TFAS week of 5/10

daisy0322

**This is a check-in for those with babies/children at home. Please be mindful that the discussion of living children in the WTO/TWW threads is prohibited unless extremely pertinent to your current cycle.**

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What number are you trying for?

Month/Cycle?

WAYDTGKU:

WTO/TWW?

Ages of other child(ren)?

Any thoughts about this cycle?

Any questions?

Rant/Rave?

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? 

daisy0322

What number are you trying for? 3

Month/Cycle? 3/2 1 AL

WAYDTGKU: PNV BBT OPK CM 

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 1, 3 both boys

Any thoughts about this cycle? I really don’t know honestly- there’s nothing to SS even 😂 I’ve had a little cramping and sore boobs but that can go either way. Timing was good.

Any questions? Not really 

Rant/Rave? Just working on weaning my youngest he’s down to nursing just in the morning. However this morning my nipples are killing me. I do a lot of attachment Type parenting so I try to do baby led weaning and it’s going well but this morning I was like okay get off lol I think this happened last month before my period too but I can’t remember. My oldest is doing great in speech, hasn’t had any accidents lately potty training and did great at his second soccer game this week! He just seems like he’s growing up so fast. 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans?

We don’t do it often but there’s a river boat dinner club thing near by. We love to buy tickets and have dinner on the river then they usually have dancing and a bar on the deck or something. It’s beautiful to watch the sun set over the city while you sail.  

ReadyForaB

@daisy0322 weaning is rough!  And a soccer game?  How fun!  I love watching my kiddo play.  He did soccer at 2 and is now in tball.  I live for it haha. 

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2/2

WAYDTGKU: BBT, PNV

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 4 year old DS

Any thoughts about this cycle?  It's a mess.  TW - Loss

I am coming off a loss in Mach and my cycles are all out of wack. I am on CD 22 an still no O.  I usually O around CD14.  I also got my second covid vaccine so spiked a pretty bad fever and took tons of ibuprofen.  Calling this cycle a wash and awaiting AF at this point so I could start fresh. 

Any questions? nope. 

Rant/Rave?  My DH, DS and I are taking a family vacation this year.  The week we come back, my husband's place of employment is closed for vacation, so he is off another week (didn't plan it like this).  Anyway, his family will be at the beach and he suggested he might take DS down for a few days.  I can not take more time off of work.  I know I am being completely illogical and selfish but I hate the idea of them at the beach without me.  I told him I didn't like the idea but I know it would be stupid to not go.  I mean, he is off and they have a place to stay for free. Ugh!

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? Just a nice dinner will suffice. 

daisy0322

@ReadyForaB
 I totally get that vacation dilemma. I don’t actually think my husband would be comfortable taking our two to the beach by himself though so that’s cool yours is!  TW

Im sorry i had a (real early) loss in March too 😔 I was surprised my April cycle came back so normally. I hope yours gets straightened out soon. 

ReadyForaB

@daisy0322 Well we only have one DS haha.  And DH's parents will be there.  He is alone with him during the day a few days a week bc he works nights and I work days so he is used to being alone with him often. He would be fine in that aspect.  I am just a tad jealous I can't join I guess. I will miss them. 

Glad to hear yours came back normally.  My loss was pretty early too (6 weeks, took misoprostol at 9 weeks).  I have always had cycles like clockwork so I am hoping it resolves soon.  I did just start turning pregnancy tests completely negative this week.  

b_1029

@daisy0322 imagining 3 year old soccer 🥺 so cute, I can’t wait until Dd can start playing sports / doing activities! A river boat sounds fun and fancy

@ReadyForaB id be conflicted! On one hand it would be nice to have some alone time, but on the other hand I wouldn’t want to miss out on the fun. Sorry for the wonky cycle. 

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2

WAYDTGKU: CM, OPKs

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 10m

Any thoughts about this cycle? I had O pain for the first time PP so taking that as a positive. However it was a lot later than I remember it being before- before it was always between CD 11-13 and this time it was 16. I also never had a fully positive OPK this month 🤷🏼‍♀️ Oh well, I just have no idea what my body is doing PP yet. 

