Weekly Randoms w/o 9/6

Avrilmai

Random chatter for the week. 

kiwi2628

This weekend has been amazing. I work every other Saturday so it’s not super common I have 3 days off in a row but luck was on my side and I had off Saturday and I wasn’t on call Sunday or today so I’ve had 3 glorious days off with the fam AND tuesdays are a normal day off for me so while I have the kids alone so it’s not really a day off, I’m not going to work so 4 days!! It’s been so relaxing. We took the kids hiking and my son spent about 2 hours this morning finding worms and getting covered in mud. 

loveanddatadriven

@kiwi2628 That’s so great you were able to enjoy some days off! Hiking with kids sounds really fun.

miss_lynn9

@kiwi2628 that sounds fantastic!! 

SmashJam

@kiwi2628 yay for 4 days of no work! And the hike sounds awesome.

we went hiking today too then played in the sprinkler until it started pouring on us! It rained pretty hard and we went and got ice cream-it was a local places last day and all the procedes went to charity. 

The kids are nuts today. I think they are half tired half just not used to be off school for three days and the lack of structure throws them off on day three. It's like this for the first day of every break,  no matter how long it is. 

monstera13

We’re all on a hiking kick I guess! I took the fam to Mt. Rainier National Park this weekend and we explored the area for the first time. So beautiful!

miss_lynn9

It was my last day of maternity leave today 😭 I took DD to the park and we playing in the bushes in my yard. And got preped for work.

 I'm very anxious to bring her back to daycare after how sick she got on Friday. She's pretty much back to her normal self, just not eating as much as she usually does; but that is go be expected after vomitting 9 times in  under 8 hours. 

I am looking forward to being back out in the wild after being in my bubble for 15 months. I got a little sad today thinking about how I spent my leave and I feel like I wasted it. But I know I only did what I could. We went on walks, hikes and bike rides often. And got together with family when it was safe to do so. It's not the leave I expected though. I never mourned what I didn't have until today. I'm really hoping things will be different on my next leave. 

legallullabies

First day back at work in person in over a week today. We had a great delayed Honeymoon last week and I'm not quite ready to go back to full work mode. I was quite surprised my symptoms were fairly minor the entire trip, even during the 6 hour cruise - so I thoroughly enjoyed myself. 

Someone want to come give me a nice kick in the pants to get moving today? 🙃 Better yet, will someone come find me a pair of work pants? 

queenklau

I am so annoyed. My ob/gyn of 8 years is now not seeing patients. He stopped seeing patients right before my last daughter was born and had started back up, but stopped again (not sure what is going on). Now I have my first appt scheduled with a new doctor that I don’t know. It feels so unsettling, if I don’t like her I may have to switch practices. 

kiwi2628

So I just fired my OB. So that’s fun. Now I won’t have my first appt until 12 weeks but that’s cool I guess. 

queenklau

@kiwi2628, not a good day for our doctors!

doula-mama

@kiwi2628 Oh no - what happened (if you don't mind me asking)? 

@queenklau Ugh, that sounds so annoying... I guess the plus side is that it didn't happen later in your pregnancy?

kiwi2628

@doula-mama so I made my OB appt a month and change ago. I made is for Thursday because I have Thursdays off. I work other days and I cannot take off. So I just got the confirmation text today for my appt…on Friday. So I called them to figure out what was going on and they said I made the appt for Friday. I told them no, I made it for Thursday. And I get it- things get mixed up, sometimes things get put in the wrong slot. But they INSISTED I made it on Friday, not that they made a mistake, and they said the soonest they could now see me was in 2 weeks for first pregnancy appt.

fuck that. They made a mistake. Fess up and try to squeeze me in. My original OB has left the practice anyway and frankly I am done with OB care in the US- midwives have much better maternal/fetal outcomes for low risk pregnancies soooooo to the midwives I go!

doula-mama

@kiwi2628 Ugh, that's so frustrating... especially when it's pretty obvious you wouldn't have agreed to a Friday appointment. Hopefully you'll like the midwife better - I'm with the same midwife team as my last two, and they provide such amazing care!

jennykatedvm

@kiwi2628 How frustrating and also annoying they wouldn't own their mistake! Hoping it is a blessing in disguise though that you are switching to the midwives early. Like @doula-mama I love my midwife team and am so happy to be back with them after having to deal with an OB practice during infertility treatment. Hoping you're much happier there!

shlecks

We didn’t have any extra days off this weekend because we are always off Sundays and Mondays, but our son was off from preschool so we went to the zoo. Just a quick little jaunt, the weather was so nice. It was great! Now I’m home from work because I woke up feeling super crappy. I didn’t sleep well and I’ve had this lingering headache. 👎🏻

doxiemoxie212

I have a lot of work to do, but I'm procrastinating. 

