PGAL 11/11

faithmovesmountains

This thread is for those who are pregnant after a previous loss(es). TW for entire thread due to discussion of MC, TFMR, CP, etc. 

Weeks/EDD?

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 

Any appointment updates? 

Any big milestones?

Rants/Raves/Questions?

faithmovesmountains

I know know someone else usually posts this topic, but I haven’t seen a new one in 2 weeks, so I hope this is okay…

Panaceia

@faithmovesmountains Absolutely!!!! Anyone can start the threads any week ❤ I was going to do it last Friday but forgot...and then I was going to do it this morning and then totally forgot again! Thank you for starting it!!!!

Panaceia

Weeks/EDD? 21+3 / March 21

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MMC 14 weeks, MMC 10 weeks, CP, MC 7 weeks

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically still sooooo sick, but forcing myself to get at least some exercise in every day. Emotionally...much more connected since I can feel daily movement...but even more terrified something will go wrong. So super stressed as always.

Any appointment updates? OB on the 17th, GP on the 29th.

Any big milestones? Finally past all loss milestones as well as NIPT and AS...next one is viability...so a few weeks to go...

Rants/Raves/Questions? I still wish I could feel him more consistently. It freaks me out when I don't feel him for long periods even though I know it's still early and he still has soooo much room to move around in there. I'm thankful to be feeling any movement at all...just wish it was constant!

achanceintime

Weeks/EDD?  22w3d/ March 14

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? Ectopic December 2016 (physically lost on Christmas Eve); missed miscarriage September 2020 (found out on our wedding anniversary); chemical pregnancy April 2021

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? 
Physically I’m ok; hip and sciatic pain are more intense the last few days, and I am constantly battling constipation, but everything feels manageable. Emotionally, I’m a bit up and down. I was feeling tons of movement over the weekend, which had me so calm and happy; but that has not been the case the last 3 days. Stupid anterior placenta is messing with my head. I will be calm about it for awhile, but when it’s been hours of no movement, sometimes I start to get in my head that something must be wrong. I do try to stay positive about it, but it’s not always easy. 

Any appointment updates? 24w appointment with OB coming up November 22. Looking forward to hearing her heartbeat again and reaching viability. 

Any big milestones? I would call the uptick in movement over the weekend a happy milestone! Next up is viability 

Rants/Raves/Questions? I am currently debating whether or not to attempt a VBAC or do a scheduled C. Does anyone have experience with this? I had to be induced with my son in 2018 because of preeclampsia, and his heart stopped during labor and I passed out. When I came to, his heart started pumping again but he needed out, so I had a Cesarean. My husband and mom are both encouraging me to do the scheduled C, because they are afraid of me trying to labor and something bad happening. I’m torn. I’m scared of a uterine rupture or baby going in distress and possibly losing another baby. On the other hand, recovering from major abdominal surgery is not a walk in the park, and this time I’ll have an active, cuddly toddler to take care of on top of a newborn and myself. Also, part of me mourns the fact that I didn’t get the birth I wanted with my son. Any thoughts or perspectives? 

morgantu

@Panaceia I hate that you're still sick. I am impressed that you've been through 3 pregnancies like that. I don't know if i could do it!

@achanceintime i feel like i could have written so much of your post! Anterior placenta is a mess! I do think i'm feeling more, but mostly sporadic punches to the sides of my belly... I wish my placenta would just move! Also, re: repeat C, i'm debating too. I had a C before cause DD was breach, so no trauma involved on my end. But, i do appreciate the fact that my pelvic floor is intact, and i dread the thought of laboring hard just to have a c anyway. On the other hand, like you said, it's serious surgery. I'm so torn. For now, i also have placenta previa, so it's moot..but that could also change. That dissertation was no help to you lol. 



Weeks/EDD? 21+4 3/20

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? 3 1st tri losses. 2017x1, 2020x2

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Ok. Physically pretty good other than being annoyed at waking up at night. Emotionally I go in and out- i'm doing relatively fine and bolstered when i feel movement. 

Any appointment updates? Repeat AS on monday to get views of the spine. Babe was not cooperating last time. 

Any big milestones? let's gooooo viability. 

Rants/Raves/Questions? Rave for my parents being here (i mentioned in the weekly as well). My mom is currently cleaning out my basement and my dad went to target today and got DD a ton of stuff 91/2 eyeroll 1/2 aww)

achanceintime

@Panaceia I completely feel you on the movement front. Hopefully things will get more consistent for us soon. 

