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Babies on the Brain
kit89
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Mixed feelings- anyone experience anything similar, what did you do?
kit89
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When I hit 30, my body went baby crazy. I wanted another one so. Bad. Husband was meh, more no than yes and my two girls were so against it. I was outnumbered and worried about upsetting our happy dynamic. I dropped it and moved on.
Fast forward 2 years. Both girls are suddenly extremely interested in a brand new sibling and have been for weeks, and husband is suggesting I pay a visit to my gyn to remove my iud- at first, I was excited! During the day, I find myself playing with names and baby themes and if I'm in a store I eventually land in the baby aisle- but at night, I feel <i>scared</i>! I feel so uncertain!
First off, my kids are 9 and 14. <i>9 and 14!</i> They are largely independent, they can feed themselves if needed and bathe themselves and entertain themselves. Date nights and even weekends are as easy as ordering a pizza or other takeout for their dinner(s), letting them each pick a rental or two a piece or something PPV, and we are good to go, the most arrangements needed is grandma popping in to check on things if we are gone more than a day, and if grandma can't, we have 4 police officers that live on our street, two of which we are good friends with, in a peaceful neighborhood, I dont worry about leaving them home alone too often. They know the rules.
A baby tosses all of that out the window.
I find some comfort in my oldest being 14 (15+ by the time baby arrives) and knowing that she will be able to babysit when the baby is a few months old, and they are both big enough to help with some of the tasks at hand with baby, but at the same time, part of me thinks 9-10 and 15+ years in an age gap is too much! And the selfish feeling of abandoning freedom that holds me back has me feeling guilty. Am I being too selfish? Is this normal? What was your experience if any? What is it like going from a family of 4 to a family of 5?
Fast forward 2 years. Both girls are suddenly extremely interested in a brand new sibling and have been for weeks, and husband is suggesting I pay a visit to my gyn to remove my iud- at first, I was excited! During the day, I find myself playing with names and baby themes and if I'm in a store I eventually land in the baby aisle- but at night, I feel <i>scared</i>! I feel so uncertain!
First off, my kids are 9 and 14. <i>9 and 14!</i> They are largely independent, they can feed themselves if needed and bathe themselves and entertain themselves. Date nights and even weekends are as easy as ordering a pizza or other takeout for their dinner(s), letting them each pick a rental or two a piece or something PPV, and we are good to go, the most arrangements needed is grandma popping in to check on things if we are gone more than a day, and if grandma can't, we have 4 police officers that live on our street, two of which we are good friends with, in a peaceful neighborhood, I dont worry about leaving them home alone too often. They know the rules.
A baby tosses all of that out the window.
I find some comfort in my oldest being 14 (15+ by the time baby arrives) and knowing that she will be able to babysit when the baby is a few months old, and they are both big enough to help with some of the tasks at hand with baby, but at the same time, part of me thinks 9-10 and 15+ years in an age gap is too much! And the selfish feeling of abandoning freedom that holds me back has me feeling guilty. Am I being too selfish? Is this normal? What was your experience if any? What is it like going from a family of 4 to a family of 5?