Weekly Randoms - Week of 3/7

DoubleUp8

What's happening???

kfc1983

Still house hunting stuff! Put an offer in this morning and we’ll see what happens. We want to keep both houses for the foreseeable future, so that makes me anxious about the financial aspect of this decision. On top of that, the cost of parenting is such an unknown to me at this point. My husband is still furloughed, which means I am sole breadwinner (and planning to go on maternity leave), so.... no pressure or anything 🤣

klj0228

@kfc1983 good luck!! 

Who else is watching the Meghan and Harry Oprah interview? I missed the first 30ish minutes, but I am glued to the screen now. 

legallykate

@klj0228 we are watching but recorded it and aren’t live yet.

dogmom5

@kfc1983 good luck on getting the house! 

_orchid_

@kfc1983 good luck on the bid!!

@klj0228 @legallykate I'm watching but had my own family drama today so only half paying attention. The drama is with my side of the family and despite being together 15 years dh is still blown away so we keep talking about it. 

dogmom5

I am so out of the loop with having no time for anything. What is the Meghan and Harry interview? Just how they left the royal family and everything? 

wanderlustsoul

I didn’t watch as it’s too late here but I did just read the highlights. No surprises. The monarchy is so messed up and racism is their ultimate core. Poor Meghan. I’m so glad they got it and can live their lives in LA but I’m sure it feels lonely sometimes without family for them and cousins for Archie. 

wanderlustsoul

We are 0/2 on house bids. We have 2 more this week so fingers crossed for us that 1 works out! It’s getting really defeating just bidding and losing out. We’re going to go with the best offer we possibly can and hope it works. 

klj0228

@_orchid_ sorry you’re dealing with your own family drama. 

@AKuzReve sorry you keep missing out. Fingers crossed one of the two this week will work out. 

I too am so glad they got out of the royal family. I’m glad Harry understood the weight of what his wife was dealing with and stood up for his family. I feel sad about his relationship with his dad and brother, but hope time will heal that. Love that he is still close to his grandmother. 

ellieemc26

Good luck to the house hunters!

We got our spare room painted over the weekend and are ready to start officially converting it into the nursery!  I'm super excited to get this started, kind of makes it all a little more real to start setting up the baby space.

MelissaMay82

@kfc1983 & @AKuzReve good luck on house hunting!

We started our mini bathroom remodel this past weekend. Hopefully we can start painting Saturday or Sunday.

dogmom5

@MelissaMay82 we are in the middle of a little bathroom remodel too! It’s so nice having a new toilet and sink and a relief after the many trips back and forth to Home Depot lol. We just have to finish the shower now. Good luck with yours!  

ramfam2507

We moved our computers/office stuff to our room to try and get the nursery done. We were hoping to move to a bigger house but it’s unfortunately not going to be possible at the moment. 

I don’t know if it’s because it’s baby #4, but nothing regarding nursery decor looks appealing to me. Everything I see is just blah. 

mc0303

Man, that Oprah interview was so triggering. As a POC in an interracial relationship, it was so hard listening to these things being said out loud, especially about the baby’s skin color. I actually cried. I feel so badly for those 2. 

AFM, MH has a zoom interview this morning so I had to move my acupuncture 😑 I’m pretty bummed bc my back is killing meeeee. 

laurad75

We DVR'd the interview and I'm looking forward to watching it.  I did see something on twitter that made reference to Happy protecting his wife the way someone should have protected his mother and that shook me a bit.  Has anyone ever heard the theory that Harry is not Charles's son?  H told me that this morning and I had never heard it.  

In other news, I have no snacks in the house and its tragic.  

akoros

Ugh, this morning has been so hectic. I hate hectic mornings, particularly on a Monday. Over the weekend we found out that there's a briefing and memo for the new Secretary on an issue where the lead agency asked us for input....but conveniently forgot to mention it to us until Sunday. Memo's due at 11am today. Woke up to a bunch of frantic early-morning emails so we could draft some input by 10. Is it the weekend yet?

