Private Group?

rgn12

Thoughts on migrating to a private BMB or Facebook group at some point? Feel free to discuss thoughts in the comments too since I think the poll is anonymous. 

JamieH2000

I’m fine with starting with either a private group or moving to Facebook. I would normally be happy to help admin or coordinate the group, but I think I may be a little less available once baby girl comes with being in the hospital for a month after birth but I definitely want to do my best to keep up with everyone!!

j-to-the-amie

I think facebook would be nice since it is something that gives me notifications etc. Unless I am doing something wrong with the Bump? 

P.S thanks @rgn12 for the poll so we can see what is preferred  

rgn12

@j-to-the-amie no problem, happy get the ball rolling! We could also totally continue participating on both platforms, but I agree that it might make it easier for some to connect more on FB. 

@JamieH2000 I could totally look into it myself, I’ve just never done it before haha! 

So if we migrate to FB what are people’s thoughts on going about that? I missed the migration on my old BMB but I think they had certain requirements like you had to be an active member or something and then privately submit some sort of photo with your username/picture or something with a piece of paper. I’d have to into it more for other groups, because I didn’t make it that far last time! Anyone else have experience with that? 

RDFree32

If moving to Facebook, would this become obsolete then? I don't have Facebook, so if this group doesn't continue on the bump, I may be saying goodbye and good luck to all y'all.   

rgn12

@RDFree32 we haven’t officially decided yet. Was hoping to hear from some more regulars. It could possibly be a thing where we continue with both, or do a private BMB and Facebook. I’m not opposed to either. With the recent situation on last week’s weekly thread it just might make people feel more comfortable at this point. 

melbel0824

I voted Facebook just because I think it's an easier platform. My last BMB didn't move until closer to our due dates, but I'm fine with moving now or doing a private BMB. 

brookert615

I voted to move to a private group for a bit first so we can make sure we have everyone and then if a Facebook transition starts it doesn't have any personal information public. My last BMB did that and it worked nicely, we all moved over to Facebook after our babies were born. But I do have to say it was sad because a good bit of the ladies did not use Facebook so we lost touch .

JamieH2000

@brookert615- my last group did a private group  Ans it worked fine. A few that didn’t have Facebook actually created “fake” accounts- or just accounts they only used for our group and it worked out great for them (since they still really aren’t on fb publicly). Also, this crappy app is just not sustainable long term and not secure at all obviously haha

prpl11butterfly

+1 to private group here before FB. I liked that way wirh my last BMB. We were able to open up a bit more without getting super personal.

rgn12

I’m trying to think of who else might want to have some input…

@rpreston17
@kaitcrystalline
@bkjade
@scaredunprepared
@kats0727
@mockingjay1
@savedbygrace1213
@PYLWhammy

If I’m forgetting anyone feel free to tag them too! 

**ETA - tagging others below that have already responded so we can have a list going of active members**

@JamieH2000
@rdfree32
@brookert615
@j-to-the-amie
@melbel0824
@prpl11butterfly
@rgn12

prpl11butterfly

@rgn12 we posted at the same time 😂

rgn12

@prpl11butterfly hahaha good timing! 

kaitcrystalline

I voted for private BMB but I'm fine with moving straight to Facebook too. 

rgn12

I voted FB but like others have said I’m fine with doing a private BMB too. We could always do private first and then Facebook when it’s closer to due dates? Or whatever? I’m super flexible honestly! 

rpreston17

@rgn12 I voted FB  

savedbygrace1213

Also voted FB mainly because I absolutely hate this app! 

brookert615

Just my opinion - If we have a private BMB first I think it might give some of the ladies time to all get in. This is usually what the other BMBs do to kind of weed out trolls first lol. I know a lot of us ended up doing an Instagram follow thread in our private group as well.

scaredunprepared

I vote fb because it's easier to use, but am fine with doing a private bump group too if others want to do that.  

rgn12

@brookert615 that’s kind of what I’m thinking right now too. If we can all hang in there with this terrible bump app and then eventually switch when more people are ready/comfortable for FB. Although it seems like most of us are flexible for both anyways! 

prpl11butterfly

I would ultimately love to see the group on FB. But I do think the PG is the best 1st step. There are still some posters here who I do not see interact much with the group. Post their thing and off they go. If they become more interactive in a PG, great. But by movingly right to FB, we're opening up private parts of our life to those who don't want to actually know us. 

rgn12

@prpl11butterfly sounds good to me, and makes perfect sense! 

scaredunprepared

I'm down for that! 

rgn12

Does anyone know how to do a private BMB? 

prpl11butterfly

@rgn12 I do, I can assist (or set it up). But won't be until tomorrow at some point.

scaredunprepared

@rgn12 and @prpl11butterfly thanks for taking the reins on this!

rgn12

@prpl11butterfly that would be great if everyone is okay with that! I could probably help more with FB but this is a little out of my expertise haha 

prpl11butterfly

Okay, a few questions:

Do we want a fun group name or just keep it simple?