Panaceia

@achanceintime and @morgantu I had an emergency c-section with my first after 26 hours of labour and 3 hours of pushing. They missed that she was a persistent brow presentation and were literally on their way to get the vacuum when a specialist just happened to wander by and by some crazy luck decided to pop in to see if they could be of any help, recognized what was happening, and had us in the OR and DD1 out all within 5 minutes. Basically DD1's head was flexed alllll the way back against her back and her shoulders were trying to come out first. There is a zero percent survival rate for both mother and child if they had continued to try to deliver vaginally. DD1's neck would have snapped and I would have literally been torn apart and bled to death....so not fun. With DD2 I opted immediately for a repeat c-section just because for me personally I felt it was the safest route for both me and baby. I did not regret it! I found the scheduled c-section to be sooooo easy compared to the emergency c-section. I will say the the pain on the first day after was probably worse than with my first, but by day 2 I didn't even need Tylenol anymore, I was running up and down the stairs with DD1, and recovery was soooooo easy. I am having a repeat c-section again with this one. So all that to say...I found the 2nd c-section to be a walk in the park in all aspects, even with having a super active kiddo to take care of at home. Just my experience of course, but I'm hoping it's the same with this one!

faithmovesmountains

@Panaceia
Glad movement has picked up for you!

Weeks/EDD? 23 weeks +1 day, due March 9

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? PPROM resulting in stillbirth, was traumatic and drawn out.

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Physically still so tired from insomnia. I feel guilty for being too tired to do half the cleaning I need to. Emotionally still been really shaky. Family laying on more name based pressure on top of everything, I haven’t revealed the name, but I’ve definitely been distressed knowing how much flack I have yet to face from them. They’re also pissed I don’t want to go to Thanksgiving so all the relatives can see DS, but most of them are antivax and I don’t want to deal with certain toxic family that has previously accused me of poisoning myself and my unborn baby with the Covid vax. It all feels overwhelming when I’ve already been so emotional.

Any appointment updates? December 9 (my birthday) for regular OB and also Gestational Diabetes screening, December 13 MFM for growth scan

Any big milestones? Officially made it to 23 weeks and took bumpdate photos with my special chalkboard. This was kind of a big deal as with my loss, I had been taking photos every two weeks that pregnancy on odd number weeks and I never made it to 23 since she was stillborn at 22w and 5d. Now I have six days left to viability, hoping that will help me relax more.

Rants/Raves/Questions? Not that I haven’t asked in the question thread earlier.

night_nurse

@Panaceia so glad you are starting to feel that movement ❤️

@achanceintime I don’t have any personal advice re:VBAC but I would highly recommend you research the evidence for yourself and move forward with the option that feels best for your situation. As birthing people we are given clear intuition for a reason. A great resource for you would be Rebecca Dekker PhD and her website and podcast Evidence Based Birth. The info and data she provides are invaluable.

@morgantu so glad you have all the help right now!

@faithmovesmountains yay for passing such a big milestone!!

night_nurse

Weeks/EDD? 23+1, March 10th

Previous loss(es) (share as much or as little as you like)? MC in April of this year

How are you feeling? Emotionally & physically? Getting into a good groove with the time change finally. Also started a Mindfulness for Mood Balance program through my health insurance which has turned out to be wildly helpful already. Looking forward to the next 8 weeks and everything I learn.

Any appointment updates? Nov 17th with OB
Any big milestones? Is 23 weeks viable? I believe that’s the earliest most facilities will attempt lifesaving measures. Any way, get more and more relieved each passing day and feeing how insanely active this little girl is.

Rants/Raves/Questions? 

Rave: Fall in the South just can’t be beat. Still have warm sunshine, cooler temps, all the changing leaves, and very little rain. 

Rant (but not really): SIL changed her mind last minute and is joining us for T’giving dinner adding 4 more people making it 12 people I’m now hosting. I love cooking and would have had enough food anyway, but I don’t think I have enough drinking glasses now 😂 
2nd Rave is that I have both Thanksgiving AND Christmas off of work this year and am praising every deity imaginable. First year in forever that has happened.

faithmovesmountains

@night_nurse
When I PPROM’d in my first pregnancy they did talk of 23 weeks as viability, but since then most of what I see indicates 24 weeks as the most widely accepted start of viability so I just hold my breath until 24 weeks either way… lol
That said, we’re almost there anyway.

Panaceia

@night_nurse Here 22 weeks is considered viable but they will try to resuscitate at 21 weeks...or at least they will do everything they can if baby comes that early. Many places are at 23, but I think the most widely accepted number is still 24 because this is when in most places there is at least a 50% survival rate. I have a children's hospital just down the street though so that helps! The earliest born surviving baby (from what I could find) is a little boy who just turned 1 in June. He was born at 21+2...before that there were twins born at 21+5 in 1987. It depends on where you are and the capabilities of your local hospital though. I just keep that 24 week mark in my head anyways and am counting down the days until I get there!