The Dreaded Private Group Conversation Thread

Lisa3379

Maybe that's just me? 

Anyway, maybe it's worthwhile to open it up to some general conversation about what we want to do with this group moving forward. Feel free to share your thoughts, ideas, etc. 

I'll start: 

I'd like to move to a private group at some point in the next few weeks. I'm still a part of my December 2016 group, and while there are around 40 of us in that group on Facebook, more than half of us regularly engage on our daily random threads. I've met several of them in person (I even took my 1 year old across the country for a meetup) and they've become really good friends of mine. 

Personally, I'm not a fan of Facebook as a company AT ALL. However, it's really hard to argue against how convenient it is to keep in touch with people, and I've found The Bump to be pretty much the opposite of that. Our group (at least those that regularly post) seems pretty small, and I guess my dread about broaching this subject is that I think some of you aren't down with Facebook? I think I remember reading that awhile back. 

Anyway. I'd like to keep the group going privately, and was wondering where you all stood with that. If we move to something else, when? What is that something else? I've enjoyed getting to know you all and think it would be fun to continue to support each other. 

alpacamama2

@Lisa3379 I like this idea! I am not super pleased with FB being the best option either but I do have a FB account. I think I prefer the idea of a private group too for some security. I definitely lurk and hold back on commenting a lot here because it a seems so public. 

fifilala516

I don't like Facebook but I am still part of the problem and use my account. I agree it's probably the most convenient/easiest to keep up with everyone, especially post-babies!

rachel0428

I would totally agree w all of you. Would be nice to continue the group privately, and Facebook is probably the most convenient/ accessible. 

karenmarie9

I also detest Facebook but use it bc it’s so convenient.  I don’t have the app but do have an account so I check it maybe once or twice a week.  I’m totally down for a private group there though.

elksamm

I deactivated my FB account because I really don’t trust the company or their privacy policies. That said, my other mom’s group from 2013 is still on there and I do miss them. I might consider creating a new profile so I can stay connected, it is very convenient.

sarah_is_pregnant

I'm down for a move to FB. Doesn't matter when.
I don't find The Bump conducive to conversation (on mobile) as I don't get notifications or anything. 

magalina_h

I'm fine with moving to FB whenever!

katepattsea

I have to say I’ll miss everyone on here when you guys do make the move to FB. I really enjoy the threads, your insights, updates, and company. Please consider delaying moving for as long as you can stand it! 🥺 

Lisa3379

@katepattsea Oh no! I don't want to lose you. Are you just super against Facebook? In my other mom group, someone felt similarly, and then decided after awhile to create an account not linked to her real name at all just to participate in the private group. 

kcf19

I’m all for a private group. I’m on a private group on Then Comes Family and also FB. Neither are great. Has anyone tried a private group on Reddit?

alpacamama2

@kcf19 I'm not a reddit expert but it seems like that might be a good alternative to facebook!

elksamm

I’d be down to try a Reddit private group. I’d love to avoid Facebook if I can

AshleyGemini24

Facebook is my only social media app. I'm perfectly fine with a private group. 

Limes030

I'm up for whatever 👍

shinyobjects

@Lisa3379 I completely agree with everything you said!

My bmb from my daughter did a private bump board and a fb group. There are some people on both, but it definitely broke up the group (which was much larger than this to begin with). I struggled with the bump app a lot, so I only moved to fb, and it’s still an active group, although covid has quieted it down a lot (but still my favorite parenting resource!)

That said, this does seem to be a much smaller group of active posters (as a very intermittent poster, I’m not really one to talk, but I do hope to keep in touch with you all!) so I would hope we can find something that will retain as many of us as possible. Personally as much as I hate it, I’m much more active on fb, it’s just my easiest way of staying in touch with people from many different times in my life, but I don’t want to force them on anyone. I will do my best to stay involved wherever. 

As for when? At this point I can’t see a whole lot of newbies getting suddenly super involved, so whenever. 

Lisa3379

Thanks everyone for voicing their thoughts, and I’m so glad that so many of us want to continue! I’ll post a poll maybe tomorrow to get everyone’s vote on what platform and when to move over. 

firewife_911

i’m interested in an FB group!

alexxajams

I'm definitely interested! It's hard for me to constantly check in on here since I don't get notifications!