Monday B*tchfest 4.19

keikilove

Let it OUT!

anniemarie887

working in a client facing environment sometimes makes me miserable. covid has really brought out the worst in some people and their treatment to others. and i'm not the only one who sees this - both of my employees told me about encounters this weekend with shoppers being rude to retail workers. it's just bananas to me. at least once a week i mutter "i hate society!!!!!" today it was by 9.30 am on monday! yikes!

chgilmore

Idk why I do this to myself. I went to the market this weekend for groceries (always busier on the weekends than during the week but that's the only time I have to shop now) and so. many. people. didn't distance or have masks on! we still have an indoor and outdoor mask mandate in this state, COVID is in a 4th wave, this is not over folks!!!!! so mad.

inthewoods23

@anniemarie887 I seriously can't fathom how people can act that way in public. Do these people feel good about themselves shouting at cashiers etc??

@chgilmore the best time to go to the grocery store (on the weekends) is definitely at the end of the day! I'm sure it's hard to be distanced when there's so many people and narrow aisles. I haven't been bothered by people being kinda close when I end up shopping around dinnertime on weekdays, but I've also been lucky not to have someone sneeze or cough in my vicinity that I have to be worried about my health.


My complaint today is that our ferns STILL HAVE NOT SHIPPED. DH said it would ship in 10-14 business days and today is day 14 so I think if it's towards the end of the day and he still doesn't have confirmation that they've shipped he's going to give them a call. I want to get our woods filled in ASAP!

anniemarie887

@inthewoods23 i truly don't understand how their brains must work. my employee said she was waiting in line with other people, and the woman behind her just starts screaming to the young girl (who appeared south asian, we have a decently sized indian/pakistani community here) that she needed to stop stocking shelves and go ring people up and something to the effect of why would she come to this country if she didn't want to work hard. my employee said she whipped around and was like lady, you better stop, you're being rude, we all have to wait and how do you know she wasn't born here. she said the woman then just kept screaming at like everyone. 
@chgilmore MH does 99% of the grocery shopping, his preferred time is midweek during the evening. zip in, zip out. if it's left up to me.... it's getting delivered. 
@inthewoods23 that's frustrating! is there a window to get them planted? or can it be anytime in the spring?

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

I love this specific TTGP forum because of all the rules and guidelines, and while I do hang out on others ones as well because I really like community, wow, so many things that are banned from this forum make me want to pull my hair out on the other ones. I am so happy I found The Bump community. 

inthewoods23

@anniemarie887 UGH yikes. As far as planting... I think the window is just in springtime? I thought there was something that they don't ship plants out after a certain date until sometime in the fall when it's the next best time to plant new stuff.

@beakay8 I don't understand at all how anyone can form relationships/connections with people on other TTC related forums. It's almost all pee sticks! The last thing I want to see is someone else's BFP. But I'm always dumb and just HAVE to see how stark white their tests are because I never see a damn thing in their photos. Color inverted or not.

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@inthewoods23 AMEN. I mostly stay for posters that seem to have genuine questions and not a full awareness of what's real or not from Google. I can appreciate that. Sometimes you just want to hear the same answers as Google from another person trying to do what you're doing, or that you aren't silly for calling your doc. Medicine is great but it also gaslights women and non-binary people on the daily. But most of it is pee sticks and truly wild scenarios for why the BFNs are wrong. 👀 

anniemarie887

I would like to add it never ceases to amaze me the idiots who can’t read the rules. 

bows22

@anniemarie887 are you in any FB groups where people are like “delete if not allowed” at the top of their post? (Although half the time it says “delete if not aloud”) it irritates me to no end. Take the time to read the fing rules yourself. 

anniemarie887

@bows22 ugh yessssssss

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@bows22 @anniemarie887 Bonus points when the "delete if not allowed" posts come on fully moderated threads so they wouldn't be posted if they weren't allowed!! 

boymama2018

@beakay8 I also get so miffed with the "is this a positive?" posts that contain a clear as day positive.  or the "is this a good progression" thread with a dye stealer. omgggggg.

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@boymama2018 omg when the title is "vvfl or possible evap?" and it's clear as day positive. that person is trolling and it's rude.

inthewoods23

@beakay8 how common are evaps anyway? In all my years of TTC, never have I seen an evap, even after pulling my tests out of the trash hours later. It's always been the whitest white outside my legit BFPs.

anniemarie887

i mean equally as bad are the ding dongs with stark white tests going "do you see a faint line?!" GIRL GO CALL YOUR DR! the internet can not tell you if you are pregnant. 

inthewoods23

@anniemarie887 or the "I'm having XYZ symptoms like I always have with my previous pregnancies but my tests are all negative!! what's going on?!?"

pajamstagrams

I make it my personal mission to vote "no, you're not preggo" on every poll I see where someone asks if their stark white test has a vvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvvfl. If you have to use that many "v"s, it's negative. If you have to ask the internet, it's probably negative too. 

