UO Thursday 3/18

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I do not believe in cancelling my life due to all the crazy 2020 stuff.  I know people who are putting off or just not having weddings, showers, birthday parties and baptisms etc. just because they can't have a super big party.  I just think that's silly.  If it's important enough to you, you get it done!  Even if it may not look the way you envisioned, and things may not go according to plan, that is just life on Earth!  I guess I am a little over it with people saying they can't do this or that because of the thing.  It's not as if it's going away, you might as well live your life!
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bows22

@BusinessWife so if you mean like - just go get married because why delay being married because of a pandemic? and not have a party at all I agree with you. But if you mean have a big party anyway because YOLO then I can’t get there 

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Lol @bows22 No, I meant the first thing. When DH proposed, he literally said to me, if we keep waiting for the "perfect time," that may never come.  Sometimes you just have to go for it and make the best of a bad situation!  I think there is something to be said for small, personal, intimate gathering with immediate friends and family anyway.  Once it's done, you'll have all the time in the world for those Big Anniversary Bashes!

chgilmore

@BusinessWife yeah...I get it. On one hand I totally understand this and agree, because life goes on and these things can bring us some emotional relief and small amounts of normalcy. But as someone who is giving up big things in this time (no walking at my graduation, no ceremony for my credentials), I still wish those things can happen in big ways and I feel the collective grief of all the things missed. But do I want those things enough to wait for them? Also no. 

fifilala516

BusinessWife said:

I do not believe in cancelling my life due to all the crazy 2020 stuff.  I know people who are putting off or just not having weddings, showers, birthday parties and baptisms etc. just because they can't have a super big party.  I just think that's silly.  If it's important enough to you, you get it done!  Even if it may not look the way you envisioned, and things may not go according to plan, that is just life on Earth!  I guess I am a little over it with people saying they can't do this or that because of the thing.  It's not as if it's going away, you might as well live your life!

I would agree with this in the sense of getting married - go to the courthouse, or have a super small, intimate ceremony with immediate family and then have a BLOWOUT party once it's safe. You will still be married and nothing will ever take that away from you. I had to cancel my 30th birthday party last spring, and while I am not planning a party this year, I do intend to have a rager at the next birthday I can (G-d willing). 

fantasyflyte

if we keep waiting for the "perfect time," that may never come

This is a large part of why we're TTC now even in the midst of the pandemic and me being back in school/working part time, so funds are very limited. We've been married for almost 7 years, together for 11, and we've just been waiting and waiting for the perfect time. But if we were to wait more until I graduate, I'd be 35 and he'd be 38 before we even started trying, and I'm not willing to wait. Our financial situation is temporary, and it might be tough but we'll get through it fine in the end. But we can't turn back time or make ourselves younger, so we're trying.

keikilove

@BusinessWife I think I get what you’re saying, but I still have strong feelings about people saying they’re “not cancelling their lives” and “this virus isn’t going anywhere”. I agree with you about scaling things way down to tiny or private events, but that’s it. I have a few smart careful family members in another state who just got together ‘in their tiny bubble’ for one of their birthdays, and only invited one co-worker best friend & his wife. Now they all are battling COVID. I feel like we can’t be too careful or let our guard down until almost the entire population is vaccinated. We are just very lucky that the vaccines came out when they did so that we all finally see some hope on the horizon. But, with all these COVID-19 variants popping up, it seems likely that we will need to be getting more vaccines for the way the bug is mutating (similar to the flu vaccine changing every year to address whatever strain is most virulent that year). 

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Absolutely!  @fantasyflyte I couldn't agree more.  Before you know it, you turn around and realise we've let so much of our lives just pass us by without ______.   Sigh, I think we probably all have something like that in our lives we could say that about - and here you are, TTC, and taking action!  Good for you!
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Exactly.  This is what I'm saying!  I do feel for people who had stuff planned in 2020 and felt the need to postpone... Heck, I postponed our own wedding twice before the pieces finally fell into place.  But I sincerely hope that people will not let this thing keep holding them back doing from the things in life that matter most. ❤️ 



@chgilmore I'm sorry you didn't get to walk, or have your ceremony.  That really sucks. (((Hugs))) Nevertheless, CONGRATULATIONS on your accomplishments!!!  If someone hasn't said it to you yet today, you rock!  (Although I'm pretty sure your handsome hubby probably has, if I had to guess.) Hope you are enjoying your anniversary! ❤️
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<div class="QuoteAuthor"><a href="/profile/keikilove" class="js-userCard" data-userid="11545506">keikilove</a> said:</div>
<div class="QuoteText">@BusinessWife I think I get what you’re saying, but I still have strong feelings about people saying they’re “not cancelling their lives” and “this virus isn’t going anywhere”.

<b>I do too, that's why I put it in the UO! Lol</b>

I agree with you about scaling things way down to tiny or private events, but that’s it.

<b>That's... All I said.  Glad to hear we are on the same page! 😄</b></div></blockquote>

chgilmore

@BusinessWife thanks! we set sail later today once I finish all these sessions but I already keep thinking it's Friday xD