FFFC 8/21

szwill86

Anything to tell us that you DGAF about people’s responses? 🔥 

szwill86

No one? I’ll go. 

I use my at home doppler I have from my first pregnancy at least 2 times a week. Maybe more. I haven’t seen/heard this baby since my 8 wk pregnancy confirmation appointment due to my OB spacing out appointments bc of COVID, so this gives me peace of mind until my 18 wk anatomy scan (I’m currently 15+4). 

birdiejo

No judgment id use one too if I had it! @szwill86

birdiejo

I’ve spent most of my day on Instagram looking at pictures of expensive homes I could never afford and feeling like a lazy bum but also like ....it’s so rude that I don’t have 6.5 million dollars to throw at a mansion. 

babymamadimo

@szwill86 I swore I wouldn’t use mine after I couldn’t find it the first time...I now use it multiple times a week. The doctor told me it’s perfectly safe so it makes me feel better when I only have appointments every 4 weeks

animommy

I'm getting sick of family & just it being some unspoken obligation to include them on big news. My side has been one brand of drama (my mom still hasn't spoken to me & I've chosen to wash my hands of her nonsense as it's gotten worse, so no support there) & my s/o's side is another kind; be careful what you wish for. His mom's side is a different type & she now wants to be "buddies" (I've never really spoken to her other than a "hi back") & she is asking weird, invasive questions I'm not comfortable discussing especially with someone I really don't know. I'm pissed feeling like I'm only a "golden calf" to these people. They suddenly want to obsess over my pregnancy (hi, I'm here) & I don't know them. (Nosy, over-eager people I don't know make me uncomfortable. I don't want to discuss my bodily functions with her! Fortunately, his dad's side is fantastic). I really want to give them all a piece of my mind lately...Every day is becoming an exercise in willpower. 

moguippy

@animommy I highly suggest acting surprised when they ask you an invasive question and say “that’s really personal and I’d rather not discuss it” and then immediately change the subject. Kind of make them feel like they were wrong to ask it and I hope they will think twice about asking again. Some people just lose all boundaries when someone is pregnant 

WildMagelet

@animommy - I'm sorry you're going through that.  It reminds me of my best friend's family, she had all of these awesome personal, educational, and professional accomplishments going in her life and everyone was hyper-focused on "When are you getting married?" and "When are you having babies?".  It definitely made her feel under-valued as an individual person.

animommy

@moguippy love it! Yeah it was over text so it was tough to find a way to sorta brooch that. The thing I struggle with is, it's s/o's mom & he sorta loses his sense of humour sometimes & got a bit bent when I said I'd rather give the hint by not responding to it (she sends ALOT of text at once & that entire side of his family has zero boundaries). He got bent & I'm not used to having in laws so felt kinda trapped. I think point got across tho cuz I'd already answered her *general* "How are you feeling?" with "I'm fine, how are you?" (I knew where she'd take it but hoped to avoid that). Then she pressed. I said "Nonexisitant-everything is fine, really". Think she got the hint because she stopped being conversational & said "glad to hear! Text me anytime!" okay...

@WildMagelet Exactly! That's exactly what it's like. Especially given the fact I've barely interacted with them, there's so much more to potentially discuss.