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave? I’m down to 1 short pump a day and it’s glorious. I pumped “full time” but still had to supplement with formula, and it’s so nice not being attached to it all the time. I feel like I can enjoy so much more time with DD and then just pump after she goes to bed. 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? Nothing crazy, I love just getting takeout, wine, and watching a movie together. I will say that was pre pandemic though, since that’s basically all we’ve done for the last 1+ year 😆 

daisy0322

@b_1029 I don’t know if this helps but I never had a period between DS1 and DS 2 my first month I ovulated my ovulation pain was awful! I didn’t know what it was and called a nurses line they said that for the first 3 to 6 cycles all sorts wonky things can happen but if you time sex right then it shouldn’t effect things too much. Kellymom.com is a great resource if your not familiar with it. 

b_1029

@daisy0322 interesting! I got my period back 4 months PP so I’ve had about 6 now. This is my first with pain. Other than the cycle I ended up getting pregnant, I remember having significant O pain. I was so annoyed because I thought we totally missed O with the IUI 🤷🏼‍♀️ 

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

I'll circle back around to join conversations but always love reading y'alls posts and chats. 

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2/2

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, PNV, timing HIO

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5y

Any thoughts about this cycle? I have ~34 day cycles, totally normal, but I hate the extra week and I'm feeling it this week, I guess, for this cycle. I am trying to balance busy and relaxed. 

Any questions?

Rant/Rave? Eh. I'm not feeling particularly rant-y or rave-y this week on the whole. I'm focusing on getting through each day as it comes. 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? Dinner at our favorite restaurant. 

anniemarie887

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 6/6

WAYDTGKU: we'll call it ntnp

WTO/TWW? TWW

Ages of other child(ren)? 16mos

eta: bc i don't know how to type and this was confusing...

Any thoughts about this cycle? weirdly nauseous over the weekend, flo pushed my o date back a little so timing wise i think we actually could've hit both "old" o date and "new" o date flo is giving me

Any questions? nada

Rant/Rave? fianlly started watching mare of easttown, ooooh so good! 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? ha, at this point - dinner at an adult time (like 7/8pm) and like all of the apps, and dessert. yum

@daisy0322 little kid soccer is so cute!
@readyforab i hope your cycle sorts out! i would send them off and enjoy alone time
@b_1029 pumping is the worst, the light at the end of the tunnel is such a good feeling!
@beakay8 hey, not feeling ranty is always a positive!

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<div>What number are you trying for? 3</div><div>
</div><div>Month/Cycle? Final Treatment Cycle</div><div>
</div><div>WAYDTGKU:  Natural FET</div><div>
</div><div>WTO/TWW?  WTO</div><div>
</div><div>Ages of other child(ren)? 2.5y, 8.5m</div><div>
</div><div>Any thoughts about this cycle?
**TW** General loss mentioned

There is a part of me that feels like this just HAS to work.  I have never had a transfer work the first time out, so maybe we just had to get this one out of the way first?  Sigh.  We always wanted a big family, but we got a late start, so we knew we weren't going to be able to have like, ten kids.  Never in a million years did I see IF coming.  I figured we could at least have 4 or 5?  So now seeing those chances dwindle away, and knowing that a 3rd is not guaranteed... it's a struggle.  Plus we have friends getting pregnant left and right (two closer friends are each expecting their third, one just had their 4th, another couple acquaintances are pregnant with THEIR thirds, so it's like... ugh.)  Meanwhile, I do have another friend who is struggling to have their 2nd (although they don't know anything about the fact that we did IVF) and another friend in the mom group with only one child who had a loss, another couple our age who only have two and then had a loss, so I know there are people who would get it.  It just makes it tough though if we are not actually going to share the depth of our IF journey.  So it feels a little bit isolating in special kind of way.</div><div>
</div><div>Any questions?  NATM</div><div>
</div><div>Rant/Rave?  Ugh, DH has been so crabby and stressed lately.  I hope that eases up for him soon.  It's like just when I need him to be strong and supportive and encouraging for me, he's lost in his own little world of work stress, that spills out into our home life and it just kind of sucks.  I need to be praying more, but I also need to be sleeping more, and sleep usually wins lol  Rave?  It's Tuesday?  Which means the work week is like almost 40% over?  Not that Saturday is going to be such a thrill either. <<smh>>  I'm sorry, this is why I feel like I shouldn't even bother posting - I'm such a peach to be around these days!!!   :D </div><div>
</div><div>GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans?  Hmmm... Since we are going to live in fantasy lad for a minute where date nights are a thing... I would say going into the City for dinner and a show.  In no particular order.</div>

