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May/June 2021 FET Do I have any buddies?

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  • JWatt5JWatt5 member
    @BusinessWife - FET fully medicated, so just estrogen & progesterone. I actually caved and tested today 😊 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
    [Deleted User]
  • ....and....??? Guessing by the smiley face!!! @JWatt5
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  • edited May 2021
    Yay!!!! @JWatt5  Very good signs!!!!

    <div class="Spoiler">I know that it can still be just cautious optimism, but I agree that you are off to an amazing start!  CONGRATULATIONS!!!  Will you plan to intro over on Feb 22 soonish...?  or wait for betas?  OMG you have to wait 4FR for betas, too....  :s
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  • JWatt5JWatt5 member
    @BusinessWife - for sure wait for betas! I just wish it was sooner!
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
    [Deleted User]chuchugak
  • My first was supposed to be Wednesday... @JWatt5 I called and the nurse moved them up to Tuesday / Thursday for me... Might be worth a shot!?
  • @JWatt5 ahhh cautious congrats!!! ❤️🤞
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  • @blackhottamales YES!! So happy to hear!! 
    @JWatt5 Yay!  Hope they keep progressing! So happy for you ! 
    @BusinessWife Over here rooting for you too love!! 

    I'm so excited that this thread is getting so much happy energy! 
    [Deleted User]blackhottamales
  • Same here @danij823! Loving everything about the past few posts ❤️❤️❤️
    [Deleted User]danij823
  • Thank you, everyone!! 

    @JWatt5 no other Betas, I will have an ultrasound next week to see what's in there.  I suppose they run blood test too then so i guess that counts.  But it'll be nice because MH can come with me to the ultrasound so if it's not good news I'll have support.

    @JWatt5
    AND congrats! You're pregnant today! Can't wait to hear about your beta updates.  I definitely know guarding your heart but hopefully, you can enjoy the moments day by day.  

    @BusinessWife
    YAY!! 
    JWatt5[Deleted User]tinjp78
  • JWatt5JWatt5 member
    Ahhh congrats @BusinessWife


    @[email protected] that's good he can go!! Scans are the best predictor at this point. Sucks to wait but - you’ll be able to know what’s going on! Hoping everything is perfectly fine!! 
    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
    [Deleted User]blackhottamales
  • @BusinessWife YAYYYYYYYY!!!!  So happy to hear it darlin! 
    [Deleted User]
  • @danij823 sending you tons of good juju! Your day will be here in no time ❤️

    I start estradiol and gani (my nickname for it lol) this week until full flow comes. RE is thinking I’ll start stimming by end of next week. 🙏 
    [Deleted User]danij823blackhottamalestinjp78
  • chuchugakchuchugak member
    edited June 2021
    Super lurking retuned member here piping up to say I'm super excited for all the positive news coming out for ladies here!  TTC is one huge waiting game, with IF and assisted reproduction, it's waiting on steroids!  FX for continued good news coming everyone's way.  <3o:)

    AFM - After pretty aggressive/high dose stimming showing about 5 intermediate 15+mm follicles, 2 smaller 12mm follicles. Not a ton, but I expected so with DOR, and my typical low baseline FC. Going in today for another measurement and potential trigger shot.  Also, not sure about you all but my lower belly is so irritated from shots that the  waiting after ER will actually be a nice reprieve from needles!
     