I've also seen a lot of hating on the FRERs because of "evaps"  or "indents". Girl, you weren't pregnant, you were just seeing things. The line was never there. 

This is why I (usually) wait until 14 DPO to test. It's either clearly negative or positive at that point. No trolling required! 😂

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

Y'all this entire thread is bringing me so much joy. 

@anniemarie887 that gif is pure gold for what's happening and I will never not see it now when I see vvvvvvvvvfl line eyes threads lolol 

What makes me bonkers is that every forum has a board for this! Think you have a faint line? Go post in the board that is literally made for that question. That's fine! You don't need to spam every single board. Put it in the place where it goes and keep it off main! 

pajamstagrams

@beakay8 that gif is me every time I read a comment on those threads saying "yaaaas girl congrats!" or "I see it!!" or "def a line!"

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@pajamstagrams Meanwhile me: "Y'all be lyin' to this person." 

inthewoods23

@pajamstagrams I wear contacts, but even I know my eyes aren't THAT BAD that I can't see what those people see haha. Also your "if you have to use that many "v"s, it's negative" kills me   

*tw for story of my BFPs/HPTs after MC*

I've probably said this a million times here but oh well.

I really wish I had recorded/photographed all of my HPTs back when my HCG was being tracked down to 0. Two weeks after my MC I had a follow up with my OB. My HCG 4 days prior to the appointment was somewhere around 4-6 (can't remember) and still giving me positive FRERs. I took one last FRER in the morning before I had the appointment and a line was STILL there. It was there while the dye was  still crossing the window, very clearly there but faint, no squinting required, and definitely wasn't an evap as it was pink. My OB put in a request to have my HCG checked again since I was worried my HCG was stalling and it came back at 3. Yes 3. So all the "I think I see the start of something" is just not a thing. I had a positive HPT that would be clinically considered not a pregnancy and I really wish I had the photo to prove it. I'd love to use it against the Peggies. Not that I could of course, that would be against the rules

stormageddon-darklordofall

@inthewoods23 Man... I should go back and see if I still have any of my photos!  I don't have one from HCG of 3... but some of my HCG levels were in the TEENS when I got blood drawn later that day / next morning.  And they were clearly there too, although faint!

pajamstagrams

Probably belongs in randoms, but it's about pee sticks so I'd like to continue this discussion...

Just saw an ad for a flushable PG test. 🤔 (It's "Lia" for those who want to Google) I'm all about reducing plastic in landfills (so kudos to them there).. but...
1) gonna clog up your toliet/septic, I don't care what they say. If flushable wipes aren't flushable, how are these?
2) the line eyes for these are going to be horrible. I think it's super hard to tell if it's positive based on the limited pictures I see.
3) now you're holding on to a potentially soggy pee stick? It looks like a pad, those aren't super stiff, I would think it's hard to hold. 

Someone prove me wrong and tell me this is a great idea. 😂 Or even better...that they have used it. 

rachelredhead

@pajamstagrams but if I flush it how do I dig it out of the trash later to be “sure” it was negative? 

pajamstagrams

@rachelredhead ☠️☠️ 

anniemarie887

And @rachelredhead wins for best comment. 

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

Because I was complaining about it on Monday... one of the other TTGP boards I stalk because I have no self control and sometimes individual threads are fine/good... got slapped with a big "Reminder of Community Guidelines" at the top this morning, and now I am *of course* clicking through every post to see which one(s) brought that down. In general, the place is kind of a mess, so I'm very intrigued. 

Edit to remove swear word because I swear a lot and sometimes it slips into posts where I avoid it. Sorry!

stormageddon-darklordofall

@beakay8 I'm sorry, but Biotchfest Thursday (a continuation of Biotchfest Monday) has been moved to the Peggy thread.  Thank you for your understanding and cooperation. 

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@stormageddon-darklordofall Roger that! Sorry! 

stormageddon-darklordofall

@beakay8

knottie7bc8467b6ac68efe

@stormageddon-darklordofall OK! The GIF made me think joke but the message was maybe just trying to be kind while telling me I broke the rules, and I wanted to err on the side of "I messed up." That said, the Biden gif really brought back humor thank you. 

acleverusername

@beakay8 pro-tip: you can get slightly creative on here and get away with a swear word. It's füçking great! 

Also, I frequent a couple of other forums but they're likely not the ones that have been mentioned above / generally are well-moderated. E.g. R e d d i t 's IF forum has more rules than this one. I'm always scared to post in that one because I've been told I've broken the roles more than once.