This weekend was pretty good. We took DD to the SF botanic gardens. We don't typically do a lot of outings because it's so hard with her food allergies to either be pack mules or risk restaurants, but we decided to get takeout and do a picnic from a vegan restaurant that doesn't have any sesame on their menu (a rarity because of hummus), and it was really good and fun and safe! She was so excited. "Mama, everything is safe for me??"

DD also thinks my belly button is a communication portal to the baby, so she'll randomly lift up my shirt and shout into my belly button, "Hello baby! How are you doing in that tummy??? When are you going to come out??" She also insists that the baby is her baby. When I say that the baby is actually my baby and her sibling she says, "Hmm ok well I can tetend (pretend) the baby is my baby, mom." She gives my belly kisses and hugs randomly throughout the day unprompted. And she has a whole list of stuff she wants to teach the baby, which I think is so funny. "I'm gonna teach the baby how I watch TV!" lol okay, you do that, high priority stuff right there. And every night at bedtime, "Dada can you tell that baby that I'm having trouble going to sleep and that I'm not sure I'm tired?" lol 

minnie_yoga_mama

My nerves are on full blast today. We just got sad news this morning that hubby’s grandma is unresponsive at the hospital and they had to put her on a breathing tube and feeding tube. They have no idea what’s wrong, as she didn’t have any related health issues and was walking around just fine prior to this. We’re planning to have to possibly travel up for a funeral this weekend. My first US appointment is also today and I am SO much more nervous now, because I don’t want my hubby to receive bad news twice in the same day. 😰

Ivorytower2

When you’re trying to make dinner in the crock but have serious first tri smell aversions

jennykatedvm

Great idea @Ivorytower2 ! We did that last time with the crock pot & instant pot, but completely forgot about it until now! Was wanting to make a batch of chili this weekend but didn't want to smell it all day first...

minnie_yoga_mama

@Ivorytower2 LOL I actually love this idea. 😂 I’ve had to open all the windows and doors any time hubby wants to make chicken. Melting in the SW Florida summer heat is still totally better than smelling chicken right now. I’ll have to remember this next time we use the crock pot!

Blondesweety444

This is brilliance! I need to figure out how to get a microwave outside. Hubby has some grilled chicken strips he likes to heat up for lunch every day and it absolutely destroys me. 🤢

monstera13

First pregnancy craving: chocolate silk pie 🤤 

Blondesweety444

Conversation with the hubs this evening. Feeling like garbage and heading upstairs to bed. 

Me: I might text you to make me some food in a bit
him: why not just make it now and take it with you to eat once you feel better?
me: because currently the thought of food makes me gag

such a weird place to be. Hungry and nauseous at the same time 😂

Ivorytower2

@Blondesweety444 this is me 100%!!!

Avrilmai

Any one else watching/following the US Open (tennis)? So excited for the Women's Final. I was hoping these two would both make it

doxiemoxie212

Saw my OB today for the "physical and history" appointment, which I definitely never had with my last pregnancy/OB practice. It was like an annual pap but without the pap? Even though I got this whole thing in April of this year? Like speculum, boob exam, etc. Weird. 

Anyway, she ordered NIPT testing and I got the blood drawn today! So we find out the sex in less than a week!! I thought we had to wait until 12 weeks, but I was wrong. I think they do Harmony at this practice. We did Mat21 at my last.

Also could hear the heartbeat with the doppler!

I asked her about what her thoughts were on the OB practice vs the midwife practice (because our hospital - only in the county - has half the births delivered by midwives so it's really a team effort), and she said the OBs basically follow all the same protocols the midwives do, but obv if you need a c-section then you'll need an OB. She encouraged me to attend one of the meet and greets (virtual) with the midwives. I don't really know how to choose. The OBs will allow you to do any of the stuff you want (they encourage having a doula, encourage laboring/pushing in any position you want, are fine with you being in a bath, eat/drink during labor if you don't have an epidural, etc) and the midwives are also cool with epidurals, etc. So I don't know. I guess I just go off vibe? I like my OB (who I saw today), but I didn't love the OB I saw for the ultrasound, and you'll get whichever OB or midwife is on call, so it's hard to know if it even matters. 

rbflei

I had given away all our baby stuff when we thought we were done. Later we changed our mind and when we got pregnant one of my biggest regrets was not having the same baby toys to take pictures with the new child. Today I stopped by a second hand baby store on a whim and in the store was not only the exact bouncer toy we had but also the exact kick mat play mat we loved. So for 60.00 we managed to replace two items we loved and it actually made me super excited.