    [Deleted User]blackhottamalestinjp78
  • Thanks so much! ❤️ @chuchugak GL with your ER!!!  Omg did they trigger you last night???  That is so exciting.  Fx for some real healthy, mature Lil eggies!
  • I have been feeling super anxious and on edge lately with all the unknown.  I should have heard from the FET nurses by now so this morning I emailed my IVF nurse and just asked when she thought I'd hear from the FET nurse.  I got a response from another nurse, (who I've never talked to), saying they have my file but it's at the bottom of the pile of 20 other transfers because it's lower priority and they "triage" their transfers.   I have been so sweet and patient with them but after hearing that, I was like, "Um, excuse me?"  
    It was obvious that she didn't  like my impatience and kept interrupting me and repeating herself. She made me feel like an idiot. Like I should have just kept waiting and not asked questions.  She ended the call by telling me that she "informed the Lead FET nurse of the situation".  So I guess now I'm a situation to deal with.  I'm feeling diminished and sad and a little embarrassed even.  AND I have no effing idea when I'll get a schedule or transfer.  My guess is last in line since I've now pissed off the nurses apparently. 
  • Oh my gosh!  @danij823  My jaw is on the floor.  I am so curious who this clinic is now.  I have only been with one clinic the whole time, and I've been through one sperm retrieval, two egg retrievals, one polypectomy, and SEVEN TRANSFERS.  Never in a million years would I have been treated like a number like that, and it's a YUGE clinic.  I have my own nurse who is available by phone or email during business hours, and on call doctors and nurses to help if she is unavailable.  I get prompt answers and assistance with ANYTHING I need, no matter how small.  I am absolutely flabbergasted that she would basically just tell you, *Your* transfer is not that important.  Don't be embarrassed.  I would be infuriated.  Is there a Clinical Director you can reach out to in order to escalate your concerns?  Again, not to be fanning the flames, but you were NOT out of line to ask about your transfer protocol and that nurse is unlike anything I have ever heard.
    chuchugakblackhottamalestinjp78
  • skyee87skyee87 member
    edited June 2021
    Completely agree with @BusinessWife. My reaction when reading your post @danij823 was to look for a new clinic, because their approach is ridiculous and the nurse should have handled this 1000x times better. Do you have the option to change clinics? Obviously don't want to add stress to an already stressful situation and if it can be solved by discussing with the clinical director (or equivalent), that's the best way to do it, but it may help (when dealing with them) to know you have other clinics/options.   
    [Deleted User]chuchugak
  • @BusinessWife I was extremely surprised as well. I go to Conceptions Reproductive Associates in Colorado.  We had a couple different clinics in mind and a couple other consults,  but ultimately chose to go with them.  They had the best numbers and success rates in Colorado so we assumed we were in good hands.  I have honestly felt like "just a number" from the get go.  They are always in a hurry to get through appointments or phone calls. I always feel like I'm annoying them with questions.  I've seen my actual Dr. once and had two video calls that were very short. I have never met my nurse.  Just lots of U/S techs and Medical Assistants.  While we've been somewhat successful so far, I really wish we'd used another clinic.  I am pretty pissed at the moment.  I thought about calling and demanding to speak to someone else but I don't feel like it will help me.  It's funny because their motto is "We treat you like family".  Like no, you sure don't. We aren't even friends lol.  I do not see how they can not understand my anxiety when I've been in limbo since March.  I never know what's going on until right before it happens.  Maybe that's just how IVF is, maybe they are very busy, but I am not happy. 
    Gonna let myself cool off and practice some deep breathing and hopefully I'll start feeling calmer and more positive. At the moment I feel awful. 
    [Deleted User]skyee87blackhottamales
  • Agreed with others @danij823...the IVF process is entirely too costly - financially, emotionally, mentally, and on your time - to have to deal with that sort of treatment.  I agree with others - you should feel in your right to push back.  You are a no one's situation...if anything that poor patient service nurse is a liability to her practice! 

    AFM:

