WRW October 2020

jackie_dunny

***General TW that this thread might contain discussions mentioning MC and loss.*** 

Welcome to Waiting Room Wednesday! You can express your thoughts, feelings, and frustrations on not TTC and connect with others who are in the same boat. TTC can be a long journey, and having to wait makes it feel even longer -- even if it is for a good reason. 

I invite you to resurrect this thread at any point in the month if you have something to say. Treat this like an ongoing conversation. 
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When do you think you will start TTC? 

What brings you to WRW?

Any R/R?

GTKY: saw this on another board - I think TTGP? - see spoiler 

jackie_dunny

New month, new thread! 

When do you think you will start TTC? June/July 2021 at the latest but potentially earlier. Depending on if things get cancelled next year. 

What brings you to WRW? Always waiting. This month makes two years on this board for me 😭 original plan was to start trying this month so I’m a bit bummed. 

Any R/R? I’m so excited it’s October! This is the start of my favourite time of year! Halloween/fall, then my birthday and thanksgiving, then Christmas! Yay! 

GTKY: see spoiler 

doodleoodle

When do you think you will start TTC? As always, maybe this month but also maybe never lol

What brings you to WRW? We have always talked about having 4 children. I knew when we had #3 that I would feel like we need a #4 but that puts us into large family territory and makes me nervous 

Any R/R? Happy birthday @jackie_dunny I ageee! Best time of the year!

this definitely isn’t my place to say @jackie_dunny and of course no offense will be taken if you get upset with me but, at the risk of having no idea what I’m talking about I’m going to say... I think you and your dh should just go for it. There’s never going to be a perfect time. There will always be an unexpected bill that comes up, one last trip to take etc. 

tumbleweed-1

When do you think you will start TTC? I have no idea- we don’t have any plans yet. Probably sometime when we have more answers to all things pandemic?

What brings you to WRW? The baby fever is returning 😂 my kid is 21 months now and while I didn’t want to have the second immediately, I also worry about the age gap.

Any R/R? I would probably be seriously talking to SO about #2 if there wasn’t this pandemic. I just feel like it’s thrown a wrench in my family planning timeline. From my understanding, the recommendations are if you aren’t AMA or have any other reason not to wait, then people should wait a year. Don’t remember which medical website I read that, but one of them. 

GTKY: I’m also excited about fall, it’s my favorite 

it took me a min to remember how to do a spoiler lol

jackie_dunny

@doodleoodle my birthday isn’t for another month yet but thank you 😂 No offense taken whatsoever! I’m so on the fence with having another talk with DH. The last we decided, were going to wait until we hear news if Glastonbury is going ahead or not (which takes place end of June). It’s something both of us really want to do before having kids and definitely not something to do while pregnant. We both agreed the other things on our “to do” list were not a big deal and while we’d like to tick them off before kids, we’re happy to skip them. I imagine we’ll find out if it’s going ahead early-ish next year (maybe March or April?) so really it’s only a few months behind our original plan anyway. I’d like to think I won’t be frustrated if it gets cancelled and I “wasted” these few months but I probably will be. I’m very on the fence. Anyway enough about me - I hope you don’t mind my asking but is there anything in particular that makes you nervous about entering large family territory? If you’ve always talked about four, what’s holding you back? 

@tumbleweed-1 I feel you on the pandemic throwing a wrench in your family planning! Interesting on the medical advice saying you should wait a year. I haven’t heard anything about that. Is there a reason for that do you remember? Is it because pregnant woman are considered a higher risk, I assume? Have you talked with your SO about how he feels about TFAS?

tumbleweed-1

@jackie_dunny I think it was a bit about pregnancy putting one at slightly higher risk, and also the unknowns still about the long term effects of the virus. It was just an article/webpage something I’d read online, so who knows. Not the CDC, I don’t think. Now it’s sounding suspicious 😂 

doodleoodle

@tumbleweed-1 considering ttc during a pandemic is anxiety inducing. I agree. I feel like nobody knows anything about anything.

@jackie_dunny I’m so glad you’ve got a ttc plan in place! Stick with it, girl.
Our financial situation isn’t what it once was. DH’s company has skipped bonuses the last two years, we’ve had some medical expenses, appliances that we’ve had to replace yada yada yada. I know that in 6 months to a year we should be back to where we once were though. A somewhat childish reason is that I’m already sick of the constant comments about having my hands full. I feel like people think I’m nuts... because they tell me I am lol strangers and family alike.

jackie_dunny

@doodleoodle that’s so annoying! I guess one way to look at it is: they’re already saying it, they’re not going to stop with a fourth lol I know it’s easier said than done but F them lol 

jackie_dunny

I know there only seem to be the three of us at the moment but how do we feel about doing a weekly check-in on this thread? Just because this board is soooo stinking slow

doodleoodle

I’d love that! I feel like people probably lurk but see how slow it is so they don’t bother participating 

jackie_dunny

Should we start all new threads on Monday (or whenever) or just do like, a little check in on this thread? 

doodleoodle

New threads are more exciting lol we can take turns starting them if you don’t want all of the responsibility

jackie_dunny

Yeah I’m happy to do that! Especially so I don’t have to think of all the GTKYs 😂 would you like to start off tomorrow? 

tumbleweed-1

I’m down for weekly threads too

jackie_dunny

I just realized we should probably start on Wednesdays because you know....waiting room Wednesday 🤦🏻‍♀️😂 

doodleoodle

Great! That’ll give me a couple of days to think of a GTKY 😂

chinadoll2522

When do you think you will Start TTC? Possibilities 10/03/2020

What brings you to WRW? I joined this form in a moment of desperation. It was December and I just felt this weight on my body mind and spirit...I had to wait to have children and no one I knew at the time could understand why.

Any R/R? Hello, I know I haven't been on here in forever...I was reading back in the forms and I found a post of mine from October 2019. It just feels interesting and amazing to think that this time last year, I was devastated that my DH didn't even want to talk about TTC...and now I have moved once more and me and DH have our first apartment together, as of the 3rd we stopped using protection. This cycle I'm just trying to relax and not stress about it, see what my body does. Everything just feel very surreal right now, I know I need to be posting in the TTC forms...I just wanted to come on here and see how everyone is doing.

GTKY: saw this on another board - I think TTGP? - see spoiler

jackie_dunny

Hi @chinadoll2522 Long time, no “see”! How exciting that you and YH have decided to take the plunge! I remember all of the trouble you were going through with the decisions the two of you were making. Congrats!! Not sure how long you’ll be with us here on BOTB but welcome back! 

doodleoodle

So excited for you chinadoll! You’ve been so patient, girl! Best wishes for you ❤️