We took ours today because itโs going to be basically the only nice weather day for the next 10 days, so we took this on a whim. I want to wait to post on social until after my anatomy scan on the 6th, but I have to admit Iโm getting impatient because itโs getting hard to hide! Ugg, I just really want to make sure she looks all good on the anatomy scan! Anyone else waiting?ย
Me: 41 DH: 42 ๐ DS1- 12/2011 CP - March 2014 MMC - Sept 2014 ๐DS2 - 10/2015 ๐DS3 - 5/2017 ๐DD due June 6, 2021
Iโm planning to post something on NYE but nothing fancy, DH and I are both 9 months behind on haircuts so we are def not doing a family pic lol. Maybe a cute one of DD if she will actually sit still for a pic and some kind of message about 2021 being better than 2020. Iโll be 14+6 then and between the embryo testing, weekly hormone monitoring, NIPT, and really thorough NT scan I feel pretty good about posting.
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
I havenโt decided if I will post on social media. With DD I waited until St. Paddyโs Day because we are part Irish/have an Irish last name (I was 32 weeks at that point). Maybe I will do another St. Paddyโs Day post again.
@mamakate2011 we haven't even told our kids yet (7 and almost 4). I'll be 14 weeks tomorrow. We're going to try to wait till 20 weeks to tell the kids and then then maybe social media 24 weeks?
Iโm not planning to post on social media any time soon. I have a super cute photo of DS holding an Itโs a Girl! balloon that Iโve been sharing with friends and family.ย
History and blog link in spoiler
2016 - dx with super low ovarian reserve; failed cycle with clomid, failed IUI,ย 2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP!ย baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks May 2020 FET; BFN July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate Oct 2020 BFP!ย
I'm still debating if I want to post on social media or not. A part of me wants to announce it and a part of me wants to wait till the baby is here to say something. If I do decide to post anything it won't be till after my anatomy scan which won't be till towards the end of Jan so after im 20 weeks.ย
@mamakate2011 I'm totally waiting. I didn't even tell my family until 16 and 17 weeks. I'm FTM, high risk... sooo not ready for an announcement on soc media. I'll post a cute pick of a bump in 3rd tri if I make it that far ๐
I'm secretly excited that we haven't told anyone. We will announce at birth to our families and possibly post to social media. Our plan for now will be to FaceTime family and let them know by showing baby on camera. Those faces will be priceless.ย
These are so cute! My husband is dying to do a social media announcement. I keep putting it off ... TW
My brother and his GF have had 2 miscarriages since we both miscarried in the summer.
I just feel almost guilty that I am pregnant. We aren't close to them (they live across the country), and they know I am pregnant, but is it cruel to post something on social media?
@sugarcoateddonut that's very considerate of you. Having been on the other side, when my friend told me she almost didn't tell me she was pregnant after I miscarried, I said I would never want any of my friends/family to suppress their happiness because of me. I was extremely happy for her good news.ย If your brother and his gf already know, they've had the time to digest and feel all their feelings, I wouldn't think it's cruel to announce whenever you feel ready.
@sugarcoateddonut I agree with @wendy838 that it is very thoughtful of you to be considering their feelings, but I don't think you have to avoid announcing your happy news and I definitely don't think it is cruel to post something. Out of an abundance of caution/thoughtfulness, you could give them a heads up that you are going to be posting something so they will be prepared, but I think even that is optional.ย
*TTC History*
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
@sugarcoateddonut what I was told was to give friends/family a heads up that youโll be posting something. So they have a heads up to block/unfriend/unfollow or stay off social for a bit. ๐ youโre so considerate.ย
@wendy838@legallykate@angelz429 ย Thank you for your input! I think I will reach out to her and privately let her know we are planning to post something.
DH is such a ham, he will be so excited to post something lol!
Re: Announcement Posts
๐ DS1- 12/2011
CP - March 2014
MMC - Sept 2014
๐DS2 - 10/2015
๐DS3 - 5/2017
๐DD due June 6, 2021
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
Married: 8/10/13
BFP- 12/18/15, D&E- 4/8/16 @ 21w5d- confirmed Thanatophoric Dysplasia
BFP- 11/7/17, M/C- 11/18/17 @ 4w6d
BFP- 8/25/18 ~ EDD- 5/9/19 ~ DD born 5/2/20 *Lillian Hazel*
BFP- 10/9/20 ~ EDD- 6/21/21
2017 - egg retrieval #1 - 3 eggs, 0 embryos appropriate for transfer; ER #2 2 eggs, 0 embryos on day 3; ER #3 1 egg 0 embryos
moved to donor egg in summer 2017; 35 eggs retrieved; 19 fertilized; 9 total embryos
Fresh transfer Dec 2017= BFP!ย baby boy born 8/22/18
May 2019 - surprise natural pregnancy ended in MC
Nov 2019 FET; MC at 9 weeks
May 2020 FET; BFN
July 2020 FET; CP treated with methotrexate
Oct 2020 BFP!ย
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Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
I just feel almost guilty that I am pregnant. We aren't close to them (they live across the country), and they know I am pregnant, but is it cruel to post something on social media?
If your brother and his gf already know, they've had the time to digest and feel all their feelings, I wouldn't think it's cruel to announce whenever you feel ready.
Me: 37, MH: 38; Married August 2017
TTC #1 October 2017: BFP on 12/1/2017, DD born 7/24/2018 @ 37+1 after induction due to preeclampsia
TTC #2 January 2020: AMA, dx with DOR in May 2020
IVF July 2020: 16 eggs retrieved, 14 mature, 12 fertilized, 3 blasts, 2 PGT-A normal
FET 10/7/20: BFP on 10/12/20!!! (EDD 6/25/21); First beta 10/16/20 (9dpt): 148; Second beta 10/19/20 (12dpt): 621; Third beta 10/26/20 (19dpt): 4732; Fourth (and final!) beta 11/2/20 (26 dpt): 22,000+
ย Thank you for your input! I think I will reach out to her and privately let her know we are planning to post something.
DH is such a ham, he will be so excited to post something lol!