    @BusinessWife - I will trigger tomorrow night, ER scheduled for Saturday but sort of bad news. The little ones still haven't grown as much and two are way big.. Dr said looks like I had two waves of growth and I'm being hepped up on Cetrotide to prevent them from releasing.  So depending on how things shake our I could be looking at 2-5 eggs only being retrieved and of course, 75% likely bad, and of those we are hoping for a male.  Feels like odds are against but I had a talking to with myself today after, yes, crying to the doctor who is incredibly kind, warm, and understanding (never rushes me out and so reassuring, even if his staff is side eyeing me).  At the end of the day I'm doing the best I can and if it works that's great, but if it doesn't, we can try different things later - or not. But I am choosing to try to release anxiety and trepidation and replace with optimism and faith....
    [Deleted User]blackhottamalestinjp78
  • @chuchugak Thank you, I just needed to vent to people who get it.  When I told my husband he replied, "I'm sorry babe, I love you".  Not quite enough lol.  
    I love that you are staying positive and I am going to get there with you!  I hope you get some good eggs and they turn into beautiful healthy embryos for you.  I know the anxiety and fear leading up to egg retrieval and it's extremely rough!  You got this !  Let us know how it goes! 
    chuchugaktinjp78
  • @danij823 thank you for your kind words and FX for us both (and all the ladies trying)....I'm sorry I laughed aloud at your clinic's motto - they forgot the word dysfunctional before family.😂

    *TW* loss mentioned

    I will say Shady Grove, a sprawling series of clinics on the Washington DC area is very much a factory atmosphere. I used to think, whatever, I'll deal with this if I can get a baby out if it, but my experience in March with the pregnancy lost to Trisomy 13 made me rethink that. It sucks to be pushed in and out when you have questions or just want to say something - ANYTHING and they are literally looking at their clocks and halfway out the door. 🤬
    danij823tinjp78
  • @chuchugak I hear ya!  It's such a cold and difficult time, I could really use some patience and compassion.  You'd think they'd be used to all of the hormone crazed ladies asking questions! I'm sorry about your loss. I hope only good news is on it's way! 
    chuchugaktinjp78
  • @skyee87 My first thought after I hung up the phone was, "that's it, I'm transferring the embryos somewhere else!"  My husband shot me down, he's like babe, we're so close like weeks away.   I said but how many weeks? Will we ever know?  Haha, I'm ridiculous at this point.  
    Thanks for your response, I feel insane at this point.  I'm mad, doubtful, anxious. ugh. 
    [Deleted User]chuchugakskyee87
  • @danij823 everyone has given you great advice above.  The biggest thing is you are right to be angry, no matter the reason, that nurse needed to have some sympathy.  The company needs more communication.  It probably would be longer and more expensive to move clinics but there also isn't anything wrong with calling around explaining your situation and seeing the waitlist in other places.  Going forward (if you feel comfortable) ask all of the questions.  If they say they will have someone call you, ask what a reasonable timeframe for that time is and then hold them to it. 

    Our clinic is by no means perfect; however, they are very clear it's about 6 weeks from when you get CD1 to your transfer.  (mine ended up being 6 weeks and 3 days).  They should be able to give you a timeline.  This is just crazy.  Calling them out on the motto is good too if you decide to reach out to a director.  

    @chuchugak I'm sorry for your bad news, but as I was always told it's quality over quantity! 

    @BusinessWife (possible TW with Beta numbers mentioned))
    My number was 40 (the clinic also wants over 50) and instead of the 66% they go by 53%, I wouldn't have hit the 66% for my increase as that would have been 66.4 and I was only 63.5. I was heartbroken with my second draw but my 3rd draw was great.  I hope you get a great number today.  


    [Deleted User]chuchugaktinjp78
  • @BusinessWife FREAKING YAYYYYYYYYYYY!!  I'm so dang happy for you !!  
    [Deleted User]chuchugakskyee87tinjp78
  • JWatt5JWatt5 member
    @BusinessWife - Great News!
    @danij823 - We get a full timeline as soon as they know you're doing an FET, told to call on our booked month/when we are ready to. I'm glad you called and talked to the Manager to get that information. We have a nurse at our clinic that is known for just being cold hearted at times. She's been there the longest and must be great at her job within the clinic because with patients shes not consistent and rubs the wrong way for sure. I know people have complained over the years. It's a stressful time.
    AFM
    I'm trying to get better with the etiquette on here - back in the day (lol 2016/2017) we didn't use spoilers when talking about results and I often forget to.
    But anyhoo - My test lines have gotten consistently darker and I got a 2-3 weeks on the Clear Blue today (Monday was 1-2). So I'm really hoping everything is going alright in there. I'm 4 weeks today - Beta still isn't until Monday but I'm feeling more optimistic than afraid at the moment. Forever for beta but just means once we can get these two betas done I'm closer to the Ultrasound. I find the wait for US is way harder!

