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b_1029
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TFAS w/o 5/17
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**This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. Please be mindful that the discussion of living children in the WTO/TWW threads is prohibited unless extremely pertinent to your current cycle.**
***If you are having a hard day Re: TTC or TTCAL, please note that this thread will discuss living children and/or issues specifically dealing with parenting and/or babies. Previous pregnancy, or labor & delivery experiences may also be mentioned. Please lurk at your own discretion.***
What number are you trying for?
Month/Cycle?
WAYDTGKU:
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
Rant/Rave?
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be?
Month/Cycle?
WAYDTGKU:
WTO/TWW?
Ages of other child(ren)?
Any thoughts about this cycle?
Any questions?
Rant/Rave?
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be?
Re: TFAS w/o 5/17
Month/Cycle? 2
WAYDTGKU: OPKs, CM. Probably going to order a new BBT today.
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 10.5m
Any thoughts about this cycle? I know I’m not pregnant, and just want to move on. I’m starting to let myself get cynical about this taking a long time again like it did for DD. At the end of the day I don’t want to put myself through all that again so if it comes to it, I will be happy with just 1. She’s amazing.
Any questions? Where do you all get good work clothes? I typically go to Loft, but am looking for new ideas.
Rant/Rave? Pretty much covered in my “thoughts” portion. Putting the rest in a spoiler bc it’s long
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? Bora Bora or anywhere with those awesome above water huts!
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WAYDTGKU: PNV, OPKs
WTO/TWW? WTO, with O day tomorrow
Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5y
Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm actually feeling pretty good about this cycle; second cycle off BC and it's spot on time so far if today's blazing peak OPK is to be believed. When TTC DS, it took 8 months for my body to regulate a cycle after stopping BC, so I'm really hopeful that it at least seems that my body this time has sprung right back to regular. It's also a little bit wild to me how different I feel about this TTC journey than my previous one. When TTC my son, OPKs and tracking etc. etc. beyond an app doing the calendar method (which, admittedly, is what made it take so long to conceive because it didn't adapt for my cycle; it just always predicted 28 day cycles & I have a 34 day cycle) really, really stressed me out and I had panic attacks. This time, one, I am taking better care of my mental health, and two, the OPKs etc. are all really helping me feel like I have something to do while I wait for timing etc. to align.
Any questions? No.
Rant/Rave? I'm really, really relieved to see a peak OPK this morning.
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? Sapporo, Japan. My favorite place on Earth. We were vaguely planning a trip back to Japan (we've been twice, and it's incredible) in 2020 for the Olympics and then COVID, so I already have our Taiwan & Sapporo trip planned out; we just have to wait until after the pandemic, etc. etc. (and hopefully, until after a second kid, ha).
I’m glad this time around is less crazy! And hopefully it won’t take as long either. Yay for a peak! Are you using the clearblue OPK / monitor (I don’t remember what it’s called)?
sorry for all my edits, typing is hard haha
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WAYDTGKU: Mira, PNV, HIO
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 10 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? I think our timing was ok (-3, -1) but I’m bummed we didn’t HIO successfully on O. DH has performance anxiety when we’re TTC and we had sex 3 times that day with no finish. 🥺 My plan going forward is to hide the Mira and stay quiet about O so he doesn’t get nervous, poor fella.
Any questions? Not really
Rant/Rave? Our son is finally making “M” sounds that sound kinda like mama. He’s been jabbering dadadada for months so I’m hoping my time is coming!
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? Like @b_1029, those on the water huts in Bora Bora or Maldives sound so amazing. But I think I’d probably lean more the Europe direction. I would kill to be on the Mediterranean coast right now, preferably Italy. Bring me my wine and antipasti while I watch the ocean, please.
Month/Cycle? 3/2
WAYDTGKU: PNV BBT OPK concieve+
WTO/TWW? Who TF knows lol
Ages of other child(ren)? 1, 3
Any thoughts about this cycle?
