@ashsowers2020 I live in Virginia! Not NoVa but close enough for a D.C. day trip, I’m dying to get up there again now that I’m vaccinated. I miss museums and shows and interesting restaurants so much!
As I was laying in bed last night, trying to sleep, I realized that I don't actually really like feeling baby kicks. I love the early flutters and I do appreciate the reassurance. That being said, when they get bigger and stronger and are kicking my bladder, cervix and ribs when I am trying to sleep or when they get the hiccups and I have no control over making them stop, I find the movement to be slightly irritating and uncomfortable. I am clearly a monster.
Just wanted to say reading this has been really helpful for putting in perspective how much things change as your kid goes through different ages, and it's comforting to know that even if it starts out rough I'll probably like the next phase better! Just good to keep in mind that everything is temporary, you know?
Re: UO Thursday 5/6
A bit more of a rant than a UO... sorry 😞
So that’s my long rant about why I agree with your UO lol
My UO...have I shared this one before? Because it's a big one. With all of the Hamilton talk on the other thread, I have to share this one. I don't like Lin Manuel Miranda's voice. It's like nails on a chalkboard for me when he tries to sing. I have to skip "Hurricane" every time. I'm like, "STOP trying to sing! You suck at it!" I don't mind it when he raps, but the singing...
This time around it will be a little different because I won't be able to take a true maternity leave. I'll have less responsibilities but as a business owner I can't just disconnect. I'm already anxious about it, but it is what it is. I'm lucky my business is doing well and my partners are supportive and can handle the lion share of the work while I am out.
I will most likely eventually watch it, which is what happened with Black Panther. (I liked it but again don’t necessarily understand all the hype.)
Ok here’s my UO ... I have no desire to breast feed. Most of my friends had such a difficult time with it, including one who said she paid $400 for a lactation consultant and it still didn’t work! It just seems like an added, unnecessary stress during an already stressful time. Plus I only have 3 months maternity leave and again - zero desire to be sitting in my office pumping and worrying about milk storage at the 4 month mark 😑 I don’t want the responsibility of being the only source of food; I like the idea that my husband (or anyone really) can help bottle feed baby. My mother of course is like 😱 “you’re not even going to try!?” 😖
My Hamilton-related UO is I'm kind of over it. I loved it when it first came out/got big, went to see it in D.C. etc.... but I listened to it again for the first time in a long time last winter and was kind of like "eh." Haven't felt the urge to watch the Broadway recording or whatever came out over quarantine.
@kam174 - I'm going to try breastfeeding but I refuse to put crazy amounts of pressure on myself to keep doing it if it's too hard/stressful. If it works out great, if not we'll switch to formula and I'm not gonna worry about it. Mostly, I want to try breastfeeding because formula is expensive. I totally get not even trying though, I think way too much pressure is put on women to breastfeed. You gotta do what works for you!
@surrenderdorothy - 100% agree about white elephant exchanges. I don't want more crap! I don't even want half the crap we get as just regular gifts during the holidays. I genuinely would not care if people got me nothing.
I've had anterior placenta both times so I dunno if I feel things differently. But when I feel the movement I get nauseated like I'm in a Rollercoaster. Weird.
As crazy and intense as breastfeeding was I loved the experience ultimately. But you shouldn't if you don't want to! Thankfully we have so many different ways to feed the baby these days.
A related UO is that I do NOT like the newborn stage. I actually struggle with the first 18 months, to be honest. I am an excellent toddler mom, but the baby stage is hard for me. A lot of sitting, nursing, and feeling generally unproductive. Which is the WORST thing for me. I can't sit still. People always think I'm crazy when I say that. I had a LOT of guilt with my first baby, but I have learned that all women have different experiences with motherhood, and I am NOT the baby-obsessed type. Once we pass the baby stage is when I thrive!
@kam174, you do you! I agree with @moerae. Breastfeeding was just SO convenient at the beginning. Not having to make bottles in the middle of the night, or even get out of bed is a game changer. And baby doesn't have the chance to get all worked up waiting for a bottle. At the first whimpers, I would just latch the baby on before he/she even had a chance to fully wake up. It makes the re-settling down much faster. But, if you already know you're not wanting to tackle the beast that is breastfeeding, then I don't let people guilt you into it! You know yourself best. Your baby will be happy and healthy no matter how their food is dispensed!
@the_most_happy, I would LOVE to see someone else in the role of Hamilton!
@hannelorre, I also love LMM...just not his voice! Hahaha...it feels almost blasphemous to say, but I stand by my UO.
@dancingnarwhal, I LOVE to work out to Hamilton! It gets me so hyped!
I also haven't seen Hamilton, and don't plan to.
My UO is I've been using a landline for work and it's awesome? Yes I know I'm a grandma and I just don't care. Obviously I have a cell as well, but the ll is awesome to have in the event power/wifi etc goes down and there is an emergency. Just nice peace of mind for me.
Also hate the newborn phase over here, at least with DD1, I think because birth was so traumatic and I needed a lot of time to recover. If I'm feeling better this time I might enjoy it more, but last time was rough. I pretty much like each successive age/stage better and better so far. Having a 5 y/o is pretty great, she understands everything, is super fun, and can be actually helpful. Nervous to start over, actually!
As for my daughter, she was a much easier baby and because I was fully employed again when she was born, I appreciated the bonding time that maternity leave gave me much more. I also had created a great support network by the time she was born. Then, she turned into a demon toddler, and we are only now at 3.5 coming out of 2+ years if epic tantrums.
We'll see what happens with baby #3.
My kids were tough babies, mainly because they sucked at sleeping. Especially baby #2. He didn't STTN until 14 months old (and still wakes up a lot at 3.5). BUT, they were both awesome toddlers. Which is probably why I loved that stage so much. DD (5) is officially into the sassy/challenge everything I say stage, and that has its challenges, but she is still a really pleasant kid for the most part. And DS is a literal angel on earth. I would freeze him at this age if I could.
Anyways, this thread would have been SO helpful for me as a FTM. It's so reassuring to know that there is a whole gamut of emotions/reactions/experiences to becoming a mom. And it's all okay!