FFFC 7/31

s_montgomery

Flame Free Friday Confessions!

Can't think of a recent confession? Share a secret you've kept because you worry about being judged. We won't pass judgment here!

PinkKathryn12

FFFC: sometimes, when I am not actually feeling nauseous, just worn out I tell my husband I am so that I can get out of doing dishes. 
but in my defense, i threw up two nights this week so honestly the nausea isn't a total ruse.. haha 

manditchka24

Just found out we’re having a girl!!! And even though I say “I’m just happy test results point to healthy regardless of sex”. I really did want a girl.

jumpy57

I really really want a third girl

animommy

Every time I want to tell someone we are expecting, I chicken out for some reason. I fear I will find "reasons" to not announce and I'm not sure why. 

WildMagelet

I'm feeling a bit guilty about keeping our pregnancy a secret from close family this long. After our loss in 2017, I promised myself that a subsequent pregnancy wouldn't make it to them until after the results of our NIPT, for peace of mind. Now that it's been determined that NIPT doesn't work for this pregnancy I'm going to have to tell them anyways, and I'm not even sure I want to do more invasive tests at this point. (like CVS or AC). So if I'm I'm not going the distance for the sake of "peace of mind", what was the point in hanging on to it for so long?

cmoon3

@animommy @WildMagelet
I'm in the same boat. We haven't told anyone yet, and that's unusual for us. I'm waiting because we want to tell the kids first, and it makes me nervous to tell them when I'm still spotting. I see MFM next week, so I think we'll tell in the next few weeks if everything goes well.  I wish this stupid SCH would resolve itself.

jumpy57

I've only told immediate family and three friends (two are married so maybe that only counts as one 😂). I have one friend I really should have told already but she's states away, I'm not great on the phone and texting seems weird 🤷🏻‍♀️

animommy

Whelp...at least his side of the family knows now whether we were gonna wait to tell anyone or not (on his mother's side specifically-not sure where else to vent about this). *Apparently* his Grandmother (who is very controlling, manipulative and passive aggressive) decided *she* was going to send out a "family email" to *her* family and announce not only when we're due, where we live (which that side of the family is tres bizarre and we are really private so we hadn't provided details to all about where we are) but also what *she* decided everyone should send us (which isn't in line with what we want) and that she decided she's coming to visit here (keep in mind s/o has been estranged from her for over 15 years for a reason). There's a few reasons why that would just be disastrous. We were gonna wait til after our high risk appt on Tues to announce...
I am just dumbfounded how ridiculous I'm seeing family act over people having babies. I don't understand why people think they get to make extremely personal descisions for others especially when it should be clear where the boundaries are just because someone they know has created another human. Thanks for listening I just really needed to get that off my chest.

moguippy

@animommy OMG.. just.... what. Does she want to have her grandson and his family cut off all contact forever? Bc that’s what she’s setting herself up for. How did she find out all of that information? Also wtf on telling people what they should get you. Why would she think she needs to delegate that? And without asking you guys first. This is all just insane and if I was your H I would cut her out completely. Ain’t nobody need that toxicity in their life. Tell her she’s NOT welcome to visit and if she shows up anyway, get a restraining order. 

WildMagelet

@animommy - That's wild! My condolences. HR pregnancies are stressful enough without an extra level of family batsh!t crazy.

animommy

@moguippy @WildMagelet Hey guys! sorry for the late reply & thread necro! Been hectic here! Yea so apparently s/o's mom told her mom because according to s/o, that entire side of the family feels like they need to go "confess" everything to this woman because she's so controlling of them they have this sick dynamic. I have an education in psych & she is textbook for Narcissistic Personality Disorder. So unfortunately this is par for the course with that. S/o tried calling her & she was out so hopefully this weekend something will be said but he made it VERY clear to his mother that nothing is to be relayed to her from here on out. 
She had also made it abundantly clear *she* hoped we were having a girl (I wanted a boy-NIPT came back wish granted! haha!) but "she'd keep him anyway" if baby was a boy...this woman...He is going to make it clear she is not to come here (she lives states away anyway) so we will see how that goes. I will try to keep you updated but I just goofed my laptop out & need to send it for repair. They said it will be a long time. We may have a spare!

adorebel

@animommy congrats on your boy! We are having a boy too.