No judgement please help

metria27

I had sex on march 16 a one night stand  I got my period March 29 I had sex with my husband on the 5th day of my period and on the last day of my period the doctor said date of conception was in April  the only person I was having sex with was my husband  in April .is this baby his or one night stand guy? Please no judgement 

coldlife2

metria27 said:

I had sex on march 16 a one night stand  I got my period March 29 I had sex with my husband on the 5th day of my period and on the last day of my period the doctor said date of conception was in April  the only person I was having sex with was my husband  in April .is this baby his or one night stand guy? Please no judgement 

Why do you think you can be pregnant from before your period? And why don’t you trust your doctor? If you don’t trust your actual DOCTOR, why in the world would you trust internet strangers? Your doctor knows your fundal height measurements, how your baby looks on ultrasound, when you tested positive, etc., which we do not. Trust your doctor or find one you can. 

coldlife2

Oh wait, you’re the person from TTGP. Please, PLEASE, PLEASE read a
biology textbook. Or just google “how long does sperm survive” or whatever. This is not that hard. I’m pretty sure you’re just trolling at this point. 

metria27

What is wrong  with all of you God damn women  its a question  and all of you guys are being so dang rude about my question  like really  I see other questions no this bored that are dumb  but those questions aren't getting  rude comments like mine thought  all of you women are just so hateful 

inthewoods23

Here's the problem.

You posted a couple weeks ago asking the same question about sperm and periods.

You stated this question was for you 16 year old younger sister.

Now you're telling us the same period and intercourse dates but it's with a one night stand and your husband??

Eta: adding qfp

metria27 said:

What is wrong  with all of you God damn women  its a question  and all of you guys are being so dang rude about my question  like really  I see other questions no this bored that are dumb  but those questions aren't getting  rude comments like mine thought  all of you women are just so hateful 

harpseal135

TRUST YOUR DOCTOR WHO DOES THIS FOR A LIVING. 

lelkcot

Frankly no one is being hateful, you’re just being painfully inconsiderate and obtuse. Your doctor has already answered this question. What on earth could a bunch of strangers on the Internet, without a complete understanding of the situation or access to your medical records, add? 

loveanddatadriven

@metria27 this baby is your husband’s based on the information you provided. Your OB can tell the age of your baby with a lot of accuracy and wouldn’t be off by an entire cycle. You can’t have a period while pregnant (but some women spot), however it sounds like you had a 5+ day regular period. One night stand sperm is long gone. His STDs might not be, though, so take your OB up on any offers for optional STD testing.

I agree with the others, though, that you’re asking the same question over and over of multiple people (OB, us) and getting the same answer, which is annoying. I don’t think it has anything to do with judgment for having a one night stand, and I wish you had been honest in the beginning about your question being about paternity. March 16 sperm is long gone.

optimistgardener

*lurking from the far shores of long-term benched while TTGP*

@metria27 i am sure it is very stressful to be substantially far along in your pregnancy and still be wondering whose baby you're gestating. I don't judge anyone's choices re: who they sleep with or why. But what does really get on my nerves is the assumption that we're all obliged to answer your (poorly phrased, cryptic, and even downright misleading) questions just because you ask them. Seriously? You made this out to be your 16-YEAR-OLD SISTER'S deal and now it turns out it was your mistake? This is the internet. We owe you nothing. You made your own decisions for whatever reason about who you slept with, and your doctor has already answered your questions about the timing of conception, but you still insisted on polling internet strangers, and now a half dozen or so other people here in 1st Tri and the TTGP board have also offered their opinion, based on what they know of the situation. If the folks here on the boards delivered their opinions with a side-helping of sass, that's because you're a random who has barged several times over into a roomful of people who have gotten to know one another, thrown your dirty laundry onto the table, and insisted we consider it with you.

coldlife2

metria27 said:

What is wrong  with all of you God damn women  its a question  and all of you guys are being so dang rude about my question  like really  I see other questions no this bored that are dumb  but those questions aren't getting  rude comments like mine thought  all of you women are just so hateful 

Your question has been answered many many MANY times, including by your own doctor. Why do you keep asking it? Take a paternity test when the baby comes out if you’re that concerned. 

loveanddatadriven

@metria27 are you the mother as your post implies? Or are you “one night stand guy” and you’re worried about being the father?

swizzlemalarkey

@metria27 so are you just like, gonna keep asking the same question and being cranky about it or what. you’d be a lot farther along if it was from your adulterous encounter. You should probably consider marriage counseling,