Me: 34 DH: 36 | Together since 2007 | Married July 2016
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
Re: TTCAL w/o 8.23
GTKY: With school back in session - which school subject did your favorite teacher teach? Which subject for your least favorite teacher? My favorite subject was Psychology/Sociology in school. My least favorite teacher taught English.
Married 10/28/17
Our TTC Journey
Team Green turned Team Blue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21
BFP June '21
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21
Jan '22 - started IF testing
BFP Jan '22
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22
BFP May '22
Re: emails, can you just turn off email notifications in your account? I don't remember getting any after my MC but I also have all notifications turned off. (See spoiler for where to find) The other thing I can think of, is, did you mark in TB that you had a miscarriage?? Or just switch to TTC without that middle step? That might have stopped the notifications. Maybe check to see if you can do that. I know I "told" TB I miscarried, and it marked my status as "after loss" or something like that.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. Spontaneous miscarriage at 7 wks in May
Edit: spacing
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MC @ 8 weeks (8/17/21)
Status: Benched
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I had a follow-up appointment today for HCG and to determine if I need surgery (I don’t, thankfully). Getting to explain to every chipper person in the midwife office that “no, I don’t need a follow up appointment” and “no I do not have a due date to tell you” was a special kind of hell.
Any testing coming up/any recent results? Just waiting for the bleeding to stop before we move on to a benched cycle.
Questions? I’m still having a lot of cramping and discomfort. How long should I expect that to last? I should have asked the midwife, but I was just desperate to leave.
GTKY: With school back in session - which school subject did your favorite teacher teach? Which subject for your least favorite teacher? I had lots of wonderful teachers! One of my favorites was definitely a math teacher. A least favorite was an English teacher.
@tessiesmom26 I agree that it sounds like you may need to click on whatever you named this pregnancy/baby on your profile and select that you had a miscarriage. I did that and the notifications stopped immediately. I’m sorry for the extra heartache finding out about the baby’s sex. I hope you have been able to make space for grief.
@pajamstagrams Yay for being off the bench! I have no idea on your counting months questions, but I will be curious to hear what others say. I think for the “trying for a year” testing/RE question I would count from January, but I don’t know what a doctor would actually say.
2 chemical pregnancies. One in nov 2020 (got a faint line and then af the next day) and one in July at 4w5d- so just barely a cp.
GTKY: With school back in session - which school subject did your favorite teacher teach? Which subject for your least favorite teacher?
I had a few favorites. I was a teachers pet. Gym class teachers in middle and hs were some of my absolute favorites though. Least favorite, hmmm. Probably my 11th grade chemistry teacher who lost all my labs in the last week of school that I then had to redo. IN THE LAST WEEK OF SCHOOL. it’s been over 10 years and I’m still bitter. Haha.
@pajamstagrams I think you can classify it however you like. Saying you've been TTC for 8 months is 100% correct as that was when you were first actively trying. You could say X number of months were from a PG + benched time post-MC.
@abjm0325 oof. Somehow I have been spared from all the awkward comments. Or if I have I guess I just brush it off? Are you currently still bleeding? I would expect that as long as I was still bleeding post-MC but not sure if it's normal when that's done. You might still have some retained tissue your body is trying to get rid of.
@paytonpedro it sucks when things randomly come up to hit you hard.
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MC at 8 weeks Oct 2020
TTC #1 since 7.2017
Dx: low morph (1%), ANA positive, low decidualization score, high TSH and testosterone, histone antibodies
IUI #1-3 | all BFN
IVF #1 | 6.11.19 | 24R, 17M, 15F, 6B, PGT-A tested - 5 normal, 3 girls & 2 boys
FET #1 | 9.10.19 | BFN "I know you, but we've never met. I'm with you, but I don't know your name"
RPL, Receptiva, & ERA testing | all normal/negative, recommended going on gluten and dairy free diet for next FET
FET #2 | 3.31.20 | Opted to cancelled due to pandemic, continued diet and tried naturally over the summer
2nd Opinion with another RE | 8.20.20 | Not immune to measles (received 1 dose); SA results similar to 2 years ago; decided to move forward with FET #2 redo at start of next cycle
Surprise natural BFP! | 9.22.20 | MC 10.23.20 at 8 weeks
TTCAL naturally | starting 11.22.20
Initial consultation with Reproductive Immunologist | 9.14.21
Decidualization score biopsy | 10.1.21 | abnormal - low score of 1; endometrial scratch recommended and progesterone supplementation
Saline sono | 10.15.21 | normal
Bloodwork | 10.21.21 | high TSH, high testosterone, positive for anti-nuclear antibodies and histone antibodies, high protein S, multiple genetic mutations
BFP! | 11.3.21 | EDD 7.14.22 | biopsy provided same effect as endometrial scratch; added supplemental progesterone and estrogen, prednisone, levothyroxine, and MTX Support to maintain pregnancy
DS born 7.19.22 after induction
TTC #2 begins 6.2023
Consultation with RI | 6.6.23
Saline sono, endometritis biopsy, skin & eye check | all normal
Labs | high TSH, Factor XIII mutation, high %CD56
Follow up | 8.8.23 | prescribed metformin, prednisone, plaquenil, and levothyroxine
Repeat labs after 3 weeks on meds
Follow up | 11.9.23 | Green light!, increase in prednisone, added lovenox
Repeat labs in 8 weeks
Follow up | 1.16.24 | Green light continues
TTC put on pause
@paytonpedro I'm sorry for the tough day yesterday. I hope you were able to be kind to yourself. On an unrelated note, that chemistry teacher would have made me pretty salty too!