So. MANY. Thoughts. So my little one is still nursing like once a day. I can’t decide if my ovaries are broken again or if that’s causing the weirdness with my ovulation or lack there of. I know if I’m serious about TTC again I need to finish off weaning but we both really enjoy it it and I’m so sad that he may be my last little nursling. I’ve exclusively breastfed both kiddos and I’ve loved it so much. I know he’s almost done too though I’m trying to in my mind prepare that it just may be over if I can’t get pregnant again. Other than that I’m seriously praying I ovulated yesterday. My husband is like seriously no big deal it’ll happen if it’s supposed to and if not there’s so many kids out there who need a good mom like you. I have no chill and I never have in my life so like it’s kind of him to say but like not helping lol however our friends did just adopt and they got us pre approved with a really great agency. Which also was nice of them but I’m not sure I’m there yet. Ugh sorry I’m rambling there’s just so much floating in my head.
Any questions? Not specifically unless any of you have experience TTC nursing past a year.
Rant/Rave? Oldest boy is at speech right now so I’m just hanging out in the car with the little dude. We don’t have much going on today. I’m thinking about taking them to chick fil a and the park this afternoon. Tomorrow DS1 has soccer. He just dropped out of gymnastics because now that his brother does it “it’s for babies” and he can’t be otherwise convinced. The family is planning a trip to Santa Claus Indiana this summer though which sounds like a blast. And I’ve started planning DS2’s 1.5 party since he’s a Christmas baby. It’s going to be Merry Birthday themed. And DS 1 wants a “chicken party” for his birthday this summer because he loves farm animals so I’m looking at farms to do his “clucky birthday” party. I LOVE a freaking party y’all I can’t wait!
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? ITALLY!!!! (And Greece if that’s possible lol) I’ve always wanted to go to the Vatican, see all the Italian history, eat all the food, have a reason to learn Italian, all of it! In Greece I love the history there too 😍. But the food ehhh it’s okay.
@b_1029 Im sorry your feeling the brunt of parenting. It’s definitely real for moms. I’m a SAHM right now but mainly because I was doing it all and working nights at the hospital and I was just done with it. I love being with the kids but I’d love to work part time like one day a week. I have so much respect for working moms. It’s so hard and the world expects you to parent like you don’t work and work like you don’t parent. The mental load can be tiring. Does YH listen if you try to talk to him about it?
@beakay8 Japan has never occurred to me! What is it like there?
@rachelredhead omg the first time they say mama is so magical 😍 just wait til they say I love you. It was seriously one of the best moments of my life.
@beakay8 I'm so glad to hear that the opks are helping this time around, and that you are in a better place mental health wise. Good luck with O tomorrow and I hope your timing is spot on!
@daisy22 It is so hard to decide when to wean, and even then it is such an emotional adjustment. I made it 8 months with DD and it was hard to get there, but I am really looking forward to nursing again (hopefully) with baby #2. I would be so sad if I didn't get another chance, so I big hugs that you are feeling those feels. Ah, a Merry Birthday party sounds so cute. We did a farm theme for DD last year. It was adorable. I got animals from Michaels to put on the cake with a little wood fence around the cake. I was really proud of it
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 4/3
WAYDTGKU: Mira/Letrozole
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? I feel ridiculously hopeful. I need to rein it in because I know I'll take it hard if it doesn't work out. I am planning to meet with my RE if it doesn't work out though and see what the next step should be.
Any questions? nope
Rant/Rave? We took DD to the zoo over the weekend. It was adorable and just totally filled my motherhood tank. She has been talking about how the elephants pooped ever since. So funny.
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? I would go back to Norway. We visited the most adorable little town on a lake and I just want to be back there eating good food and relaxing.
@daisy0322 I’ve tried, but I’m not great at expressing myself. It always just comes out in a rant and certainly isn’t productive. I know he’s really stressed with work because one of his direct reports retired but I feel like my job is looked at as less important so I can just sacrifice time Willy nilly.