And I'll need a few admins in the event that I am unable to be active. Also, when it comes to votes, odd numbers are best. My last BMB did 3 and it worked. 

From there, we will need a way to decide who to include and who to not include ***cough cough random person who keeps posting in reply to a certain members vaxx cough cough***. I think the standard procedure is for someone to request joining then the admins post the UN in a thread. Love tits are the vote and as new UN get added, they become eligible to vote. My last group also deleted these posts as new members got added to make it anonymous.

rgn12

@prpl11butterfly I can help admin, and all of that sounds great to me!

ETA I am fine with whatever name!

mockingjay1

I'm kind of late to the game here, but ultimately I would love to be in a fb group b/c it's much more user friendly especially on mobile than the bump. I've never been in a private group on tb, but I do agree that would be a good transition before moving to fb, especially since we really don't have a ton of active posters. It would allow those who want to be a part of the group a little more time for us to get to know them.

I don't care what the private group is called. 

RDFree32 - as someone else mentioned, there were a few people who made fb accounts on my previous BMBs and just used them for the group under a different name. 

prpl11butterfly

I'm working on starting it but having some difficulty. Might need to be on PC to do it and I can't do that right now. My kids would lose it if I suddenly had something to do 🤣

kats0727

I feel like I’m late to the party here. My last BMG did a private group and it was such a huge ordeal bc they only handed out invites to certain members and if you didn’t comment on every post then you didn’t get an invite. The group just died from there. Lots of hurt feelings. It was awful and I wouldn’t want to make someone feel that way (I was not invited on that one).

I’m not opposed to either a private group or Facebook. I just think there should be a semi reasonable way to determine who gets in. I personally work full time and have another LO at home so posting daily for me is rough. 

scaredunprepared

@kats0727 I think a lot of us are in your boat, so I doubt the "requirements" for joining would be that stringent.  Probably like do we recognize your UN?  Do you comment occasionally?  Are you not a creepy stalker?  Ok you're in lol

@prpl11butterfly what do you mean about odd number votes?

kats0727

@scaredunprepared I was thinking more like comment on the weekly check ins on a semi regular basis and maybe reply to other topics. Sometimes it’s hard for me to add because I’m not going through it or have nothing special to add. 

But I’m not a creepy stalker. Cross my heart!

scaredunprepared

@kats0727 I am pretty sure you'll be ok   I wasn't active here for like a month at one point.  We all have lives, and stuff happens. 

prpl11butterfly

@scaredunprepared in my last BMB, there were a few people who posted but not in a meaningful way. Like, they would post on the HDBD thread and if they posted in the weekly check-in, they didn't interact with anyone else. It felt like they were using us as their personal diary. So when the time came to move to a PG, while we all recognized the name, the admins has to make a final vote on if they should be included because some felt uncomfortable with them being privy to our life but not sharing theirs. In a situation like that, you'd want an odd number of votes so there are no ties. I can't imagine that happening here at all really but JIC.

scaredunprepared

@prpl11butterfly ah OK I get it now!  Thanks for explaining. 

brookert615

Echoing what @prpl11butterfly said. I was an admin in my old BMB and it was the same. Like we went through each member who sent a request to join and would see if they interacted and then did a vote among the admins. A lot of the people were upset but they didn't like or comment on any other members activity. Definitely was a personal diary lol.

brittnig43021

New here, finally got it working where I can comment on discussion posts, I think moving to Facebook would be nice(: .

prpl11butterfly

Just and FYI, I'm still working on it. I logged in from my work PC hoping that would be of benefit but it wasn't. I have emails and messages out to TB for guidance. It use to be super easy so I'm not sure what's happening now.

rgn12

@prpl11butterfly no problem at all, thank you for doing this! 

Also, I apologize for my absence the last few days. Our “visitor” kind of freaked me out a little, and I’ve just been a little hesitant to post more. It looks like almost the entire exchange has been deleted (if you didn’t see it), but it certainly escalated a bit before that.