daisy0322

@BusinessWife first of all I’m so sorry about your pain of IF. We wanted a big family too and kind of rushed to marry young to start a family because we wanted at least 4. I know Gods plan was clearly different for us considering I started menopause at 25 but I do really wish for one more and if were being honest a girl. I really want a mother daughter relationship. It totally hurts to seeing so many friends be on number 3, 4, 5, 6 etc. I’ve started a novena with St. Philomena 
https://ccli.org/2018/08/a-novena-for-pregnancy/ I’ve found it comforting. Maybe you and hubs could do it together even. I’m so sorry he’s stressed out too. I’m sure this is hard on both of you. I’m praying for you and I believe in miracles my second baby is a living one! Please keep sharing with us I know I care and I want to listen, promise ❤️ Making sure you do at least a little something to take care of you each day. 

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Thank you @daisy0322  That is so sweet. :)  I will print that out once I get home.

<div class=" Spoiler">Interestingly enough, I do have a prayer attributed to St. Philomena on my fridge, along with one from St. John Vianney, and a dedication prayer from St. Colette, that I read whenever I catch myself over there by the dishwasher for a moment.  I was actually praying a novena to St Colette when we finally got pregnant after our third FET (plus one cancelled) back in 2019.  Wonders never cease!</div>

b_1029

@BusinessWife I’m sorry. I never saw IF coming and it hit me like a ton of bricks. It never even occurred to me there could be an issue and I’d have the exact number of kids I wanted by the time I was X (as per my high school daydreams when I thought I’d meet a guy in college, we’d get married after we graduated, wait a perfectly planned 2 years and then have our first kid). It’s so hard to watch everyone else get pregnant and have babies no problem, especially when they’re close friends and you’re happy for them but so sad for you. Hope the storm passes / lessens for both you and YH soon. 

kgg2241

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 4/3

WAYDTGKU: Letrozole/Mira

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 19 months

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm feeling ridiculously hopeful and I know it is gonna come back to bite me in the butt. 

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave? Not really. DD is at the cutest stage right now and I just love it. I'm looking forward to a fun summer with her now that she is a little older. 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? I've mentioned this before, but we like to go to Chilis to get margarites. We also like going downtown and trying a new restaurant. That is a lot more effort though haha. 

kgg2241

@BusinessWife I am so sorry you are feeling so down. I am sending you a big hug. It is so hard to see other people live out your dreams, especially when there is no rhyme or reason why others have it so easy. I always knew I'd have a hard time getting pregnant (though that didn't make the wait that much easier), but loss hit me like a truck. I was very naive to the fact that it doesn't just work out once the test turns pink. This whole process is just so hard. I'll be thinking of you and am just so hopeful this time works out for you. 

@anniemarie887 How are you feeling as far as being tired? I'm sorry you were nauseous too. That is the worst feeling. 

@b_1029 It is so nice to drop those pump sessions! And congrats (good job? I'm not sure of the right word) for making it this long -- it isn't easy at all. 

@Daisy22 I love your date night. That sounds so fun. 

anniemarie887

@kgg2241 wellll I stayed up until almost 1 bingeing Mare of Easttown, so today isn’t fair to judge. 

abjm0325

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2/2

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, vitamins

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 3 (will be 4 this summer)

Any thoughts about this cycle? As I mentioned in WTO, I think we might have missed the window. Trying not to stress about it since I know that doesn’t help.

Any questions? Nope

Rant/Rave? My husband’s aunt died last winter and they are currently planning the memorial for next month. I wish I could go and take DD since I know people would love to see her, but it is a really long drive and I just don’t think it would be a good idea (DH will still go). Pretty bummed to have to miss though.

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? DH and I love to go out for a fancy dinner (or not fancy, but some place new). Haven’t done that since the pandemic though, so our current go to is a movie on the couch, which is nice too just a different pace.

abjm0325

@daisy0322 Soccer sounds so great! We’ve been thinking about starting DD in it this fall.

@ReadyForaB I’m sorry your cycle is so confusing! I hope you have a clear O soon. And I don’t blame you for being disappointed about missing out on the beach days!

@b_1029 So glad you’re down to one pump a day! Getting your body “back” is a glorious feeling.

@beakay8 Extra long cycles stink. I hope you can find a good balance this week.

@anniemarie887 Apps and dessert are the best part!