    Me: 37 DH: 37 - Married 10.2015 ❤️ Canadian 
    DX: Endometriosis - Stage 4, DOR, RPL
    TTC #1 07.2015
    03.2016 - Natural BFP - MC 5w4d
    04.2016 - Natural BFP - Chemical
    10.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = IUI Cancelled (cyst/no mature follicle)
    11.2016 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFP, EDD 08.2017 - It's a BOY!
    TTC #2 06.2019
    08.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #1 = Chemical
    09.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #2 = BFN
    10.2019 - IUI w/ Injections #3 = BFN
    01.2020 - IUI w/ Injections #4 = BFN
    08.2020 - Natural BFP - MC 9w5d
    11.2020 - IVF Retrieval - 3AB & 4BB
    05.2021 - FET #1 = BFP, EDD 02.2022 - It's a BOY!

           
    [Deleted User]blackhottamaleschuchugaktinjp78
  • @blackhottamales
    My husband is the same way re: kids. He never really wanted any but that was a deal-breaker for me. Our compromise was to enjoy our 20's as a young married couple (we got married when I was 23 and he was 22) before thinking about kids. He was fairly hesitant with IVF and got frustrated with all of the appts/meds/etc from time to time. But he wants me to be happy and he always knew kids were in the picture. That being said, he is an AMAZING dad and adores DD to pieces. The man who joked that he would never change a diaper like doing bath times, getting her up to potty in the middle of the night so she doesn't wet the bed, playing dolls and snuggling with a little girl who absolutely adores him. 
    ~~ Our Story in Spoiler! TW loss/child~~
    Fall 2012 -- started TTC
    Summer 2015 - no BFP yet, labs normal, referred to RE
    Fall 2015 - Summer 2016 - Further testing all normal. 3 IUI's -- BFN. Recommended move to IVF. Planned cycle for fall 2016.
    September 2016 - Surprise natural BFP. MMC @ 8 weeks. RE expressed confidence that we just needed the 'right' embryo.
    Fall 2016 - Spring 2017 -- Break from TTC
    June 2017 - Started IVF; egg retrieval for freeze all cycle. 9 mature eggs retrieved, 5 fertilized. 2 4BB embies on ice.
    August 2017 - FET transfer both embies. BFP.  Twin pregnancy confirmed by ultrasound. EDD 4/28/18
    September 2017 - Twin B stopped developing; Twin A doing perfectly! Graduated from RE @ 10 weeks
    March 2018 - Baby Girl born via C/S due to pre-eclampsia -- strong and healthy!

    TTC #2
    January/Feb 2021 - Freeze-all IVF cycle 
    March 2021 - FET of 1 PGS normal female embryo. BFP! Beta #1 156,  #2 472, #3 1241, #4 5268 EDD 12/5/21 - Christmas baby!


    "When all is lost then all is found."


    [Deleted User]chuchugakblackhottamalestinjp78
  • Thank you! @danij823 @JWatt5 I feel like I must be dreaming... Lol
  • So happy with all the good betas!!

    @chuchugak I’m also enjoying the needle break after stims! 

    AFM, went in for my baseline today and started estrogen. If all goes well, transfer will be June 23-24!
    skyee87blackhottamalesdanij823tinjp78
  • chuchugakchuchugak member
    edited June 2021
    @blackhottamales FX for ever growing betas! 

    @BusinessWife super congrats to you as well...I was a dirty (hopeful) lurker on the Feb boards and learned more about you there.  But I decided to stop hanging on BMBs until I had an idea what was happening here.