@paytonpedro oh you didn't miss too much, but the tl:dr PSA is, check your bed (1st thing!) when you travel. 🤢
I'm sorry you're struggling with CD1, and possibly being benched. I would say take advantage of your benched time to do all the things you can't/don't want to do while TTC. And reframe it as "I can take this medicine, which I need, right now". I know it's tough, but trying to find the small silver linings helped me.
@inthewoods23 good luck with your consult next month!
Also I had the same teacher for algebra 2 and calculus! Your combo class sounds so interesting, *actually* getting to apply math in a real world setting? 🤯
Thanks all for your input re: "how long"!
@tessiesmom26 so sorry for your loss. I’m glad you were able to get some closure with the testing but I’m sorry you’re still getting triggered by TB’s emails. I think even I “told” TB I had a miscarriage, it stopped sending updates.
@pajamstagrams yay! Welcome back off the bench! In terms of counting it, I don’t know the right answer. I’ve counted months I’ve been TTC and then cycles AL. So I’ve been TTC since June 2019 but I’m in my first cycle since my most recent loss. Don’t know if that helps. 🤷♀️
@abjm0325 so sorry for your loss. I’m so sorry for the experience in the midwife’s office too. Nothing like salt in the very fresh wound. I don’t have a definitive answer any the cramping and bleeding. My doctor put me on a medication to help stop the bleeding during my first loss (can’t remember what it was) but I would suggest following up and calling your doctor if you’re concerned.
@paytonpedro those unexpected triggers are the worst. I’m glad you’re feeling ready to talk about your loss. Sorry for CD 1 but glad you can still continue taking your medication.
@inthewoods23 oh wow, that consult is coming up fast! I hope you get good answers and recommendations! Glad things are better between you and YH too
Introduce yourself and anything you think is important: number of loss(es), when you had the loss(es), diagnosis/conditions surrounding loss, etc. MC in January, CP in August
Status: WTO
How are things going? What is something that you are struggling with and/or what is going well? I’m better each day as long as I don’t think about things too much. I’ve been working to distract myself as much as possible. I’d had it in my head that if I were KU this cycle, it would make my empty due date this weekend a little less painful. A second loss definitely makes it worse though. Aside from that, I’m trying to keep my head in a positive space for this current cycle and am working hard to continue my healthier habits and exercising daily (which a good distraction!).
Any testing coming up/any recent results? None yet. But I mentioned in the IF thread that I’m thinking I’m going to ask my OB for a referral to a RE if we’re not successful this cycle.
Questions? No
GTKY: With school back in session - which school subject did your favorite teacher teach? Which subject for your least favorite teacher? I’m sure it’s no surprise that my favorite was music! I liked almost all of them except my ES band teacher and one of my JH band teachers. Honorable mention for favorite teacher/subject is my HS French teacher for grades 11 and 12. Least favorite was my physics teacher and also my French teacher for grades 9 and 10.
I would definitely reach out to an RE soon! It can't hurt, right? And with 2 losses, and overall time, you probably are pretty justified.
General question for the group: anyone deal with hair loss after your loss? I know a 7 week miscarriage is probably waaaay too early for true "postpartum" hair loss (given that there simply wasn't enough time to actually hold on to the strands you're not losing while PG), but surely the stress of it could trigger "normal" hair loss? I've had stress-induced hair loss before, so I'm guessing that's what this is.
@pajamstagrams I had terrible hair loss, that I am still dealing with. I talked to my OB about it at my D&C follow up appt and he said it was normal and stress could definitely be a contributing factor. Hopefully it won't last too long for you!
I will come back later to respond to everyone else.
Married 10/28/17
Our TTC Journey
Team Green turned Team Blue 10/15/18
TTC #2 January '21
BFP June '21
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C July '21
Jan '22 - started IF testing
BFP Jan '22
MMC/Blighted Ovum that led to D&C Feb '22
BFP May '22
BFP 11/30/2017 | MMC 12/31/2017
BFP 6/22/2018 | CP 6/27/2018
BFP 10/5/2018 | EDD 6/14/2019
Baby girl born 6/19/19
TTC #2 May 2020-November 2021
BFP 7/18/2020 | MonoDi Twins | MMC 9/10/2020
BFP 11/7/2020 | CP 11/9/2020
RE Consult January 2021 | Dx "borderline DOR"/RPL
IVF with PGT:
Standard Antagonist:
ER #1 3/27/2021 7R | 5M | 3F | 2B | 1 PGT-A Normal, 1 low-level mosaic
ER #2 4/22/2021 10R | 7M | 3F | 2B | 0 normal, 2 aneuploid
ER #3 5/19/2021 2R | 1M | 0F
Estrogen Priming Antagonist:
ER #4 7/10/2021 5R | 4M | 3F | 1B | 1 PGT-A Normal
Duostim (Standard Antagonist):
ER #5 9/22/2021 13R | 11M | 8F | 5B | 2 PGT-A Normal, 1 low-level mosaic, 2 aneuploid
ER #6 10/9/2021 9R | 6M | 4 F | 1B | 1 aneuploid
FET #1 11/5/2021 | EDD 7/24/2022
Baby boy born 7/19/22
TTC #3 since May 2023 (ntnp)
IVF Started Fall 2023 (Standard Antagonist)
ER #7 10/6/2023 | 9R | 6M | 5F | 3B | 2 aneuploid, 1 high-level mosaic
ER #8 10/31/2023 | 5R | 4M | 3F | 1B | 1 PGT-A Normal
FET #2 11/27/23 | CP (bHCG = 8)
FET #3 planned Jan 2024