I’m sure BF is affecting your cycles but I don’t have any advice on continuing and TTC. Sorry for all the cycle confusion.
@daisy0322 all the hugs for everything in your update today. I'm lurking on all your posts. Also, the weaning time is such a bittersweet time. I definitely also followed my kid's cues and it was a great end to a great experience together (that had an awful rocky start), but yeah, it's a big transition. That's definitely emotional + all the things. Also, Japan is great! We love Japan! We spent 10 days there for our honeymoon, and then went back for 2 weeks (different part) in 2016. It's an incredible country with incredible people. The funny thing about Japan is that, while I do not speak Japanese, I am bilingual and for whatever reason, my brain switches to my second language when we are there and I have to do a ridiculous translation process to come up with English. I think I should attempt to learn Japanese (my husband speaks a little, reads a bit more) from my second language because maybe it'll help!
@kgg2241 thank you! timing should be spot on with -5, -2, O. I cannot wait to take DS to a zoo (we had zoo plans right when COVID hit last year) and also, Norway is so on my list!!
@rachelredhead so relatable about the performance anxiety; I definitely have to keep it low key around MH. He knows I track my cycles closer/closely when TTC but he doesn't want to know anything else about it or it triggers his anxiety, and I definitely don't want to do that. It's a funny balance act of what helps each of feel calm during this time, and we are not at all the same in what those things are, ha.
Month/Cycle? 6/6
WAYDTGKU: NTNP
WTO/TWW? wto
Ages of other child(ren)? 16 mos
Any thoughts about this cycle? natm, only on day 6
Any questions? nada
Rant/Rave? both: wound up emailing my OB re bloodwork, she indicated that over 32/under 35 they look to more testing at 9 mos, so she said let's discuss in july and determine if we need to refer me out at that point. part of my just wishes she would order the labwork, but i also like that she's like i'm in a RE, i'm an OB, and i'm gonna stay in my lane.
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? oh gosh, let me be gluttonous and just say europe in general... for like 6 weeks. all the places. i'm very lucky to have traveled a lot, so being grounded for a solid 18 mos is a longggggggg time.
@b_1029 soooooooo i have very strong opinion re division of responsibilities of kid(s)... it takes two to tango, so i'm expecting a pretty even division of childcare. it certainly ebbs and flows depending on what's going on if someone is working more or needs to do housework, and a lot more fell on me when nursing in the first year. i will say this - my husband wants my expectations outlined (even before kids it was this way!), he very clearly lives in the "i am not a mind reader, tell me what to do" camp and once i got over the mental hurdle of feeling like i always had to ask or give directions, i just did it... and he does his part. i'm very direct at heart, so i know everyone is different, but i would sit down and talk about how you're feeling and be prepared with a "i would feel a lot less stressed if you did xyz" anyway, i hope that's helpful! just know it's normal to feel like more weighs on you, but you don't have to suffer through that.
@beakay8 i would love to do Japan, i've done other parts of Asia but never Japan! friends of ours have been like 5x and always rave about it.
@rachelredhead ohhhhh mama is the best! and then once they learn to give hugs
@daisy0322 i love that you're doing a 18 mos party! we are also a christmas baby here, and i debated that after all plans for a first birthday were dashed.
@kgg2241 fingers crossed for you! we love the zoo, and that's amazing how verbal your DD must be! we've got a good chunk of single words, but i wouldn't say we have convos at 16mos!
Oh, and you stole my answer for the GTKY question. On a whim, I recently put in for a raffle to win a 6-day trip to an overwater bungalow in Bora Bora.
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WAYDTGKU: Tracking cycle/BBT/CM/CP, taking PNVs, using OPKs, HIO
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 7 months
Any thoughts about this cycle? My last one was exactly 28 days, so I'll be interested to see how this one goes since I'm usually in the 31 day range.
Any questions? Nah
Rant/Rave? No real rants today.
