do this part yourself too, my husband is just better at excusing himself and I always get too wrapped up in conversation too quickly 😂). He returns, we discretely switch cans and I drink my 'beer' routinely filling in the bathroom myself throughout the evening. This rouse has worked everytime and really ends any curiousity/questioning from family members!

I'm only a liiiiiiiiittle bit jealous that y'all have short work weeks this week! Hope you get to eat, rest, relax and enjoy the holiday! ❤