How can I stop worrying?!

francescalouise

Hi ladies I had a miscarriage a yr and half ago lost baby at 6 wks found out at 12 wk.scan, im pregnant now, I went for what I thought was 6 wk viability scan on 29th july but turns out im 10.5 weeks, now 11 weeks, we saw baby on screen and heartbeat flicker. I have a NHS scan 2 wks from now but cant help worry read so much stuff online that people still lost thier babies even after seeing heartbeat, I literally can't sleep and off food because I am so scared, i read that chances are low but read so many horror stories and as i have lost one before its just something I cant stop thinking about and 2 wks from now seems forever away! Plus on scan thinking back he never told me the rate of heartbeat just saw it on screen the flicker and now im beating myself up thinking why did I not ask him what the rate was    

francescalouise

Sorry for the rant post just after some reassurance and advice x

harpseal135

francescalouise said:

Hi ladies I had a miscarriage a yr and half ago lost baby at 6 wks found out at 12 wk.scan, im pregnant now, I went for what I thought was 6 wk viability scan on 29th july but turns out im 10.5 weeks, now 11 weeks, we saw baby on screen and heartbeat flicker. I have a NHS scan 2 wks from now but cant help worry read so much stuff online that people still lost thier babies even after seeing heartbeat, I literally can't sleep and off food because I am so scared, i read that chances are low but read so many horror stories and as i have lost one before its just something I cant stop thinking about and 2 wks from now seems forever away! Plus on scan thinking back he never told me the rate of heartbeat just saw it on screen the flicker and now im beating myself up thinking why did I not ask him what the rate was    

Ok.  If there was concern about the beart rate they would have talked to you about it.  Please stay off of the internet.  Its mentally draining you.  I'm sorry about your previous loss.
At this time know that you are pregnant, you are not having any signs of a miscarriage, your scan was good and take care of yourself, your doctor had no concerns.  Yes it seems like eternity for your next round of testing, but try not to worry, if its consuming you that bad maybe talking to a counselor would be beneficial. 

capnjackharkness

If you have a MC, there is nothing you can do to stop it.  Just keep in mind that you are PG right now. You are PG this moment, this hour, this day, and you can and will love that baby as much as possible at this time.  And if you have another loss, there is nothing you could've done to avoid it, and you will know that you gave that baby as much love as you possibly could while it existed... regardless of whether that existence is 11 weeks in the womb, 15 weeks in the womb, 3 hours after birth, or 3 years after birth.  Love that baby as much as you can, and you won't have regrets. It is all that you can do (besides following any doctor's advice).  You have NO control over whether or not you will have another MC.

Don't worry about the statistics.  Most of the time they're based upon your specific circumstances anyway, and you do not want to go down that rabbit hole.

Just remember that each scan that shows normal growth/stats is another good sign and another good milepost. It's ok to feel cautious and scared, but you can't work yourself up so much that you can't sleep. Also, I HIGHLY recommend some therapy. But find a GOOD therapist that works with you and fits your situation. Trust me... it helps.

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Knottie1430080773

100% normal to be worried. I had a miscarriage in January at 7 weeks with my first pregnancy. I was shocked at how profoundly it affected me. I started seeing a therapist within a few weeks. It really helped me learn to live with the anxiety (bc truth be told it’s not going anywhere!)  I’m grateful to be pregnant again, currently 10 weeks. So far so good but I over analyze everything and am definitely anxious. Keep reminding yourself the odds are in your favor and you are almost past the first trimester!! Sending you all positive vibes! 🌈❤️