Rave - I've decided to put in for a promotion at work. I won't be able to interview for it until December, then the board meets in April and publishes their results in July, and if I get it then I'll get promoted June 1, 2023. It's a loooooong process, with the potential for us to have to move if I do get selected, but I'd be making roughly $12,000 more a year, so it's really, really tempting. If they don't offer me a good location, then I can turn it down and retire out of the military with 21 years of honorable service at that time, so I'd be good either way.
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? An overwater bungalow in Bora Bora or the Maldives, please. I need clear water, warm sunshine, and QUIET.
Due with baby #2: Feb 2022
What number are you trying for? 2
Month/Cycle? 2/2
WAYDTGKU: OPKs, vitamins
WTO/TWW? TWW
Ages of other child(ren)? 3 (will be 4 in July)
Any thoughts about this cycle? Meh. Not great timing, so just mentally preparing to move on to the next cycle.
Any questions? Nope
Rant/Rave? I was able to keep myself in check during a meeting with a difficult colleague this morning, so that was good. As far as TTC, just having a similar conversation with myself to what @b_1029 mentioned: what am I willing to go through and how long am I willing to wait for #2? I obviously haven’t been trying very long, but as I get older I find that I need to mentally prepare for the various possibilities.
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be?
Ooh, great question! DH and I have started very generally planning for our next trip, so I’ve been thinking about this (without the money/Covid freedom, haha). If I was going right this second, I think I’d go back to Portugal because we had such a lovely time there.
@b_1029 Sending you creepy Internet hugs! It stinks when the parental load gets so far out of balance.
@beakay8 Japan sounds like such a fun trip destination!
@rachelredhead That is a bummer about your H’s performance anxiety. Hopefully you all can figure out a plan that will work well next cycle (if that’s necessary!)
@daisy0322 Your party plans sound like so much fun! My DD wants all the rainbow things for her party this summer. 😊
@kgg2241 Love the zoo! That sounds like such a fun outing.
@anniemarie887 Ooh, can I join your 6-week trip?!
@babyodo Good luck with the promotion!
What number are you trying for? 3
Month/Cycle? Final Treatment Cycles
WAYDTGKU: Natural FET
WTO/TWW? WTO
Ages of other child(ren)? 8.5m, 2.5y
Any thoughts about this cycle? Sigh. Hoping that my ovaries cooperate here and we can just have a straightforward, perfectly perfect cycle here!
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Any questions? NATM
Rant/Rave? Okay, I am a little bit too excited about the fact that I may or may not have a teeny tiny violin on its way to my house right now, you know, JIC DD wants to play it with mommy. :love: I also found a dance class that sounds promising, but I don't want to get my -- er, I mean -- HER -- hopes up. o:)
GTKY: If you could go anywhere in the world right now (money and covid aside), where would it be? Oh my gosh, I think I have to say team water huts like bora bora or figi, bali java something like that. I have never been anywhere remotely tropical or islandy like that, and I would just love to have that kind of oasis getaway.
@b_1029 I missed your original question about clothes. I am a shopping addict 🙈. Recently I've been into & Other Stories. They are H&M's big sister store (and more expensive), but the style is fun. I also like ASOS.
@babyodo thank you for your service! FX the promotion works out! That is a long wait though.
so at my sons soccer practice I’m talking to one of the moms and we’ve gotten along a few times and she was like oh hey let me find you in Facebook so I was like yeah great idea blah blah blah well the next day she sent me pictures of my kids from like 3 weeks ago and was like oh I thought you’d want these I got really cute pictures of both your kids. And at first I was like wow that’s really sweet. Then I was like ... (in my head) why were you taking pictures of my kids? Like is that weird she had 4-5 pictures of them. Just them her kids weren’t in the picture and no one else from the team. My youngest playing on the sidelines of the game and my older one during the game. And it was from the first game because I know what they were wear so she’s seen them like twice and we hadn’t even spoke yet I don’t think. Am I over reacting? Is this weird?