    @JWatt5 congrats to you as well...so much positive news and I hear you on the spoilers/etiquette

    AFM - TW

    Egg retrieval was yesterday morning. Grateful for the needle reprieve last night :)

    I shouldn't be surprised but I was at how uncomfortable the aftermath was in terms of cramping, bleeding, and discomfort. Also it is done here (overseas in Jordan) under general anesthesia which itself sucks. 

    One thing I will say, even though my doctor himself is super professional, US trained and experience with lots of foreign clients, the medical establishment is still, well, local. Not alot of concern for privacy, dignity, professionalism - and I was at a SUPER high end hospital.  I had a D&C in March in the US and the treatment is like night and day in terms of how they treat you like a human vs yesterday, it's like a lump that gets tossed and turned. Ugg. So next step is waiting for news on Day Three on how many of the eight harvested eggs were fertilized, and then genetic testing those for the X, Y, and three main Trisomies (forgot the acronym). By Day 5 I should know if we are putting one back in.  

    I had a mega aggressive regime and I'm not even sure the eight pulled were all 16mm, there was a big difference in the size of two vs the other six, and the days before ER were full of stress that two might launch before the other six could get to 16, so lots of Cetrotide and prayers.  And also assembling the trigger was so complicated we were 15 mins late with the shot, so you know I was googling late triggers!  Thankfully, though the doctor was happy about it in the and what's done is done now...I get to play the Waiting Game. :) FX. 

    (edited for typos)

    JWatt5blackhottamalesdanij823
  • nim81nim81 member
    Congratulations to everyone with positive betas!!!🎉🎉🎉
    I haven't been here in awhile. I moved from Ca to Singapore last year. My husband got a job here after retirement from military. I had some of my embryos shipped here from CA. I transferred a hatching embryo last week. This is my 9th transfer, so praying this time it will stick and hope the intralipids helped too.
    Good luck to everyone doing a cycle/fet/transfer this month!😊
    [Deleted User]blackhottamaleschuchugaktinjp78
  • Good Morning loves!  I know I started this thread, but I'm no longer a May or June transfer, I'm barely a July transfer.  Even though I was told not to worry, that my transfer would not be delayed, it's delayed.  Transfer is July 21st.  I told myself I would be happy to finally have a date but I'm pretty irritated that I keep having to just wait around.  I now have another long 7 week wait.  Good luck to all of you lovely ladies and congrats!  Much positive energy to all of you :) 
    JWatt5[Deleted User]skyee87
  • @danij823  I'm so sorry to hear this.  I was thinking of you this morning tho, and I'm glad to hear an update.  I remember before my first transfer, I don't even know how many month groups I was active on before I finally got to my "real" one.  :/  IF just comes with so much unpredictability, so many delays - it seems having things go smoothly is by far the exception, rather than the rule.  I will be thinking of you and lurking for updates, hopefully everything goes perfectly when your time finally comes!!! <3
  • @nim81 Congrats on the move and FX for a successful transfer. 

    @danij823 I'm really sorry to hear you have another seven weeks. The great waiting game that is TTC then IF and IVF...if only they gave out Target gift cards for being good at waiting!  But again, FX for success when the time comes. 

    AFM - tomorrow is day 3 and will know if/how many embryos were made and will be tested. Praying like nobody's business. Also, progesterone supplements are making me constipated/crampy/gassy/bloated (like 16 weeks pregnant!)/as well as completely wiped out. OR maybe it's part supplements and part anxiety manifesting around the potential outcomes of day 3 and 5. Either way, I know binge watching the Nine Months show on Facebook is prob not a good idea since it just magnifies my fears!
  • @BusinessWife Yes all the uncertainty is crazy.  The reason my transfer is so far back is because it's the first available date with my Doctor. She's super busy and apparently it has to be my Doctor and not another one in the practice...even though she didn't do my egg retrieval and that was fine..  *Sigh*.  Oh well, at least I have a date to look forward to and it seems really lucky: 7/21/21.  Plus my EDD would be my Husband's Bday. Just  looking for the positives! 
    [Deleted User]
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