Hi all. I hate to be posting here, I am in belief this is happening again. I went in for my 7 week appointment yesterday to find out my pregnancy is not progressing, it stopped growing at just around 6 weeks (confirmed as I went in prior due for an early US due to cramping). I am schedule for a D&C Thursday. This is my second miscarriage this year. The first I passed naturally 3 months prior.
I guess I am seeking others experienced with D&C (recovery and overall process), and trying again. How quickly were you able to try, and conceive? I feel fortunate to have a 2 year old, but so desperately hope to grow our family. After 2 miscarriages in a row, I feel completely hopeless.
Any words of support, or shared experience would be much appreciated.
Re: Miscarriage x 2
I have had a few d&c's. Generally, I think you can try again after your first period. I can't really remember, my more recent d&c's were due to a molar pregnancy, so I had had to wait a lot longer. Recovery is usually pretty easy. You should just be crampy for a few days and have a little bleeding.
I wish you the best in your journey.
We want to try again, and will follow the Dr. orders to wait a cycle. They agreed to run testing on the tissue for abnormalities after the D&C, but I honestly don’t know what I want them to find. If there aren’t chromosomal abnormalities, than it’s my body failing the pregnancy. But if it is chromosomal abnormalities, is the quality of my eggs poor and I will inevitably have a 3rd MC?
I’m so scared.
As for the D&C, I found it to be 'easier' than the natural MC. I had almost no pain/bleeding, but was completely exhausted for several days following the procedure. However, be wary of trying to do too much, too soon once the exhaustion wears off. I did, and then I got terrible pain afterwards because of it!
TW ****LC****I have a 2 year old which was a result of an uncomplicated pregnancy/delivery. My OB believes these 2 miscarriages are a result of statistical “bad luck” since I have that history. End TW*****
I am trying to be a self advocate and push for further testing. However, I feel like it’s falling on deaf ears. They are more like pushing me to just try again since they think this was just a fluke. I just don’t know if I have the strength to suffer another loss. Although I want nothing more than to have a healthy pregnancy.
I will certainly take it easy, thank you for the advice. The natural MC was emotionally taxing and just drawn out. I pray theD&C brings closure sooner.
As for chromosomal loss, everyone is different, but my first loss was chromosomal and it hasnt been an issue.
The good/bad news is that statistically speaking, your OB is right. If you had a healthy PG that resulted in a living child, and then you've had 2 earlier MC, your chances of having a 3rd MC is still pretty low. Chances are like your OB said, you've just had VERY bad luck, hit that 'standard chance of MC' twice in a row and next time will not be an issue for you. However, there is a chance with 2 in a row that there may be an issue. But I've definitely seen WAY more people come in here 2 in a row and leave with a PG that resulted in a living child the 3rd time, whereas those who suffer a 3rd loss are relatively few. I know it's SUPER hard to hear "just try again" because you feel like people are callous and do NOT understand the tremendous emotions and physical complications that go in to 'just trying again;' like they don't care that your babies are DYING. But your chances are higher for a healthy PG next time. My pleas also fell on deaf ears until my 3rd loss in a row
Also, please keep in mind that even if you do succeed in getting testing, that an answer is not guaranteed. About 50% of us who get RPL testing never get an answer as to WHY we keep losing babies (myself included, I've had 5 MCs, no living babies, and 0 explanation as to why/what the issue may be). I do appreciate the tests ruling out any obvious solutions or issues that would be causing my babies to not survive, but it's hard to never have an explanation as you continue to lose PG after PG.
My second pregnancy is more recent. On Saturday before Thanksgiving I noticed some bleeding. I went to the Emergency room for an ultrasound and they measured the baby to be 6 weeks and 1 day and I should have been 8 weeks. I think the hospital hoped I was very early, but deep down I knew something wasn't right. I had what was suppose to be my first prenatal Wednesday, day before Thanksgiving, to find out that the baby had got smaller and no heart beat detected. I had a natural miscarriage this time because the baby was smaller this pregnancy then my first pregnancy. I was able to pass it on Thanksgiving night into Friday morning.
Just know you are not alone in this. My doctor also told me it was "bad luck" as well. We are going to try again in a couple of months.