@BusinessWife  I’m sorry this has been such a tough week! You don’t need to be cheery or peppy here; we’re here for real and that includes the sucky parts.

@kgg2241 Yay for hope!

rachelredhead

What number are you trying for? 2

Month/Cycle? 2/2 

WAYDTGKU: PNV, Mira, HIO

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 10 months today!

Any thoughts about this cycle? I’m not sure about O. My cycle last month was, maybe, my 3rd PP and it was longer than I’m used to. So far the Mira predicts O tomorrow and if that’s true our timing has been good. 

Any questions? Not really, still just getting the hang of my cycle and fitting in sex during nap times (that’s one benefit of WFH).

Rant/Rave? I’m in a funk at work. DH is a SAHD and I feel really lucky that we’re able to manage that but this week I’m jealous. 

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans?  We love trying new restaurants so in a non-Covid world that’s my answer. These days we play a lot of Skip Bo after dinner because we are elderly. 🤷‍♀️😂

And speaking of funk at work, I really need to DO something today and stop being a waste of space. So I’ll be back later for tags. 

anniemarie887

@BusinessWife stress can feel so contagious. i'm sorry!

shinyobjects

@BusinessWife fwiw I’m really glad you’re posting. I’m sorry you’re going through all of this, but I hope it’s helping to share some of these feelings. It’s such a tough process, and can feel so isolating and lonely. It’s good to let it out and we’re here for you!

babyodo

Not sure I said this before, but nice to see you back here @rachelredhead.

What number are you trying for?: 2

Month/Cycle? 2/2

WAYDTGKU: Tracking cycle/BBT/CM/CP, taking PNVs, using OPKs, doin' the humpty-hump

WTO/TWW? WTO

Ages of other child(ren)? 7mo on Thursday

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm happy to start anew and really tackle this TTC thing again. I'll be surprised if I get KU so soon, but am remaining optimistic. Given our ages, I know time is of the essence.

Any questions? Nah

Rant/Rave? Rant - I spent all day thinking today was Thursday. I hate when that happens.
Rave - I am so looking forward to the Memorial Day weekend I have booked for us at an AirBnb in West Virginia. It's our 5th wedding anniversary celebration, and neither of us have been to WV before. It'll be our first trip as a family, and I'm really excited.

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans?: So, call me bougie, but there's this really quaint farm-to-table restaurant that has maybe 10 tables and really amazing food. We went there for Valentine's Day last year about a week after I found out I was pregnant with our daughter and it was amazing. I've been there before, but that was the last time we went. It's expensive, but worth it. I like that it's so intimate, and then we can go for a nice walk afterward past all the cute little boutique shops and listen to the music playing outside. I'm pretty easy to please: feed me, give me music and outside air, and I'm golden.

b_1029

@babyodo the humpty-hump made me lol 😆

when MH went to get our daughter out of the crib this morning, he said she was just chilling there sitting in the middle of her crib. She has never done that before and she has also started army shimming (won’t say it’s a crawl yet haha) in the past couple days. I feel like her growth is just exploding and it blows my mind. Also we really need to cover our outlets now that she can sort of get around haha

kgg2241

@b_1029 aw cute! I swear it just gets better and better too. I love listening to my dd in the mornings now. I leave a few stuffed animals in her crib and I can hear her talking to them. My heart bursts ❤️. 

Get the outlet covers that have a pull down tab! So much easier than the old school ones. 

anniemarie887

@b_1029 fwiw we never covered outlets... she fiddled with them for a week or two and then moved on

jlbaker08

I'll be back to tag later, it's been a busy few days...  I feel like I've posted and ghosted a bunch

What number are you trying for? 3

Month/Cycle? 1/1

WAYDTGKU: OPKs, PNV, will start keeping up with temping next cycle

WTO/TWW? TWW but more likely WFAF

Ages of other child(ren)? 5, 10 

Any thoughts about this cycle? I'm writing it off...  12dpo with a typical LP of 12/13 days and a temp drop this morning

Any questions? None

Rant/Rave? Suspected appendicitis in my 10 year old this morning... left the pediatrician with a diagnosed of mittelschmerz, haha!  Becoming a woman is so glamorous

GTKY: What’s your favorite date night plans? We like to go to out fancy dinners that the kids wouldn't appreciate or with friends for adult conversation and not having to cut up other people's food