Caught the last 30 min of the interview. I generally don't follow royal drama very much, but have watched "The Crown". While what they said was really bad, at the same time it totally jibes with the theme of the show so I'm not terribly surprised? Yes, I know the show is fictional, but the writers do a lot of research/interviews in the process. After last night I have a feeling that their efforts to "dramatize" the script are actually less shocking than what goes on in reality.

sgrn18

I haven’t watched the interview yet but I read some synopsis articles this morning.  One article I read was from buzzfeed (my least favorite news site) but it was compare and contrasting Meghan and Kate.  It was literally side by side news articles where they are each (separately) doing the same things and how vastly different the headlines were.  Like one was them both pregnant with their hand on their bumps.  Kates headline was about how lovely and protective she was of it.  Meghans headline was saying something about it being stupid and her trying to draw attention to herself.  

I’m glad they left and I’m so glad Harry stood by her.  I was shocked reading all the crap they have and are dealing with. 

DoubleUp8

really random random: We had talked at the creation of the BMB about moving to a private bump group around 6 months along. We are kind of reaching that point, so I wanted to bring it up for discussion. What do people think?

disgruntled_pelican

@DoubleUp8 - that sounds good to me


random follow up: if you recall I am interviewing for 2 positions at my university. I had an all day interview on Thursday and am waiting to hear back. The other one checked my references on Friday and sent me an email today requesting a quick phone call to give an update on the position. Am I crazy to think this may be an offer? My phone call is tomorrow afternoon and i am SO ANXIOUS! I’ll keep you all updated.

_orchid_

@disgruntled_pelican 🤞🤞🤞 good luck!

@doubleup8 I'm ready to start talking about moving. 

@klj0228 thanks. I mentioned my narcissistic mother last week and it's like I called beetlejuice. Haven't talked in 5 years but she stirred up terrible this weekend via another family member. My guess is she heard I'm pregnant and wants to punish me for cutting her off- she did something pretty similar during my pregnancy with ds2. Ugh

 I slept literally 60 minutes last night and have felt like my adrenaline's pumping all day. So grateful I don't have to deal with this every holiday anymore. 

sgrn18

@DoubleUp8 I’m ready for the private group talk too

@disgruntled_pelican omg why make you wait til tomorrow!!! Torture!! Good luck! 

@_orchid_ oh fun.  Hope the stress fades and she leaves you the heck alone. 

dogmom5

@disgruntled_pelican good luck on the job! Hopefully you hear good news.

@_orchid_ I’m sorry about the family issues. Those are never fun 

dogmom5

I forgot To add in my last post, catching up on this royal Oprah interview and I’m upset I missed it. It sounds like it was pretty good. I seriously have no time for anything 

MelissaMay82

@DoubleUp8 yes to a private group!

@disgruntled_pelican Good luck!!!

@_orchid_ ugh sorry you are dealing with mother drama.

ramzlau

@dogmom5 I was legitimately confused why one of my mom groups had a poll for team Harry/Megan with Oprah on it. I am so out of pop culture news. It sounds like it was a good one though. 

@_orchid_ Sorry for the family drama and for the loss of sleep over it! That is more frustrating than the drama. 

@disgruntled_pelican Keeping my fingers crossed for you! 

@akoros Hope work is better this week for you! Seems like it has been a crazy transition! 

@DoubleUp8 Thanks for bringing it up, I was thinking about it the other day. I am up for starting the discussion. 

We went to IKEA this weekend. I was shocked by how empty the stock was in the store. We are going to order all our big stuff and just have it shipped. It was busy at the store though. 

@everyone doing home projects, start a thread with pictures! I love home reno stuff! 

wanderlustsoul

@_orchid_, ugh I’m sorry for all that drama and I hope she retreats back to the place she came from so you don’t have to stress about it. 

@disgruntled_pelican, omg that’s so exciting! Fingers are crossed for you! 

@akoros, hope you got it out and the rest of your week is less hectic. 

