I keep getting responses to my pregnancy with "you're so small!" Like I have any control over that... or that it matters. I'm carrying a baby, just like any amazing mother. Why comment on size? It doesn't matter! As I'm sure any comment on size is unwanted. Just wondering why people have to voice their observations? I know they probably just want something to say but I never know what to say back. I guess just smile and move on...
@lexilougolden Omg I hate any comments on my body during pregnancy. I was just complaining to DH yesterday about this. Last pregnancy I had “you’re so small!” all the way through, and it stressed me out because my fundal height wasn’t changing the last couple months so we kept having yo do growth scans. So it was hard to take it as a compliment.
Going into this pregnancy, I weighed 10 lbs less than when I got pregnant last time. I just now weigh what I did pre-first pregnancy, and I’m more fit than last time (but I was still a little chubby to begin with; weight has always been a struggle). My stomach has really popped out though. This week alone I’ve had two different coworkers (coworkers!! Not friends or family!) make jokes like, “Oh, time to go on a diet, huh? Ha ha ha!” Or even a male colleague who said, “Ah, (name), you’re getting fat!” 😳😮 then laughter. Like…whether or not you’re just commenting on my pregnant belly, please don’t comment. I know it’s my shit to sort through, but I’ve dealt with eating disorders through my twenties that I finally have a handle on, and jokes like that just make me feel like crap, no matter how they’re intended. Ugh.
@lexilougolden I don’t know why people feel like they need to comment on other peoples bodies. My feeling about it is, if they can’t change it in 5 minutes, (something in teeth, shirt tucked weird or whatever) then you shouldnt say anything at all about someone else’s body. I honestly just give smartass remarks to people at this point. Like, no I just had a big lunch! This was absolutely my biggest pet peeve with my last pregnancy and I’m glad I haven’t gotten it much this time around. I can’t stand people who don’t have boundaries for other people!
I typically get the opposite response, “are there twins in there?” I was told shrug it off, but it PISSED me off. It’s not nice to comment on someone’s normal weight, why would it be ok to comment on a pregnant woman’s weight!?
I’m terrified of having a daughter and all the body issues that come along with it. I and every woman in my family got gigantic boobs at a really young age and it really fucked me up until I was old enough to get a reduction surgery. Really inappropriate sexual comments from grown men from the second I went through puberty, relentless teasing from kids at school, never being able to fit into tops from all the “cool” stores my friends shopped at. I really don’t know how to support a daughter through it and am afraid it will be insanely triggering. I guess I at least have 12 or so years to try to figure it out?
I like when people you see occasionally say “wow! It’s like you get bigger each time I see you!” Like… well no Sh!t I’m growing a human, the baby is getting bigger and so am I. I’m going to start replying “OMG you too!”, see how they like it.
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+1 on being pissed off at body comments. There is no reason for anyone to be commenting on our bodies. Ever but especially now. 🙄
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