So we did our baby announcement yesterday on social media. Felt so good to get the news out there! But I'm taking extensive mental notes on what not to say when someone announces they're pregnant. I'm not easily offended... I think people just don't think before they speak and it's annoying, but that's just people being people. But some of the comments were just a special kind of horrendous... I'm 38. this will be baby #3, and was a total surprise to us (I thought I was in early menopause). My kids are 9 &14, so everyone assumed we were done. Anyway, I got so many comments yesterday saying something like "omg, what you're describing (the shock of finding out you're pregnant late in life) is my worst nightmare!" Or "omg, I would die!" Also lines of questioning like "how did you let this happen?!" Not to mention, I also got "I'm only buying stuff for this baby if it's a girl!" 🙄🙄🙄.
I responded to that last comment saying that "my little baby boy is in utero like🖕" (oops... sorrynotsorry)
Anyway, brace yourselves for the dumb comments, ladies! Hopefully you all get a slew of the classic "congratulations" instead!
@kidsyfir1586 Yep, people are rude. Especially on social media. It’s like they are in a bubble and don’t realize that the things they say actually do hurt the people receiving it. I’m pretty sure if I announced on FB I would get just a few congratulations because at this point people say, “another one. This is it right?” Maybe? I don’t know? It’s my body and I can incubate as many babies in it as I please!!! My own mother happened to be the worst. Get ready for comments like, “you know how to keep that from happening right?”
I have a friend who has a friend who hangs out with us sometimes (not often thankfully) but she is very judgmental and has negative things to say about my family size. To the point she said she wasn’t going to go eat lunch with us one afternoon because there would be too many kids to chase around. She was apparently talking about all of mine. 🙄 I told her she only had one to chase and I had way more and she popped back at me with “I didn’t make you have 5 kids.” 😳 Anyways, I’m sure the next time I see her it will be after breakup and my belly will be obvious and I can’t wait to hear what she has to say about it.
Anyways, people are rude. Don’t let them take your joy or excitement away. A baby is a blessing and should be celebrated.
@kissyfir1586 RUDE!!!!! We are announcing today on social media however my husband has told several people in his circle and was met with a lot of “we’ve been waiting for that announcement” ....... meanwhile DD literally turned two last week. I’m not sure why it seems like it’s apparently taken us too long for a second baby? LOL. People are wild. I’m not easily offended either and I especially can’t be because I have a big social platform so I’m mostly excited to get the news out today and to not have to hide myself in every post. Social media is literally my livelihood and it is going to feel amazing to get the ball rolling with maternity stuff. It’s been a longgggg few weeks of hiding this bump that is beginning to be extremely noticeable lol
@kissyfir1586 sweet holy crap, those comments! WTH is wrong with people? Your body, your family, your business! I'm sure I will get some comments too because I am 39 and this is our first child. I've witnessed some really inappropriate comments directed towards others (regarding age, weight gain, etc.), so I should definitely brace myself. Not sure I will hold my tongue on calling them out, though! The only ones who will get a pass are my students because fifth graders don't have a filter.
I just don't understand why people lose their filter when it comes to pregnancy and parenting. It's absolutely ridiculous. Luckily I haven't gotten any really bad comments so far (aside from one of DHs aunts saying to him when I was pregnant with either our first or 2nd kid "I didn't think you were man enough!" [To get me pregnant/be a dad] but she's not the sharpest crayon in the cookie box and not all the lights in the house work properly so we dismissed it), but I know I wouldn't be able to handle anything remotely bad. I've got the thinnest skin!
@emeraldcity1214 isn't it funny how some of the worst comments come from the people closest to us? I'm so sorry you've had to deal with negative comments about your family size. And yes, weve already got the "you know how that whole pregnancy thing works, right?" 🙄
@agea ha I wish I could unfriend some. The worst comments were all from family.
@runningonindie people are so weird. As if it was your obligation to make a sibling within a certain timeframe lol.
This is part of the reason I’m not super eager to tell people. Even if they haven’t said it yet I’m expecting my friends without kids will kind of be like “again?” Or “big surprise” as this is the third time I’ve been pregnant in last 5 years. And when your close friends don’t have kids, 5 years of dropping mostly off the social scene due to pregnancy, life, little kids might as well be an eternity. I feel the same way about work.... third mat leave since 2017 and virtually none of my current colleagues (save one) has needed a mat leave in the last ten years. (They’re either young, have older kids, or just aren’t in that stage).
And don’t get my started about the all boy comments I anticipate.
I won’t share on social so at least can avoid those comments.
@runningonindie I started following your IG and just saw your post before I popped in here. So cute! Must be a huge relief to LET IT OUT.
I can't believe some of the things that come out of grown adults mouths! I am delaying announcing for no reason other than I don't feel like it. I might expect the "finally!" comments, DS is almost 3. But we did struggle with IF and my announcement will include that so I doubt anyone will say anything.
@runningonindieI also follow you on IG and I loved your announcement! Indie is the cutest!
*TW LC*
Me & MH: 32 DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU) TTC #2: 12/2019 Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
@krash_ DH and I have been married for 11 years so I totally expect "finally" comments too. I almost yelled at my mom the other day because she wants to tell all her friends and "it's not fair that she has to wait so long". 😑 Pretty sure it's not all about you, Mom.
@emeraldduchess my dad still complains about how he had to wait "so long" for me to give birth. Yeah because I was the one suffering for hours on end and going through emergency surgery, but must've been real tough to have to go to bed and sleep and go on with your day *eye roll*.
On the topic of inappropriate responses, when we told DH’s grandma this weekend her response was: “well I’m not really that surprised...”. Okay, cool? She followed it up with the gem of: “I just really really hope it’s a girl.”
@runningoncookies I know all about grandma's with no filter. When I had my second son she actually said 'oh thats a shame'...she always wanted daughters and would love us to all have daughters. So ridiculous.
Re: Weekly Randoms 3/8
I responded to that last comment saying that "my little baby boy is in utero like🖕" (oops... sorrynotsorry)
Anyway, brace yourselves for the dumb comments, ladies! Hopefully you all get a slew of the classic "congratulations" instead!
unfriend.
@agea ha I wish I could unfriend some. The worst comments were all from family.
@runningonindie people are so weird. As if it was your obligation to make a sibling within a certain timeframe lol.
@runningonindie I started following your IG and just saw your post before I popped in here. So cute! Must be a huge relief to LET IT OUT.
@runningonindieI also follow you on IG and I loved your announcement! Indie is the cutest!
DS: 6/1/18 (Pre-E; IUGR; seizures; NICU)
TTC #2: 12/2019
Sept 2020: HSG possible blocked right tube
Nov 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFN
Dec 2020: Letrozole + TI - BFP!!! EDD 9/18
I almost yelled at my mom the other day because she wants to tell all her friends and "it's not fair that she has to wait so long". 😑 Pretty sure it's not all about you, Mom.