This is not really a GTKY but I saw this in a group I’m in (and I’ll bet there are lurkers here who are in the group too so Hi!) and was shocked about the replies. Curious if there will be a divide here too!
When you send an email and put a “read receipt” on it - how do you pronounce that in your head?
Re: GTKY Friday 4/9
But I also never use that feature because I absolutely hate when people use it on me. Just because I read the email does not mean I have time to immediately reply or address the issue. I print out every email I need to do something on and it sometimes takes me awhile to actually get to it. But I need to read the email to see if it is something that immediately needs to be done. It is a struggle. haha!
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i send them randomly, there has to be a cause to send it, not on every email. for ex: if there is a process update i need to communicate to my team, i will often send it that way to make sure they were made aware and they do not need to (god forbid) reply all they got the email.
i have a lot of strong opinions about email (maybe this will be UO?!), it's not a form of instant communication and people should not expect a response immediately. i will have someone email me at 4:45pm, and then at 9:30am the next day being like "i didn't see a response from you" and it makes me want to passive aggressively put them at the bottom of my to do list. if you need an immediate answer pick up the phone. that being said 3 business days and i haven't gotten a reply, i am wondering what is going on.
edit b/c spelling and grammar are hard, promise i check them in emails just not on here or in text messages lol and @bows22 caught that i am clearly an idiot this morning.
I don’t think you meant to tag me! we are on opposing sides
And totally agree about instant replies. You want instant, IM me or pick up the phone. But I will say that supporting a team 6 hrs ahead of me has it's advantages...I can write up an email at 4 pm and have an answer by the time I wake up!
Maybe UO but I actually hate phone calls. I get anxiety trying to phrase my thoughts coherently and God forbid having to leave a voicemail 🥴 plus, I've kinda been burned not having something in writing, so I generally prefer email/IM...Unless I need to talk about sensitive things that I don't want in writing 😬
You know what I hate? A follow up phone call within a half hour of receiving your email. Chill tf out.
@fifilala516 @pajamstagrams I also hate phone calls, which is particularly difficult because being a pandemic therapist means that I have to make calls for sessions or check ins, so the calls are at least 30-60 minutes each. I get so nervous when it's quiet and I can't see their faces to know what they're thinking.
So after sending it twice and getting no response... SHE TEXTED ME THE EMAIL IN ITS ENTIRETY!!!! Complete with a preface that she saw I hadn't replied to her email that she sent twice already! 🤦🤦🤦 Take a hint then maybe???? Bloody heck.
Anywho, it's "reed," as in, "Did they read it?"
ETA I can see how both could be correct, but to my ear, the two contrasting vowels is just harder than it needs to be. EE - EE is easier in my head than EH - EE.
I definitely had a coworker at my last job that would send an email, then minutes later walk over to her boss's office to ask if he saw her email. Basically an IRL read receipt lol
So I've been thinking about this... I've probably said it both ways but more often as "reed" receipt. As in "I need to know that people are reading my emails". I think it really depends on the context for whether you say it in the present or past tense.
Logic - when talking about them in general or as a topic, that's a "reed" receipt. The notification or whatever that you get back itself is a "red" receipt because it's telling you that the email was "red" by the recipient.
Therefore, both are correct.
I polled DH and he said "reed" and agreed with my logic above for it being a "reed" and "red" receipt.
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@fifilala516 so i like calls - if an email goes back and forth like 4x and we're still not squared away i'm picking up the phone. that being said, emails easily deserve a 24 hr turn around. so i agree, chill.
@BusinessWife YIKES personal is next level, read recpts for business only. also as someone who suffers in a constant state of email purgatory please don't send back "Great, thanks!" i got it.
@inthewoods23 please tell me your boss told that human to stop.
Because I really didn't see it like that. Now it feels very uncomfortable, but a super high up just emailed me back, and I had to super duper fight the urge to THANK HER!!!! 😫😫😫 I really wanted to, but deep down inside I knew it was better to just let it lie. Why do I have no chill?
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Also, this is how I have the final word:
But also, 95% of my communication is over IM (Slack). Anyone else?
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Oh man now I’m wondering if some clients would reply faster if I could use Teams. I did try with one client and they could message me but I couldn’t reply. Maybe it’s a setting we have internally that could be changed.