@doubleup8, yep ready to get it done, especially as some will be having babies in 2 months!! My last BMB moved beginning of June (due in august) and we had 2 babies born (early) 1-2 weeks after the move 😱. 

klj0228

@_orchid_ sorry it’s made you lose sleep. I really hope you can find a way to get past the initial shock and pain so you can keep moving along like you are used to doing. Toxic parents are hard to navigate even as an adult. 

@disgruntled_pelican exciting! Keep us posted on the position update! 

@DoubleUp8 I’m ready for that discussion too, but also find it crazy we are already at this point! 

akoros

@ramzlau @AKuzReve Thank you! We got it done, just irritated at the lack of coordination which, frankly, is nothing new. Main problem this time is that most people are working remotely, yet still want a seat at the table (literally and figuratively), so they're using my boss as the agency representative at the last minute because they know he tends to physically be in the building. Not his job, but oh well. 

Maggie1202

@disgruntled_pelican Can't wait to hear about the phone call!!

@DoubleUp8 Yes to starting the discussion!

@_orchid_ so sorry about the family toxicity... it's the worst...

AFM - DH started painting the nursery this weekend and I just can't wait to see it done! He is definitely the artsy one in our family, so he's creating a night sky mural, and I'm nervous that I'm not going to love it, but also excited for him, because I know how much he wants to do this for our little guy. 

We might need to revive the nursery thread and see how much progress we have all made!

mindyb2019

@DoubleUp8 im all up for doing the private BMB group too. 

dogmom5

@Maggie1202 that’s awesome of dh! I still need to get my house in preparation for another baby. We want to remodel at some point but until then, my 3 kids are probably going to have to share a room. After I found out I was pregnant, the plans for a remodel got put on hold because the last thing I want is my house gutted and getting remodeled while preparing for a baby. 

Maggie1202

@dogmom5 I feel that so much. This is our first baby but we've been talking for awhile about remodeling our kitchen. I keep thinking "let's just do it" and DH keeps reminding me how much I will likely regret starting that project. Let's face it, once you start a kitchen remodel, it's really hard to stop mid-project...

dogmom5

@Maggie1202 exactly! We plan to gut the whole house and remodel so there is no way I could do that while planning for another baby. I’ll wait and we can make what we have work in the mean time  

disgruntled_pelican

Where would aforementioned private group be?

marebear15

I'm cool with wherever we decide to move the group to. My first BMB moved to FB and my second one just went with a private group here on the Bump and then eventually to Slack (but I wasn't active at the time). 

I love hearing about all the progress y'all are making on your nurseries. Please revive the Nursery thread and show us your hard work 👏

MelissaMay82

My first bmb did a private group and then moved to FB.

legallykate

I would definitely love to move to a private group as we get closer to our due dates. My preference would be moving to FB since my other BMB is there, and I find TB annoying and hard to access at times, but I will defer to the group. 

DoubleUp8

Private BMBs did not exist when I was last on the Bump, so I would be interested in hearing more about what that means?

My BMB went to Facebook at this time, that was a disaster as some people didn't go. Then when babies were born and others moved to FB, the early move people had invited anyone they knew IRL who was pregnant at the time. There was a defection from the large group to a smaller "members only group". This led to a feeling of haves and have nots. Then that smaller group imploded and a group of people split off. It's settled down to a group of 30 now, but it was a lot. 

I would love to hear other people's experiences because I would prefer not to repeat mine! 

akoros

wrt a private group, I don't have a strong opinion either way. The Bump is buggy for me, but I mostly get it to work, and I'm also on Facebook so I'd probably prefer either of those platforms

halfanewt

I was all prepped to be super productive yesterday at work, then my childcare called out...with 20min notice. Pretended to work in the morning, then took the afternoon off. Now I have double the things to do today, but no motivation. Whyyy? 

Re: private group - I’d rather go FB as mobile bumping makes it hard to keep up sometimes. So glitchy! 

Re: nurseries - can’t wait to see what everyone’s doing! Likely not starting ours until mid-April (spring break for me) but I want to now!