I have no idea what cilantro is supposed to be like? I don't find that it tastes like soap but it doesn't have a distinctive flavor to me either way. is it just garnish? idk.
my UO: mayo is good. I'm not nuts, I don't want to like eat it by itself or anything, but it's a requirement for me on burgers, hot dogs, most meat-based sandwiches, and mixed with ketchup for fries (regular and sweet potato).
@chgilmore omg mayo on a hotdog?! Excuse while I go vomit! 😂😂
UO- the expectation to not talk about your pregnancy until after first trimester is dumb. Why aren't we "allowed" to get excited before then? Because pregnancy comes with risks doesn't mean it doesn't count if you experience loss.
I second your UO. maybe I'd feel differently after experiencing a loss, but that'd still be a personal choice for me not a rule I'd expect others to follow. fck anyone trying to tamper joy
@modoodles after a loss, I’m now waiting as long as possible. It hurt me more to “untell” people. So I’m waiting for now. But I’m not opposed to telling people earlier. Do what feels good for you.
@makingbacon Cilantro is delicious! It a distinct taste, kind of a citrusy-peppery-spicy herb. haha. tbh if it tasted like soap to me, I'd never eat it either! @chgilmore MH and SS agree with you! I'm more of a ketchup fan. They love it on their grilled cheese even. I'm good without but I do like it.
My UO: Sushi is overrated. I've had it maybe 5 times in my life and I never crave it.
@modoodles - I agree. The more loss/harder time I had, the more I shared. I know if I have another loss, I need support and I’m wanting to bring awareness to loss & infertility. My IVF story is on my Instagram. Sharing helped it feel a bit less heavy but at times did bring some extra anxiety.
Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
I could take or leave cilantro, but my DH loves it and uses it constantly at home.
@chgilmore I can't stand mayo. I use miracle whip in place of it for just about everything but dips. We have to have a jar of both in the house because I'm the only one of that opinion.
@lexilougolden sushi was date night last week. He was craving it and I enjoy it once in awhile but have to be in the mood for it.
@modoodles I agree! We announced all of our pregnancies early to family, even after our loss. I can't imagine not having the support around me going through that. This one we are waiting another week but kept it quiet for other reasons. Everyone should announce whenever they feel compelled to without others input.
I felt so alone after my loss, and we had family members very upset because we hadn't told them we were expecting before then. I really dgaf how *they* feel about it, but I know I wish back then that I had felt like DH and I weren't the only ones going through it. We told them right away this time, mostly because we were having lunch at a brewery and I couldn't drink, but still. It was a relief to share early with them this time.
@modoodles That is hard. Getting hit with everyone’s reactions/emotions while trying to process the loss and having all of your own emotions is super difficult to do.
We only told my family about loss #1. I’m pretty sure DH told his family about all 3 losses, but I’m not sure. We are really private people, and my family reacted poorly to the news. Poorly as in I got yelled at about using my birth control correctly (we were trying so not sure how I was supposed to use it?), and then they blabbed it to everyone who would listen after being told not to do that. We tell people now about them if the subject comes up/we’re comfortable with them, but my family isn’t in the know.
@modoodles I got the same reaction from some family and a neighbor. They were so shocked I couldn’t come to them right away when it happened. No one knew except my parents and husband because it was such a hard, dark, lonely road for me. I didn’t want to share my story constantly, so I kept it to myself. I told them I didn’t have the heart to say it because it hurt so bad to even say I lost 5 babies.
After my loss I realized I need to tell people that I could lean on if something bad happened. But I hate my coworkers so Im trying to keep it quiet as long as possible. Its different for everyone. My last pregnancy my boss pretty much bullied me into telling my one coworker because she didnt want that coworkers feelings to get hurt because they didnt know. I regret that I caved and told her, no one should be bullied into that. So this time around Im not even telling my boss for as long as I possibly can. I might even deny it even after Im very obviously pregnant lol
@livingoffpbjs That is horrible of your boss. Why would your coworker’s feelings be hurt? I told a couple people with DS2 in my office, but otherwise people found out once I really popped.
@makingbacon it’s too long of a story, my boss feels bad for this girl and worries about her feelings too much. Same girl that worked for her 10 years ago and she fired for stealing from the company. It’s a messed up situation but I won’t leave because I get paid well and have a ton of flexibility.
Re: UO 7.29.21
my UO: mayo is good. I'm not nuts, I don't want to like eat it by itself or anything, but it's a requirement for me on burgers, hot dogs, most meat-based sandwiches, and mixed with ketchup for fries (regular and sweet potato).
UO- the expectation to not talk about your pregnancy until after first trimester is dumb. Why aren't we "allowed" to get excited before then? Because pregnancy comes with risks doesn't mean it doesn't count if you experience loss.
I second your UO. maybe I'd feel differently after experiencing a loss, but that'd still be a personal choice for me not a rule I'd expect others to follow. fck anyone trying to tamper joy
DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
TTC #2 06.2019
08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!
DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
TTC #2 06.2019
08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!
@chgilmore I can't stand mayo. I use miracle whip in place of it for just about everything but dips. We have to have a jar of both in the house because I'm the only one of that opinion.
@lexilougolden sushi was date night last week. He was craving it and I enjoy it once in awhile but have to be in the mood for it.
@modoodles I agree! We announced all of our pregnancies early to family, even after our loss. I can't imagine not having the support around me going through that. This one we are waiting another week but kept it quiet for other reasons. Everyone should announce whenever they feel compelled to without others input.