SmashJam

@doxiemoxie212 I agree it's a vibe-especially at big hospitals. with all three previous pregnancies I had midwives...the first two at a low intervention hospital so maybe it made a difference-they helped me labor, switched me around, came and checked. They were there for the last three hours of the birth and delivered. Last time I had midwives but at a larger hospital and had no one was with me at all. I got the epidural bc I got left in a triage room alone while H waited for his mom to come get DS6 in the waiting room. A woman I had never seen delivered DS3 after threatening to vacuum him out of I didn't push and giving me an episiotomy without my consent. Anyway, going to same hospital this time and chose the OB practice bc I got a really good vibe from a nurse that works with them and have heard some OBs that work with her are similar.

doxiemoxie212

@SmashJam holy isht lol an episiotomy without consent?? She'd get a black eye without consent. The hospital here is extremely low intervention (not that there's another alternative - you have to cross a bridge to get a different hospital), and it always has been. My mom had me there, and after 18 hours of induced labor (with her water broken the whole time) and only 1 cm dilated *my mom* had to convince *the doctors* to give her a c-section. It's like the polar opposite of what I experienced in NYC. 

SmashJam

@doxiemoxie212 wow! Sounds super low intervention. After I re-read that I realized it was way more info than I should have put in there and I should have maybe just said, " In my hospital I don't think I could tell the difference between the midwives and the OB, so I'm going with vibe," lol.


Random-I am done with corn for the season. I dunno what it is but no matter where I buy corn from a local farm here, its got corn worms. I don't mind it normally, I buy a few extra ears and throw out the wormy ones. But the other day I got three with worms, and one the worm was catepillar sized. Today I went to a ballon festival where they cooked the corn in the husk, and two out of the three had corn worms-cooked-and the ear was fall apart mushy. I gag thinking about it. Corn has been ruined for me. 

shlecks

@SmashJam and now for me. 🤢

aloha_mama

@SmashJam Corn worms are a thing??? GROSS 

monstera13

WTF are corn worms??? Oh no, corn on the cob might be ruined for me. 

SmashJam

Oh no guys, I'm sorry! I will say I have never once found a corn worm in store bought corn. Ever. Only in straight from the farm corn! They are like, tiny gray worms, there's usually one only in the tip. Like you might find in an apple. 

doxiemoxie212

@SmashJam I'm pro overshare, it's okay lol

loveanddatadriven

One thing I haven’t liked during the pandemic has been our loved ones’ differing risk tolerances. We alternately feel like we’re the family nervous nellies who are ruining connection and the reckless black sheep who endanger lives. And this is within a family, including us, who agree that vaccines, masking, and social distancing are important!

Tiny differences in risk tolerance get blown out of proportion and spark unexpected “quarantines” between family members that have nothing to do with exposure to a person known to be Covid+. Just so much anxiety and whiplash.

Edited to modify unnecessarily hyperbolic language.

rbflei

@loveanddatadriven I hear you. I'm not telling my parents we are pregnant till a normal NIPT and my mom is supposed to visit next weekend. We are all vaccinated except my 5 year old yet when I called they were at events outside but with larger groups of people or restaurants and I had to ask if she would either reschedule the trip or get tested before she comes. I felt like a jerk but my mom was super supportive and like you are the one with an unvaccinated child if I want to see her I need to follow the rules. So we laid out the rules for contact. I hope things will be smoother as we are supposed to rent a beach house together in October.

rbflei

On a more fun note, I read a funny question that asked if your kid was named after what you craved while pregnant what would their name be?

My first was easy I ate bean and cheese burritos every day for like 10 weeks of my pregnancy because it was all I could keep down.

This one is trickier so far a mix of Ritz whole wheat crackers in the morning (breakfast of champions) and every Friday takeout Thai chicken yellow curry, spicy enough my husband asks me if I made the staff angy when I ordered it. then I eat leftovers all weekend.

loveanddatadriven

@rbflei haha. This is fun. Our baby shall be named Cinnamon Applesauce!

Ivorytower2

@rbflei all of my kids would be named Pizza. Sort of like George Forman.