5am pregnancy insomnia brain thought - with my first baby, I remember visitors asking what time was convenient for them to come see the baby. Honestly, with a baby that sleeps a lot in unpredictable spurts, I found ALL times of the day and night were equally convenient and inconvenient and my response would be "2PM, 2AM, it makes no difference to us". I have a new response for this time.. the answer is lunch or dinner time and visitors are expected to bring the meal. I felt pressure to be a good host the first time around.. I will have none of that this time. 😁
@mayoduck I know this will be my instinct too! Have you heard of “sip and sees”? I’m probably going to try and do this for our friends (we have a big group and we’re like family) but not until he’s closer to about a month old
@mayoduck I never even considered feeding family that came to visit, thankfully everyone came with food for us all automatically so they must've known what was going on 😅🙈
@marbellie I don't think I ever fed family that came.. they often just didn't come around meal times. So they almost never brought food either. I think this time it'll be a requirement 😂 @jackie_dunny I have heard of them! With my first, timing ended up working out that he was introduced to most family during Easter festivities. With the timing of this one, we might do the same for Christmas (pandemic pending, of course, but at least the vast majority of my family are vaccinated and I know exactly who isn't 🙄). I like that not hosting the party allows us to control how much time we spend with everyone. My bigger problem with the first is that my kids have 3 sets of grandparents, two aunts and two uncles who all needed to stop by separately multiple times to see the baby during the first few weeks. They will not wait for a sip and see party. One set even rearranged their month-long vacation to try to get back before baby's due date even though I said no one will see the baby until a few days after he's born 🤷🏼♀️ @freakymagoo ugh, same!
@mayoduck having had a fall baby before, it's so hard balancing holidays/family visits why with cold and flu concerns... Let alone now COVID concerns. I'm likely going to turn into protective mama bear and not allow anyone around unmasked 😂🤷🏾♀️
@marbellie yeah, I figure Thanksgiving is out completely and we'd play Christmas by ear and likely just pop by if we do. And hopefully I can baby wear this one, which I think makes it easier to decline baby holders, but my first baby couldn't tolerate baby wearing; he overheated very easily.
My due date is two days before thanksgiving soooo I’m not sure how we will handle that if she’s here by then. She’ll be super tiny. With my older kids we won’t be skipping holidays though. They’d be devastated. We may host though so that we can control the cleaning/ have a space away from the crowd for the baby. They’ll be in school too so there’s no avoiding germs. We will just take our vitamins, hand wash ect. And do our best.
@mayoduck having had a fall baby before, it's so hard balancing holidays/family visits why with cold and flu concerns... Let alone now COVID concerns. I'm likely going to turn into protective mama bear and not allow anyone around unmasked 😂🤷🏾♀️
Yep, same. I wouldn't let family see Arlo if they weren't fully up to date on all their vaccines (flu included) - which they were all more than happy to comply with. This year, Jeff and I have agreed that we aren't having visitors or going anywhere for the holidays because it's too stressful and COVID is more than enough reason not to. See all y'all fuckers in the new year! ✌🏼
Welp, guys. I got a job offer today that I'm going to accept! Any advice for how I should broach the topic of me being a week out from the third trimester?
I am definitely requiring all family members to be vaccinated/wear masks in her first two months. I've already warned them because my parents have been very against getting the vaccine, but with me working in healthcare, I just straight out told them, then you wont see her for her first two months. I'm also a little scarred because on of my sisters twins was in the icu with h flu meningitis for a month which he more than likely got from a visitor having it when they were around him. He almost died and has several issues from this. Then he just went in again with RSV. When it comes to my baby there is no playing nice or trying to placate people's political beliefs. @sliztee I don't have any advice either but congrats! I started a new job right before I found out I was pregnant, but we knew we were doing an embryo transfer and there was a potential for me to be pregnant and due in 9 months. The hardest part has been the maternity leave honestly. I don't qualify for fmla, so I have to request like a medical leave of absence, which they won't even let me do until I'm 32 weeks, so I have no idea how much time they are going to approve me for. Hopefully they are understanding.
@chartput Ugh, that sounds stressful about maternity leave. I don't blame you one fucking bit for keeping firm boundaries with family about vaccinations. It's wild to me that people aren't chomping at the bit for any damn vaccine they can get, but I guess that's what happens when you're privileged enough not to know anyone who's been severely ill or died from now preventable diseases
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Due: 6 Nov 2021
@jackie_dunny I have heard of them! With my first, timing ended up working out that he was introduced to most family during Easter festivities. With the timing of this one, we might do the same for Christmas (pandemic pending, of course, but at least the vast majority of my family are vaccinated and I know exactly who isn't 🙄). I like that not hosting the party allows us to control how much time we spend with everyone. My bigger problem with the first is that my kids have 3 sets of grandparents, two aunts and two uncles who all needed to stop by separately multiple times to see the baby during the first few weeks. They will not wait for a sip and see party. One set even rearranged their month-long vacation to try to get back before baby's due date even though I said no one will see the baby until a few days after he's born 🤷🏼♀️
@freakymagoo ugh, same!
Due: 6 Nov 2021
Due: 6 Nov 2021
I'm also a little scarred because on of my sisters twins was in the icu with h flu meningitis for a month which he more than likely got from a visitor having it when they were around him. He almost died and has several issues from this. Then he just went in again with RSV. When it comes to my baby there is no playing nice or trying to placate people's political beliefs.
@sliztee I don't have any advice either but congrats! I started a new job right before I found out I was pregnant, but we knew we were doing an embryo transfer and there was a potential for me to be pregnant and due in 9 months. The hardest part has been the maternity leave honestly. I don't qualify for fmla, so I have to request like a medical leave of absence, which they won't even let me do until I'm 32 weeks, so I have no idea how much time they are going to approve me for. Hopefully they are understanding.