First Trimester Anxiety

knottiea84c52ce99f428a8

I'm pregnant with baby #5 and still breastfeeding #4 who will be 2 in February. He has a rare disease so I'm trying to give him all the nutrients i can until this journey is over. But I've had a miscarriage before his pregnancy so I'm extra cautious on being happy. I'm 4w2d.

Anyone have any tips on remaining hopeful happy and positive until that first ultrasound? I'm sure I'm not alone in this lol

inthewoods23

@knottiea84c52ce99f428a8 this would be a great thing to ask in our Big Questions Thread

cscrzldbg

This is where I find having a religious faith to fall back on is extremely beneficial. I know not everyone believes the same so we all have to find what works but this is my peace.

I did a Bible study early this year. The one big thing I learned was that the Lord always called His people to "Love Him. Obey Him. Trust Him." and if they fell off in one of those areas, He called them back.

I've been working on the Trust part. I know that I have been put here in this place and in this time for a reason. That the Lord has specifically intended that I be here and now. If He has so deamed this then what have I to worry? I am part of His great plan for something I cannot see. And so I am learning and growing in Trust of Him.

The same goes for this pregnancy. I'm right at the point now where I previously lost a child. As sad as I would be, and as disappointed, I have already accepted that such a loss would be part of His plan for my life. Knowing that there is a reason, even if I cannot see it, helps me to accept what may come. Knowing that I cannot change the outcome, helps me to be at peace now rather than to worry about what I cannot know or change. "This pregnancy will be what it will be."

In a way, it's also the "cross that bridge when I get there" mentality.

"Lord, this is your child. This is your plan. What will happen is as you intend."

You have been given many blessings. If you don't already, take a little time each day to think upon them. It could be one or it could be many but it is whatever works for you in the brief moments of time you are able to make.

Look for the silver lining in everything. Sometimes it is harder to find but it is always there.

tuxielove93

@knottie
first, welcome! It sounds like you’ve already been through a lot. If it helps at all, I successfully breastfed my first boy through my entire second pregnancy, tandem nurses the boys, and both are technically still going (my big boy doesn’t even have milk daily anymore). 

I’ve been in these boards three times now, and it seems like everyone has the best experience by making a unique username (knotties get lost), making an introduction in the intro thread, and more or less sticking to the pinned posts ☺️ This is all explained in better detail in the “read this first” thread 

as far as your actual question, I have pretty serious anxiety (in general, and it’s exacerbated by pregnancy) 
I find comfort in evidence and numbers. 

You can go find the statistical likelihood of miscarriage by day of pregnancy. Seeing that number come down every day really helped me the first two times. 

If you’re having symptoms, it’s very likely that everything is going according to plan. 

I also find yoga to be beneficial. If you already have kids and can, getting some time to yourself to relax is important to. Even if it’s just a quiet shower or an extra nap in quiet.